Women always have a string of complaints against their male partners & especially their husbands on a range of things, from his kids to forgetting the day they first drank water together. Sure, men are borderline idiotic at times, but women can and really do get on our last good nerves.

For women who want to know which of their habits qualify as annoying, here’s a list:

1. Her habit of asking his opinion on how she looks every time she wears a new dress or while going out with him on a date. Us poor men are caught in a trap because no matter what we say, she’s not going to believe it.
2. Her habit of constantly talking and especially telling him too much about her friends, their secrets, their partners and what great couples they are. Men find this annoying because we don’t have anything to do with these secrets about her friends. We also know they talk about us to them. If a dog will bring a bone, he surely will take a bone when he leaves.....
 3. Men usually hate it when a woman refuses to give any suggestion even when asked for one, such as for ordering food or picking a tv show to watch but don’t hesitate to criticize us if something isn't right, and quick to say " I was gonna say that", but somehow never did say it until after the fact!
4. It’s very annoying when women stay quiet and deny anything’s wrong when they’re upset. They somehow expect the men to read their minds and understand what the reason behind their bad mood is. I called this passive aggressive behaviors.
5. No one likes to be compared to their partner’s ex. But women usually do this, especially when they’re excited or upset about a similar situation they may have encountered in their previous relationship. I don't think they are always aware that they even do this but it slips out sometimes.
6. Women tend to be or act suspicious about their partner’s actions. It could be for something as simple as a night out with friends or a lunch with a female colleague, but they can't tell when the janitor at work is hitting on them. Its really a form of a double standard at its worst!!!!
7. Having kids from a previous relationship is very hard when the woman is insecure or jealous of the past. A man who loves his kids won't feel you love him if you reject his kids. Even God feels that way about Jesus....
8. Women can't answer yes or no questions with a yes or no response. No need to expound.
9. If a man doesn't feel respected by his woman, why does he need her on his team. Life can disrespect him daily and he doesn't have to take care of it when it is sick. Women will get all up in a dudes face but won't say nothing to her boss at work for treating her like crap (SMH)...

*Shout to all the women who know their roles and have a happy life and loving relationships.
I am WarD....

Just shut up and let her be right.................said no man!

    I recalled some of the silly arguments that people have told me about. I personally don't think couples should ever have to argue with each other. I mean how many times do employees argue with their bosses? And for those who do fight with their bosses.......well we all know how well that turns out. Call me old school, but I believe that good old communication seasoned with love can go a lot further than using that mouth piece for bad. They say if you want to go fast--Go alone but if you want to go further--take others with you.
     Read some of the fights below and think how fortunate you are that this ain't you!

• "I basically had a temper tantrum because I burned grilled cheese sandwiches and he was trying to give me advice and be helpful. I slammed the spatula down and told him that he could do it himself and went to my room to pout!" - Beth H.
•  "Married one month, together 22 years and still fighting over who gets to pee first when we wake up together. Tried going together but too messy." - Ron F. 
•  "Who was going to get back out of bed to turn the light off. We are both stubborn so we slept all night with the light on." - Raechelle A.
•  "When I was pregnant I cried because he made tater tots for dinner and I didn't like them. Fought about it for two days." - Stephanie H.
•  "How to spend hypothetical lottery winnings." - Shannon G.
•   "One day he came home from work and I was already asleep. He went to cuddle me facing each other. I told him he was stealing my air and went to turn over. Lo and behold, we had a fight about cuddling." - Bek P.
•  "On our honeymoon we had this big discussion about whether or not penguins laid eggs. This was before smartphones and I was thinking, 'Omg, this idiot won't agree with me.'" - Karri R.
•  "What to watch on Netflix. Nightly argument." - Tess H.
•   "We argued about something that we both agreed on because we both couldn't understand each other's sentences." - Shonda W.*

 "Coat check tickets. My husband could not find them at the end of snowy night at a night club. I asked him if they were in his jeans pocket. He snapped 'Of course, I already checked there!' We took separate cabs and arrived at our home at the same time, me shivering without my coat, Paul with my coat in his hands. 'Where were the tickets?' I asked. Yep, they were in his jeans pocket." - Kierra .

Love is something that is hard to find and easy to loose, yet millions get married and divorced yearly. Just image how life would be if we all learned how to effectively communicate and know our roles in relationships.
I am WarD........

The future of the past.......

Remembering our last kiss

Pillow soft against my lips

The memory so elusive

Fading away like mist

 

The flutter of my heart beat

Underneath my collarbone

Anticipation a must

Your brown eyes shone

The moonlight caught our whispers

In the air

we softly moaned

Beneath your gentle touch

It always felt like home

 

My last kiss will last forever

Deeply treasured in my heart

I think of it whenever

I lay alone in the dark

 

-Monica Simone / Author esq

Buyer Beware of the Flim Flam Scam Man

I don't know where to start with this entry but let us just begin anyway. Recently, I was in the market for a different car (something with no car payments) that I could drive during the winter months. My plan included flipping the SUV during tax time. Well, looking at Craigslist I found a car that met my needs. I attempted to reach the seller several times with no luck. I asked my daughter to leave a message just to see and within 4 minutes, the seller responded back to her. I thought that was odd to respond to her so quickly and not my 12 attempts, but I later found out that he only sales to college students and women. Apparently, I was trying to reach this guy thru offer-up(he had the suv on several sights), which shows your photo.
Nevertheless, I corresponded to the seller from my daughters account for two days. We discussed the ins and outs of the vehicle and he assured me that the unit was road worthy and absolutely issue free. I was ready to buy and agreed to travel to Cincinnati from Indianapolis to make the purchase. Ironically, half way there, I received a text message that we have to reschedule the exchange because the car was stalling out but he could have the needed part repaired in two days. I was definitely upset that he waited until I was one hour into this drive and he sensed it. He actually agreed to meet me half way on the next trip.
I agreed and told him that I would bring someone with me (Shonda) and he was ok with that. So car seller (lets just call him Chet) finally met and Shonda and me, half way between Indianapolis and Cincinnati and he spoke strictly to her as if I wasn't there. I won't go into detail about why he was an hour and 20 minutes late. The first thing he said to us was, I only sale to college students and women because those are the people who really need a good quality car. So we walked to the SUV and quickly noticed the SUV was nothing like the ad mentioned. The tires were smoother than a baby birds backside, the strong odor of cigarette smoke almost knocked me out. He had ashes all over the dash and floor! He said the sunroof doesn't open but can be fixed for cheap. Next he said the back up camera was damaged but nobody really needs that anyway. And what about the truck being clean inside and out? He had so many bottles in the truck area (oil containers, empty anti-freeze jugs, old brakes, McDonald bags, dog food and much more. It was actually quite gross and he stood by his statement that the SUV was clean. I looked under the hood and and smelled rotten egg like smells mixed with burning motor oil. This was something very bad and also the reason he was so late arriving for the meeting. The SUV was over heating and he was trying to play me but I peeped game real quick and knew they was a no go, but I played along for GP. Chet went on to have an solution for every problem that I mentioned as he was more irritated that a man was talking to him instead of an unsuspecting woman college student. He just wanted to make this money and move on.
I feel the icing on the cake occurred when he said he didn't have the title but we should just pay him and he will get the title to us after he pays the guy off that he owes money!!!! I was like oh hecky knoll. We decided it wasn't a good fit and explained that we were about to Be OUT like Harriet Tubman was at the window! Chet said he understood and we left.
No sooner than we were down the street, Chet texted a 14 page message talking about how we wasted his #$@& time and how we was picky over damaged or non working features. He was pretty nasty with his language. It really helped me to see how anyone can place an add for something to sale and hope you are a sucker. I image that this guy has been getting over on people for years and was so upset when it didn't go well with us. I think if he had a gun he would robbed me.
Its the world that we live in. Another day another sucka.
*Update= I purchased another black Murano from a guy in town. It needed a little work and has been running great.
I am WarD..........

Ways women can destroy a marriage...............quickly

“I just can’t take it anymore!”
 Have you ever heard people say that about their marriage? If you are married (or now a days- been dating someone for double digits years), have you at some time had a similar feeling?
THOUSANDS of couples began married life in the warm glow of love—or in the heat of passion—and expected happiness to follow. “But by the time they  seek help, they have already reached the depths of despair,” in my opinion. “They have become disillusioned with their partner, with marriage, with love, and sometimes even with life.” Many of those couples have little more in common than a marriage certificate and the dwelling they share. I know we often attack the male about what he is doing wrong considering he is the head of the house, but today let us focus on 4 typical types of females that destroy relationships.  ((* The women seldom realize that this is them on purpose.))
1. A Dismissive Woman (Definition = feeling or showing that something is unworthy of consideration.)
 A dismissive woman devalues or diminishes her man's preferences, opinions or desires. Sometimes you’ll hear a dismissive woman turning the conversation back to herself, (“Yes, but what about my needs?”) or failing to really consider the desire (“That’s just not practical/realistic/happening in this lifetime.”) or even shaming the need (“Oh, for heaven’s sake, you’re not one of the children! Grow up.”).

 Why is this “bad”? When a woman unilaterally dismisses her partner’s need or preference, her husband feels rejected, unloved and unimportant. He may not say it, but he feels it. Plain and simple, it hurts. Overtime its not surprising to see the men pull further and further away from the love or the relationship all together.
Does this mean a wife should be at her husband’s beck and call, ready to fulfill every desire? Absolutely not! It does mean, though, that she genuinely cares about her partner’s feelings and wants to meet his needs when she can. Men really enjoy women that support his decisions as the family head in a loving way!!!
2. An Undependable Woman  (Definition= not trustworthy or reliable)
The first description of an excellent wife is listed at Proverbs chapter 31:11 (NWT)  "Her husband trusts her from his heart,And he lacks nothing of value."  The NIV says “Her husband has full confidence in her.” Oweee, I felt a chill run down my spine when I typed that verse!
You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that if a good wife is trustworthy, a bad wife isn’t.
If you’re considering marrying a woman whose integrity you question, let me offer you a friendly piece of advice: RUN, don't walk sucka!!!
A dependable woman can be trusted to be faithful to her man, responsible in her decisions, and wise with their children or step children. She’ll hang on with you through the tough times and hold on to you in the good. She’s honest and she’s honorable. She doesn’t withhold the truth; she upholds the truth. Even in small matter (no double talking or saying this and saying later that she meant something else!! You are not a mind reader but a person who can hear with you say. This type of woman enriches the life of everyone around her—most of all, her husband!!!!!
3. A Disrespectful Woman ( You already know this woman)

Disrespect doesn’t always come in the form of words. It can come with a look: eye rolling, a shaking head, or a deep sigh (especially when a question is asked that she doesn't want to answer). It can be an attempt to control, to mother or to demean a husband. These actions send the same message: You’re an idiot. I don’t respect you.
God gives only one command directed to wives: “ the wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33).  In healthy, life-giving marriages, wives respect their husbands and husbands love their wives. God’s plan is a win for both sides.
Are some men are easier to respect than others? That's obvious sucka. But every healthy relationship, both inside and outside of marriage—every single one—is built on the foundation of respect. Without respect relationships crumble.

4. A Discouraging Woman (causing someone to lose confidence or enthusiasm; depressing).
 
There are two relational truths many women fail to understand:
Truth 1: At the heart of every good man is the desire to please his wife.
Truth 2: It’s very challenging, at best, to stay emotionally, physically and spiritually connected to a person who consistently makes you feel discouraged… especially if that person is your wife.
This is why the discouraging wife can be so lethal to a life-giving marriage. The discouraging woman makes her man feel like he can’t do or say anything right, no matter how hard he tries. In the inner recess of her mind she’s thinks I would like him more if he… Her unspoken goal is change this sucka. She might use criticism or smerks when a reality tv show is on with someone acting like she does (not the healthy, constructive type). She may complain often. She may name call, nitpick, or try and control him by playing inch high private eye on his electronic devices. No matter how her discouragement manifests itself, the outcome is the same: Her husband usually feels worse in her presence than better. (Notice Ephesians 4:29 = Let a rotten word not come out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up as the need may be, to impart what is beneficial to the hearers)

This isn’t to say a wife can’t disagree or express disappointment. It doesn’t mean wives can’t have hard conversations. It does mean, though, that we learn the art of having hard conversations without being hard-heated.
*Please note that there are many women out here who are dearly loved by their men. Those are the one's who learn their role and encourage their men to be better with trust in the LORD and love.
I am Ward....

Ain't nobody got time for all that????

BACK in the days of Sir Stamford Raffles, the founder of the British port of Singapore, it was not unusual for him to wait a whole year for an answer to one of his dispatches to London. But that was the 19th century. Today such wonders as communications satellites allow instantaneous communication to virtually any spot on earth.
It is ironic, however, that while man can so easily communicate with someone on another continent, he is often a failure when it comes to communicating with members of his own family. Skyrocketing divorce rates bear grim testimony to this fact. Little wonder, then, that in one study of “happy” and “unhappy” couples, the researchers drew this conclusion: “The prime need in many troubled marriages is for better ways of communicating between the partners.” But how many families really commune—that is, talk intimately “with great mental or spiritual depth,” as one dictionary defines the word? Often there is little or no meeting of minds, still less of hearts. Why, though, has this breakdown come about?
The Communication Breakdown: Its Causes
Many are the factors that have worked against the quality of family life. Prior to industrialization, “work” was more or less a family operation, but now this has changed. In most parts of the world, a man must spend long hours working away from home to make a living. A sagging world economy has forced many women to do likewise. Children are thus often entrusted to paid caretakers or left to fend for themselves. Schools have taken over the entire job of educating children—a job that in times past was primarily the responsibility of parents. Technology—the same tool that has so improved communications—has at times worked to debilitate family life.
Before the days of radios, TVs, stereos, videotape recorders, and video games, family members often spent time talking with one another. But the present glut of such gadgets has all but killed the art of conversation in some families. The report of the National Institute of Mental Health (U.S.A.) entitled Television and Behavior states: “Family gatherings by the fireplace or at the dinner table now seem to have given way to gatherings in front of the television set.” Particularly disturbing was the finding that in the United States, “families spend about half their waking hours at home watching television.” And the tragic fact is that, in many families, when the TV is switched on, the family switches off; conversation sinks to a low level.
The result? Family life becomes shallow. Fellowship ebbs and family members inevitably drift apart. But for a family to be united, bound by the ties of understanding and love, there has to be communion of minds and hearts. Family members that enjoy such communication can upbuild one another to withstand the strains of a tense, troubled society. How, though, can a family cultivate such closeness? Advice abounds from many sources, but the best advice can only be found in the Bible.....
I am WarD....

Do you want a great marriage.......Read on

Relationships are like muscles. If you want them to be strong and able to with stand the pressures of life, then you have to exercise them regularly. Of course, there are no cookie cutter guides for happy marriages, but there are a few things that we can do to help get us going on a mental work out.
1}. Describe what you want to have in your marriage?  
Simply begin by seeing yourself where you want to be in your marriage. If you can't imagine it, then it presumably will not happen, its totally up to you!
2}. What would it take for him/her to be satisfied with you?
Some people look better coming, while others look better just going far-far-far away (Out by Shreks house in the forest-lol). If you find your self in endless arguments about things that younger kids wouldn't not even debate over, you may not be satisfying your mate.
3}. If your marriage were really good tomorrow, how would you know?
Could it be the things you have been asking them to do for years and now they finally heard you? Did you guys have a great time at an event? Do you really love each other????
4}. What do you want for your marriage and what are you willing to do to get there?
Consider going to the airport and asking for a ticket. The attendant will ask where would you like to go? If you don't know where you want to go, chances are pretty good that they won't know either? We ask our selves the tough questions and find the answers. Easier said than done!
5}. If Wardy were to ask you these questions....How would you answer?????
      A). What are you DOING to mess up your marriage?
      B).  How do you show your mate that you love him/her daily?
      C).  What does you mate like most about you and you like most about them?
6}. What are you needs and is your spouse aware of them? 



*A Wife tends to find her husband irresistible when he:
  1). Learns to create an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his love 4 her.
  2). Sets aside time every day just to talk to her with undivided attention and interest.
  3). Is completely honest and open with her
  4). Provides financial support for her
  5). Helps her develope a strong relationship with Jehovah God

* A Husband tends to find his wife irresistible when she:
    1). When she is submissive to him and willingly follows his headship/love what he loves!
    2). Maintains overall appearance in a way that he finds physically attractive (hair/clothes/workout.)
    3). Understand and appreciates him more than anyone else in the world #respect
    4). Manages household responsibility well (cooking-bills-decorating-frugal with funds)
    5). She allows the mind of  Christ to mold her in a beautiful woman (Proverbs Chapter 31)

We face two life choices: A). Move  or B). Be moved!

I am WarD........