holding grudges

Finally got a chance to sit down and watch a little boob tube (that is T.V. for you younger people)action. Turned to a show called High School Reunion. Its basically about the class of 1988 getN back together and doing a reality show. The ugly ducking-ling is now fine (Latino) and the head cheer leader is old and divorced and her ex-husband/class mate is there digging on the hot Latino. Not surprising she was jealous. One thing that caught my attention was the fact that one girl held a grudge with a class mate over 21 years. I was thinking, doesn't she know that when someone holds on to the past (U) are actually robbing yourself of happiness? Besides the grudgee is probably unaware of your feelings or probably doesn't even care at this point! And the ladder proved to be true.
But I can not be to hard on holding grudges, because I have been known to kinda-sorta be like that, but only since I have been older. I was told the term is now called Tit 4 Tat. That is where you twist the golden rule of the Bible and do unto others as they have done to you. I don't like being that way because I now see that life is short and I would hate for the last thing that I do --is to be mad at someone. My solution for holding grudges now is simply to keep it moving on issues that I can not change and focus more attention on the things I can make a difference with. Sure it is not always that cut and dry, but all I can do is my best. Think about this, we have two types of energies that we can use. Usually we give our best or positive energy on those people who are most important to us and the less than positive energy with people we either tolerate or think less of. Surprisingly, I find that most people tend to be much nicer to people that they work with rather than the people they live with. Now that is the beginnings of a real grudge-lol!!
They say it takes all kinds to make up the world. I just hope that we follow those wise words of the super speaker Rodney King....."Can't we all just get along?" (Don't hate on him because he is clean and sober now- I hope.....
I ain't mad at you.....Ward