She got all the questions, but I got all the answers.......

Today I asked my friend if she could make the decision of her being a man or a woman, which she would choose. I admit, eye was thinking the obvious answer would be to say "being a man"! Who wouldn't want to be a man!!! No cycles to deal with, not ever getting pregnant (unless you that one crazy dude that had a sex change) nobody knowing how big your boobs are, not getting shafting at the car dealers, o.k. with getting our hair wet, not crying, not getting emotional, phone conversations over in 30 seconds or less, shorter bathroom lines, can pack for a week in one small suit case, keep your last name, don't look thru yo man's pants or receipts,can get dressed in 10 minutes and same work more money? Whhheeeewww, sorry I got caught up-lol

Anyway back to my hommie, do you know she missed the obvious and choose being a woman!!! I bout feel off my chair! Talking about women has advantages that men don't have. I had to actually think about that for a minute? Could she really be telling the truth? Is it really all that being a female? Naaaah, I just can't see it my nizzle! So I did some research on what advantage women over men and surprisingly I found out this: Life expectancy is longer, don't sweat as much, don't go bald, ok to be small, love to dance in public, know how to look without staring, don't grow hair in strange places and can blame man if you get pregnant. Humm, I never thought about it like that, but I still wouldn't trade places lol! Heck, the title of this here blog says: She got all the questions, but I got all the answers for a reason. See its well-known fact that women use more words than men, because they always trying to catch a brother slipping by playing inch high private eye! "Where you been, who was all there, what time did you leave to get there, did you see any cute chicks". All the brother gotta do is say, I had a terrible time or it wasn't me, but keep in mind, the woman thinks she smarter and will make mental notes that can and (((will))) be used against you in a future argument lol! Before I end this blog eye must drop this free advice 2 the women: stop talking so darn much already and men get smarter and spend time with your lady and talk her to death before she start bugging ya with all her questions.

I am Ward.......

    

So you took your cheater back and you feeling stoooopid now!

Some people believe that if you truly love a person you would never cheat on them. I disagree, because that belief dictates that emotion is what drives people to cheat or remain faithful. In reality, there is far more logic involved in(((( not)))) cheating than emotion. I know, everybody tells me I am to logical, but I can only be me-right? I think we can all agree that Love is an emotion. Given the large number of people that cheat on their loved ones each and every day of the week, it is klearly not enough to stop people from cheating. That’s where logic comes into play. Love might keep you in a relationship, but it’s logic that keeps you from straying, especially when you believe you won’t get caught! Someone told me recently that men are as faithful as their options. This is only somewhat tru. Most men have options. Honestly, being in a relationship might increase a man’s options considering there are a certain group of women that like to go after committed men – but that’s another blog for another day. *Not all women who date married men are bad people, I think they understand the situation and are willing to ride out for the love they feel, as married women do for their side piece.
Most unfaithful men aren’t seeking out an additional relationship. In fact, most men aren’t even looking to replace or give up the relationship they already have. Unfaithful men are generally only seeking to satisfy physical needs. There is a smaller group of men who are looking for a woman to satisfy something they’re not getting at home – usually something ego based – but even these men are rarely looking to leave the woman they’re with. I like to call this 1 unhappily happy in life. Maybe its something that just happens and the other woman likes you because you fit her needs and she doesn't want anything more at that moment.
In 9 out of 10 cases, men aren’t looking to replace the woman they already have. The exception would be if he meets another woman that clearly supersedes the woman he is already with. This is rare for a few reasons: 1) if you’re already in a relationship, it’s difficult to get to know another woman beyond the physical; 2) the woman he is already with has a head start because he’s familiar with her in his life; and 3) the only thing more amazing than how long some women will stay with an unfaithful man is how long a side-woman is willing to remain in the side-woman role. Love is a powerful thang!
So the question is should you take them back? Well if you did, chances are: you already know what to expect and the only one who is gonna be surprised either way is ""YOU"". I been on both sides of this fence and all I can say is be honest and play ur role, what ever that is!

I am WARd.......

Future single women and the men they drive away.............

Every man has his own list of what feels disrespectful and respectful to him.  Some things are almost universally one way or the other to almost all men.  Some things are particular to your dude.  So – what matters most is what is respectful and disrespectful to YOUR man. That’s why it is important to ask him about his preferences and what bothers him and what speaks respect to him.  When things are not tense – you could ask him about some of the things on yo' list and get his take on the different items.  I wouldn’t ask him about all of them at once – but maybe ask about a few at a time every few days or so and REALLY pay attention to his answers.  Maybe print them out and check the ones that bother him so that you don’t forget. 
It seems to me that when couples begin their relationships: the men usually starts out thinking how much he loves this new woman he has found and hopes she never EVER- EVER changes (sadly she changes!!!!) The women generally enters the relationship thinking the man who she has "allowed" to find her is almost perfect (after she makes a few major changes to him). Nevertheless, society is often telling saying how the man is suppose make his woman happy because if MAMA ain't happy, nobody in the house is gonna be happy! KLEARLY, I don't subscribe to that school of thought, because I believe the man is the head of the house and has the responsibility to make good decisions for the family or answer to God! (1Timothy 5:8)
O.k., let's just name a few things that women do to make their dude feels less than loved or have him considering seriously leaving yall dusty butt!

• asking him to do something, then doing it ya dang self before he has a chance
• lack of attention/appreciation (saying things that don't make sense or really considered)
• too much help (We are not helpless)
• criticism
• interruptions (Let the brutha finish a sentence)
• not really listening (He has to routinely repeat him self several times)
• second guessing/lack of confidence
• being too busy to spend time with him – texting, computer,on the phone
• complaining (work, traffic, ex's,life and customer service)
• speaking negatively of him 
• scowling (twisted kiki shepard faces)
• body language – arms crossed, a look of condemnation
• answering for him (he is a grown Man)
• telling him what to do (Why didn't you do this or that sucka)
• lying then saying that is not what you meant its just what you said and expect men to know the difference??????

Someone asked me why men cheat? I think at the end of the day, men just want a happy home with a solider on his team, but due to imperfections of human kind, it doesn't all ways happen. But after time, men just get tired of having to fight the world of work, racism, injustice and life in general- to have a so called partner on his team finishing off what the rest of the other forces couldn't finish. Then along comes someone who listens to him, has things in common with him, sings songs with him, talks to him for hours about nothing and gets to know him. Then you (his Woman) are like how did this happen??? Wouldn't it be nice if the woman could be a support partner like the Bible out lined. I know women will say, but what about men treating the women like a queen and supporting her and making her feel special??? I agree with that, but my point is this: For women, treat your man how he wants to be treated and do your part and let God finish the rest. If you ain't married to this sucka then walk away if you are unhappy. Men if she ain't the one, do yourself a favor and get what you want now because as we know.....women are krazy and Men ain't make em dat way....

 I am Ward.....

If you want an amazing lover, they won’t come to you so easy,


If your lover was easy, they would not be amazing.

If your lover is worth it, you would not give up so easy,

If you gave up on your lover, you are not worthy.

It boils down to diss, everybody (and eye do mean all) is going to get hurt by love!!

You just have to find the right person who is worth suffering 4! Ya digggg???



I AM WaRd………..

Oweeeee & maybe--Excitement!!!---The let down--- faces of being a passenger or am I just a Indiana Pacer fan.....

Oweeeee & maybe-- Sudden Excitement!!!---The sad let down--- faces of being a passenger or am I just a Indiana Pacer fan.....

I am Ward.....

Fun thangz to do while in the A-T-L !!!!!

I am Ward

Learning to love my brother from a distance.....

I find that the more I study and do research, the more I find that it is more than I need and want to know, if that makes sense? At the moment I am reading several great reads that have given me so much insight into this blue marble they we call Earth, that sometimes I forget that my fellow brothers don't always share my zeal for the truth.
I find that when it comes to self improvement, many people want instant results with out putting in the normal required time as is customary. I saw on television just  the other day, a plan for a 10 minute a day work out. I can't even finish my lunch in freaking 10 minutes, so how somebody gonna get rid of fat in 10 min? Cmon son? The cold hard truth is this: In order to successfully loose weight, one must change his diet, include moderate exercise and and think positive for starters. There are no loop holes in the race for life people.
I also had encountered another conversation that made me chuckle! It was indicated to that God is cool with Christians playing the power-ball. Again, I say: There are no loop holes in the race of life suckers. Let's think about this point. God says keep your eye simple or be modest in everything. Does it really make sense to think God wants you to have 300 million dollars,even if you do feel you can do good for others from your perspective. I think not! If we living in the last days, could that possibly mean in his own time God will solve man kinds problems and not some hopefully- lucky gambler who may or may not use the money for 100% good. Somehow, I see that winner of  $$$ getting a really big house, cars, trips and who knows what else. Would God do that? That's just one reason why gambling is wrong.......HUMAN GREED! Also, most winners of the lottery go broke faster than an ex NBA baller. Sure some may say, its just 2 dollars here and there so who cares? I understand their position, but didn't the same God who told Adam and Eve to "not" eat from that tree in the garden of Eden? Was that just a matter of interpenetration too?
Anywho, I was just thinking that I am going to despise the free meals or short cuts of life in order to feel good about trying to do the right thing. As I try to fix my past broken wings and learn to fly high, I am learning to love my brother from a distance.......

I am Ward.....