I can't sit down long enough to do this.....

Sitting up late one night I had an epiphany! I realized that repetition is the key to ultimate success. Now before you go thinking I am crazy, please read on 1st,suckers!!!! Think about it like this, when we first take on a task of learning something new, doesn’t it seem boring and uninteresting? Take for example,learning how to speak a foreign language. We have to really think about remembering what letters and sounds add up to. We must slow down and take our time -thus adding to our frustrations on the issue. Heck we live in the microwave society,where getting our Hot Pockets headed up in 22 seconds is not quite fast enough -considering we didn’t have the microwave several years back! Any who, with patience, practice and dedication we start to learn that language and soon something ironic takes place. Our words starts 2 match our minds eye, and we are flowing and getting down with the best of them at the flea market-lol! Before long, this language becomes not only easy but actually fun because we are no longer fighting it but embracing it and allowing our excuses to become stepping stones to mastery. I watched my daughter hate math, but soon get straight A’s in advanced math!!! How did she do it you ask? Well, she started spending more time, thinking about it, not talking about the usual things such as “When am I ever gonna use this” or “why do I have to complete so many of these hard problems”. I was both proud of her and amazed at the simplicity of the lesson she unknowly taught her old man. She showed me even though things are difficult on the onset, consistency will reap benefits if we do not tire out from boredom. In fact, there are many individuals who can’t handle repetition or boredom and they give up and miss out on a life style that never could have imagined. Look at Michael Jordan, he wasnt the best player in High School, because he got cut from the team his Junior year. He wasn’t even the best player in college; he was the 3rd or 4th option to shoot the dang ball. What he did do was, master the basics of shooting correcting (he developed a beautiful jump shot), he grasped the importance or lay up, running and conditioning his body. The result form his hard work was 6 NBA championships, multiple MVP awards and millions of $$$$! But we complain about having to learn Spanish from Rosetta stone… Really people?? Repetition is a bugga wolf to get over but once we do, we can go from crawling to sprinting----from baby talking to singing like Whitney Houston (before the Crack of course). You get me point. I challenge you to quit wasting time and start to use the beautiful mind Jehovah has given you and make it dew what it can do baby….. I am Ward…..

Living/Working with the Enemy.....

How many times must you put up with someone who obviously enjoys the art of yelling and screaming every time they come on the scene? Perhaps it is a learned talent that has been perfected over the years, but you still find it a tad bit hard pill to swallow. See eye recently ran across some timely information that eye am sure is gonna help me but if you are not careful, it just may help you also! Peep game, I like things in my home to be neat and orderly. It just feels better to me that way, ya know peaceful like a breath of fresh air, but my kids at times seemed to have no problems with jacking up my fungschwayyyy. They would come home and drop book bags, shoes, jackets and anything else they had----right smack dabb in the middle of the room. Oh it didn't stop there! They would immediately run for that much "needed" after school snack. (I guess they were starved at school or something). I am talking about crumbs everywhere like they had just left the site after the free concert at the black expo!! I didn't make anything no better by throwing a tizzie fit and talking to myself out loud about how nasty the place was looking. This tool wasn't bringing out the best in my kids because it was actually reinforcing the worst in them. I was helping them to think that they were slobs and its just the way it’s going to have to be. Now I am more aware of self and teaching skills from listening to others complain about cussing spouses, mean bosses and ignorant co-workers I decided to try out and write about the Pygmalion power technique. Here is an example..... Linda had been married to Carl 4 several years. Carl had a terrible temper and could out cuss the best dock worker on any given Sunday! Carl was one of those people to whom home is where you go when you're tired of being nice to people of the world. As soon as that sucka walks in the door of his home, he would unload his frustrations about work on Linda. Heck, Linda honestly thought about lurching on her relationship but decided to stay with this work in progress. She decided she would have to change her own behavior in order to change the situation. That evening when Carl walked in the door and began his normal routine of cussing and fussing, Linda raised "HER" voice loud enough for Carl 2 hear her and she said "Carl that not like you (even though it was-lol)You know you would never want to upset the family intentionally!!!". Carl was caught off guard and just left feeling confused. Oh you know he didn't change overnight, because he kept at it for 3 weeks straight and each time Linda did her same action to his. Then after the 3rd week that sucka came home and before she could jump him with her thing, he put his hand up as a sign of forgiveness and asked her about her day. She laughed and he laughed and they never experienced that negative outburst again.... My good friend Dana helped me to realize that this is not always the easiest thing to put N 2 practice when someone is acting like a jerk. you have to spend some time mentally rehearsing it before you're able to talk this way with ease-right? You may have to force ur self to hope that they will eventually change, when it doesn't even look like it can happen. Trust me...hard work pays off!!

Now with that being said, you already know what I am doing with my kids- don't you. I am going for clean rooms and good attitudes. Heck, this might even work for me at my job.... I am Ward....

Always a bit of over Sale in every relationship

Many times before have I heard that someone was tricked by their mate when the first entered into their relationship. Perhaps the woman no longer cooks for her man, or the maybe the dude no longer courts his old lady. Does that mean that they both were lied to? I guess it really depends on how you look at. Perhaps the aforementioned woman used to cook them home cooked meals for her dude because he made her feel special and she wanted to return the favor by doing something she could was good at that he would hopefully appreciate. What about the man, did he feel his woman was no longer worth sending flowers to anymore or sitting and talking 4 hours about nothing? Or could it be that both of the people in question have forgotten that wonderful feelings they once had. I personally like to think of it as being a little bit of over Sale in every relationship. What I mean by that is, that as imperfect humans we tend to put our best foot 4ward,right? We always prefer others to see us as close to perfection as possible. Who wants to be seen as someone who is extra jealous, a bad money manager, unhappy with their job or some other hidden weaknesses. The ironic thing about relationships is that eventually all that we are trying to cover up usually comes out at some point doesn't it? The next phase is when we expect the significant other in our lives to over look the fact that we omitted sharing initially.
Take my often mentioned guy "Mike". He has been living his with lady for the last 9.5 years and they have weekly arguments about something he 4 got to mention when they first met. See Mike was in a bad relationship when he met (Angie) and he was leaving that situation anyway. After 3 weeks of getting to know Angie he decided he was officially leaving the other woman (he only dated her for 3 months and wasn't feeling it) and he did and moved forward with Angie and never looked back. Well Angie found out about the other woman a year later and says to this day that Mike was cheating on her and is untrustable????
Angie thinks Mike lies to her about every thing because of that. He has tried telling her that he was getting to know her and that he was sorry, but she ain't hearing it. My point you wonder. Mike didn't tell Angie up front that he had someone, but he expects her to understand or at least forgive him after all these years. In all reality this relationship is toxic now and has a good chance of turning out bad. Anywho, back to my point of the blog. Over sale is everywhere if we open our eyes. Have you ever started a job to find out that all they told you was on partially true, but 100% of the things they didn't tell you is all true-lol! And my favorite, is the weight loss commercials, the fine print says results not typical, but they show the super thin and in-shape models that we could be like if we try their products! Again, its not what they are saying that we must learn to understand, rather its what they are not saying!!!! Heck I still remember when this dude I thought was cool, he asked me to loan him $20.06 to get his heart medz cuz he forgot his wallet. What he didn't say was he was a well established crack head. Yeah he got Wardy, but now I know-right? I recently encountered a mother who asked her daughter for some money until she got paid and told her she would double the money back on a certain day? We all know what that move was, don't we. Long story short, that money still hasn't returned and probably never will....SMH!
What I am trying to do now is learn to be more understanding with others because no one wants to be called out on our bull shiggadee in 2012. Well,I gotta end this blog now because, I just saw an ad on TV for a free Ipad 2 if I just give them my email!!! I am so excited.....or is this just another sad case of over sale?
I am Ward

Why is it so hard 2 gett over your crazy EX????

The question of the week. Well here is your answer, it is soooo hard for you to get over your ex because you are too caught up in the past and “what used to be”. It’s just that simple, right?

Of course not silly person, relationships are never that easy. At least you realized that it’s hard for you to get over him/her, that’s the first step. Now say “My name is (insert name) and I’m a exaholic”, hahahhaa just kidding.

At this point you need to forget all good times because if that’s all you remember, that’s all you’re gonna want. Remembering your first date and what you two did on on that Cedar point trip or the first meeting at the Dairy Queen is not gonna help your situation. You have to cut off all ties meaning no calls, no texts, no hookups and do not, I repeat do not keep any of his/her belongings. Never go and try to get your belongings back. That can only cause trouble, either an argument or a hook up and at that point it’s like choosing between getting beat up or shot. No good outcome possible. Next , just hang out with your friends and move on. Go to the hall and have some you time then when you are ready and try to meet someone new, actually meet a couple new people but stay in groups to prevent bad thangs from happening.

If this person ever pops up in your life again, just remember all the bad times; that will definitely buy you a ticket on the plane to getting over your ex, first class to be exact. Lastly, remember that this person was once your best friend, was always there, and knows everything about you soooo of course getting over him/her is hard but not impossible. Other wise you can always stay with your ex and hope that the old saying of doing the same old thing and expecting something different to happen is LUDICROUS- Never mind its true, just make a move and be prepared for what may come....
I am Ward

Win thru your actions...never by arguments.....

Winning thru your actions is always the preferred act of control, at least from a logical stand point. When it comes to relationships there are few things that can sink it faster than the age of “Ultimatum”, don’t act like I am the only person who was ever given one either. I think the most common ultimatum is marry me or we can be friends with benefits no more. Really, it’s a form of control when you think about it. Peep game, the person who is doing the action/s that seems to cause the other half of the relationship so much stress, is cool with doing it their way. ITS YOU SUCKA, who has issues or want a change.
The question now, is why are you flipping the script now? Next, since you are obviously fed up with the case, you have to force the hand of the other person, and of course try to take away what you feel will hurt them most. DA SEX! I guess people who employ this tactic don’t realize that the other person you are trying fix/change will just find another source to fill the void, then you will get mad and end up looking STUUUPIDDDD…. ( not a good look by the way pimp N)
How about this simple solution. If you want to make your point, try not to forecast your future actions. For example, when you decide you are going to leave your hated job, do you run and tell your boss that you are looking for a job TODAY and as soon as your prayers are answered you are outta this peace? I think not, so why you gotta sell all them wolf tickets about what you are gonna do 2 your mate. Just let your actions speak and they will get the point when they get the point, Get my point sucker? I know that is a lot to swallow, but it true.
I am Ward….

Darn expen$$$$ive state fair

I went to the fair today and dang near went in debt. I had to pay $1 a head to ride the freaking tractor around the park, it use to be free. Oh it cost $10 per person to enter, but I got free tickets at the last minute as I was walking to the gate. I had to pay $5 to park, but I found a spot on the street and walked back 50 blocks! $3 for sweet tea---nope I went to McDonalds for a buck suckers. I rode rides and didn't show tickets twice and got over. Looks like I didn't do to bad after all, but it required to much brain juice to get over on the man getting over on the people......
I am Ward....

Making lemons outta lemonaide

I had a great weekend despite the obstacles that were thrown at me. I am learning to do what is right when I feeling like doing what is wrong. I wont lie, turning the other cheek is hard, but the results are well worth the effort.
I am Ward