Why he can't love her....a clients view point

I talked with Mr.Drawn at great length, but he proudly stood his ground. So I just asked him to talk or ramble about whatever was on his mind about her? I explained that by doing this he will be able to free his mind and find what else is in his head that he may not have been aware of! So he agreed and this is what he said....
I recall when I first met her, I wasn't even looking for a new situation. I was in a volatile relationship and desperately trying to run from it. So I was hesitant to get to know her. She was persistent and said all the right things that made me look twice at her! I realized that she had all the qualities I needed in a woman. She was spiritual, hard working, patient with people, long hair and soft spoken. I had to pursue this at least for entertainment purposes."
We chatted on the phone from time to time and soon began spending quite a bit of time together. I guess she became my best friend. The thing that attracted me the most was her honesty. I have long felt that if someone can be open about small things, then larger issues are no different. Well, time went by and the people we once were--we were no longer. The communication left and silence moved in, with his cousin called tit for tat! I was just perplexed at the changes we went through. I guess I did not expect perfection, I just wanted the grow together and never apart. I learned that I wasn't a good mate for her either. I did not know how to forgive being lied to on so many other little things. I thought .....well just say I thought wrong. For better or worse, huh? He began to look really sadd and said he was ready to end this session. I, being his counselor, was at a loss of encouragement, but still knew I had to say something for his $125 per hour! So I simply asked him this...... "What could it take to right this situation if at all possible?" He just looked right through me and said "Next week on that one Dr. Wardy, I must ponder that deep question"! How can I tell this dude that he is really saying he checked out emotionally a long time ago?
To be continued....
I am the black Dr. Phil-Adulla-Jenkins-Wineberry Jr....aka...Ward..