Living/Working with the Enemy.....

How many times must you put up with someone who obviously enjoys the art of yelling and screaming every time they come on the scene? Perhaps it is a learned talent that has been perfected over the years, but you still find it a tad bit hard pill to swallow. See eye recently ran across some timely information that eye am sure is gonna help me but if you are not careful, it just may help you also! Peep game, I like things in my home to be neat and orderly. It just feels better to me that way, ya know peaceful like a breath of fresh air, but my kids at times seemed to have no problems with jacking up my fungschwayyyy. They would come home and drop book bags, shoes, jackets and anything else they had----right smack dabb in the middle of the room. Oh it didn't stop there! They would immediately run for that much "needed" after school snack. (I guess they were starved at school or something). I am talking about crumbs everywhere like they had just left the site after the free concert at the black expo!! I didn't make anything no better by throwing a tizzie fit and talking to myself out loud about how nasty the place was looking. This tool wasn't bringing out the best in my kids because it was actually reinforcing the worst in them. I was helping them to think that they were slobs and its just the way it’s going to have to be. Now I am more aware of self and teaching skills from listening to others complain about cussing spouses, mean bosses and ignorant co-workers I decided to try out and write about the Pygmalion power technique. Here is an example..... Linda had been married to Carl 4 several years. Carl had a terrible temper and could out cuss the best dock worker on any given Sunday! Carl was one of those people to whom home is where you go when you're tired of being nice to people of the world. As soon as that sucka walks in the door of his home, he would unload his frustrations about work on Linda. Heck, Linda honestly thought about lurching on her relationship but decided to stay with this work in progress. She decided she would have to change her own behavior in order to change the situation. That evening when Carl walked in the door and began his normal routine of cussing and fussing, Linda raised "HER" voice loud enough for Carl 2 hear her and she said "Carl that not like you (even though it was-lol)You know you would never want to upset the family intentionally!!!". Carl was caught off guard and just left feeling confused. Oh you know he didn't change overnight, because he kept at it for 3 weeks straight and each time Linda did her same action to his. Then after the 3rd week that sucka came home and before she could jump him with her thing, he put his hand up as a sign of forgiveness and asked her about her day. She laughed and he laughed and they never experienced that negative outburst again.... My good friend Dana helped me to realize that this is not always the easiest thing to put N 2 practice when someone is acting like a jerk. you have to spend some time mentally rehearsing it before you're able to talk this way with ease-right? You may have to force ur self to hope that they will eventually change, when it doesn't even look like it can happen. Trust me...hard work pays off!!

Now with that being said, you already know what I am doing with my kids- don't you. I am going for clean rooms and good attitudes. Heck, this might even work for me at my job.... I am Ward....