What does Respect mean 2 you?

Does it hurt your feelings when someone yells at you? Do you get upset if no one wants to hear your point of view on the current topic at hand? What if your friends just walk in your home and start to eat all of your food in your refrigerator with out asking? Hummm, yes respect means many things to many people, but it has no stronger meaning to the individual that is being touched by it at the moment.
Case N point! Jesus was quoted in the Scriptures at John 13:34 as speaking on washing the disciples feet! (You can read it for your self..) The point he was making is that no one is greater than the next person in all aspects of life. With that being said let me bring the blog full circle.
Real Talk: It has often been said that people tend to hurt the people closest to us. Perhaps it is due to the familiarity or lack of respect. I am sure most of us have those times when we can tell a loved one something that they don't really want to hear such as "You look terrible in that dress or those shoes are looking really shabby on your feet". Immediately the person goes on the defense about your words. Let us just assume that you meant no harm other than speaking the truth from your perspective. Now you both are upset and second guessing what could have been done differently. But wait, along comes an out sider who says the exact same things you just said and the loved one accepts it with a smile and a chuckle as they go and remedy the situation just as the outsider suggested!!!! Don't that just make you want to bust a vein in your pinky toe?
Referring back to Jesus example of washing feet! He again helped me to see that if I respect everyone as much as Jesus respected others and their views, my arguing time would obviously non-existent. True he is perfect, but his example is attainable. This is application for Wardy to do: The next time I am caught in the paradox of the double standard matrix, I am gonna remain calm and do what Jesus did and just be cool and lead by example. Now if I fail, at least I know I tried. Ya heard ya boi.
Eye am Ward.......

Da octo mom

Nadya Suleman is a 33 year old Angielee wanna be. I get that! Look at the pictures to the left. I guess the majority of people do not want to look thin like super models and sexy like someone on t.v.??? Really it is common for people to want to look like their worldly idle. In fact, one day I was trying to enjoy a meal at Golden Corral when the Elvis impersonator (It may have been the real dude for all I know) gets up and starts to sing love me tender. Hummm, need I say more. Anyway, the octo mom has been getting madd attention lately for having all those kids. She can't go to the gas station with out hearing people scream "Its our tax money" and other obscene words. I heard them on the news this mourning talking about how does she afford to get her nails done while on welfare?
This is my thoughts on the matter. It is her life and she can live it anyway she wants to. The eventuality is between her and her God. I find it ironic that she gets all this media and public attention, but the big 3 auto makers are going bankrupt for mismanaging funds. Also, the banking industry of America is in shambles for the exact same reason. 700 billion dollars later, they get another swing at the money ball. Which of these 3 situations carries the most weight? Judging from t.v., looking from the outside, I was say that Nadya is the worst, but in reality where I live at......I recall my grandmother having 16 kids and all her sisters did too. It wasn't an issue back in the days, so why is it an issue now? Food 4 thought.
I gotta go see what they saying about ole girl on t.v. now. I will holla back...

WarD...

Why he can't love her....a clients view point

I talked with Mr.Drawn at great length, but he proudly stood his ground. So I just asked him to talk or ramble about whatever was on his mind about her? I explained that by doing this he will be able to free his mind and find what else is in his head that he may not have been aware of! So he agreed and this is what he said....
I recall when I first met her, I wasn't even looking for a new situation. I was in a volatile relationship and desperately trying to run from it. So I was hesitant to get to know her. She was persistent and said all the right things that made me look twice at her! I realized that she had all the qualities I needed in a woman. She was spiritual, hard working, patient with people, long hair and soft spoken. I had to pursue this at least for entertainment purposes."
We chatted on the phone from time to time and soon began spending quite a bit of time together. I guess she became my best friend. The thing that attracted me the most was her honesty. I have long felt that if someone can be open about small things, then larger issues are no different. Well, time went by and the people we once were--we were no longer. The communication left and silence moved in, with his cousin called tit for tat! I was just perplexed at the changes we went through. I guess I did not expect perfection, I just wanted the grow together and never apart. I learned that I wasn't a good mate for her either. I did not know how to forgive being lied to on so many other little things. I thought .....well just say I thought wrong. For better or worse, huh? He began to look really sadd and said he was ready to end this session. I, being his counselor, was at a loss of encouragement, but still knew I had to say something for his $125 per hour! So I simply asked him this...... "What could it take to right this situation if at all possible?" He just looked right through me and said "Next week on that one Dr. Wardy, I must ponder that deep question"! How can I tell this dude that he is really saying he checked out emotionally a long time ago?
To be continued....
I am the black Dr. Phil-Adulla-Jenkins-Wineberry Jr....aka...Ward..

Da fight

O.k. I am sure everyone has heard at least a million times about the Chris Brown and Rhianna fight. I heard certain radio stations say they are suspending playing Chris Brown's music and people even like Tom Joyner saying things like he hope's that his career is over to teach him and other people well deserved lessons.
Well this alleged crime is really unfortunate for all involved and especially all the people all up in this young couple's business. I think they are both 21 years young. Of course, I do not agree with people hitting each other, but I also think that some attention needs to be given to the solutions of domestic abuse situations. I am sure that when it is all said and done, we will see that she is the one who actually threw the first blows. I am a firm believer in men not hitting women, but also women not hitting men. Further more since these situations are common, how come we don't have mandatory classes in High School about this. I guess that might be tooo much like prevention. Back to the issue, R.Kelly went through a rough patch and he was quickly accepted back by the public. I am sure Chris will be too. The world loves its stars. When you are in the spot light, everything you do is on a larger scale. I know many couples are out there fighting. So my advice is to be proactive rather than re-active!

holding grudges

Finally got a chance to sit down and watch a little boob tube (that is T.V. for you younger people)action. Turned to a show called High School Reunion. Its basically about the class of 1988 getN back together and doing a reality show. The ugly ducking-ling is now fine (Latino) and the head cheer leader is old and divorced and her ex-husband/class mate is there digging on the hot Latino. Not surprising she was jealous. One thing that caught my attention was the fact that one girl held a grudge with a class mate over 21 years. I was thinking, doesn't she know that when someone holds on to the past (U) are actually robbing yourself of happiness? Besides the grudgee is probably unaware of your feelings or probably doesn't even care at this point! And the ladder proved to be true.
But I can not be to hard on holding grudges, because I have been known to kinda-sorta be like that, but only since I have been older. I was told the term is now called Tit 4 Tat. That is where you twist the golden rule of the Bible and do unto others as they have done to you. I don't like being that way because I now see that life is short and I would hate for the last thing that I do --is to be mad at someone. My solution for holding grudges now is simply to keep it moving on issues that I can not change and focus more attention on the things I can make a difference with. Sure it is not always that cut and dry, but all I can do is my best. Think about this, we have two types of energies that we can use. Usually we give our best or positive energy on those people who are most important to us and the less than positive energy with people we either tolerate or think less of. Surprisingly, I find that most people tend to be much nicer to people that they work with rather than the people they live with. Now that is the beginnings of a real grudge-lol!!
They say it takes all kinds to make up the world. I just hope that we follow those wise words of the super speaker Rodney King....."Can't we all just get along?" (Don't hate on him because he is clean and sober now- I hope.....
I ain't mad at you.....Ward

Is my decesion the best decesion

Well let me start by saying how much I enjoyed the 2009 Chicago car show! I saw some of the tightest rides on the road up there. The difference between the Indy car show vs. Chicago is comparable to apples and bricks-lol! I think I am going back next year.
Anyway, found the Baxter YMCA and was suprised at how big and friendly it was. The shocker came when I found out that they have not one basketball gym, but two HUGE areas, and it was me and this other guy starring each other down. Needless to say I had to destroy his hopes of ever making it to the Special Olympics. People, it had to be done!
Now on to my thoughts 4 today! I was thinking about what other people feel and would I make the same choices that others have made and will make if the world was upsyde down. Check it, my nephew is ready to get his own spot. I think he is ready, but I am sure he has to be concerned about the unknown. I mean we are in a recession and he has signed a year lease to do the dang thang. He is only 19 but now-a-days that's the new 29, so I am sure he will learn if nothing else. Go get em bombaquat!

I have a friend who has a teenage son who has taken her through the ringer and then some. It make me think about the cycle of repetition. You know how some people have kids at 16 and then their kids have a baby young and so on down the line. How does the cycle stop. I think communication and determination have got to make an appearance. Talk to your kids and give them tough love, trust me-they will thank you later!

Finally, I have been thinking about going to Hollywood. If not to stay, just to go out there and do my stand up one time, one day-- my way. I mean I have some time for now and I got jokes on my mind and my mind on being funny. Ya know sometimes, You just gotta walk out on skills, faith and confidence. Is my decesion the best decesion, I don't know. But I do know that if I don't take this chance, I may be missing my calling.
I am Ward...wanna hear a joke?

2009 Chicago car show

I see I must get my get my car game hustle up. See what I saw from my digital camera's I!
Wardy