I think my boi is about to be single......

I tried to reach out 2 my homeboy the other day but since I got a new work phone and got rid of my personal phone, let's just say I couldn't transfer any of the old numbers. But thanks to Facebook, I have been able to find people and eventually holla at them. Well, I found my Friend (Hillbert) and asked his wife ask she has been and what's been up with her and him over the years. I was surprised and speechless at what she responded with. Below are her actual words. All I can say is that I like "NOT" having guy roommates-ya feelz me????...............................................................................................................................................................................SHE SAID To tell u the truth Ward, nothing much is up. Your boy still hasn't become a man and is working a minimum wage job at Bed Bath and Beyond even though he has a college degree. I guess the real world is too stressful for him. I pay the mortgage on the house and have been since we moved here, even though b4 we purchased I told him I couldn't afford to on my own. As my stress has gone up my health has gone done. Now i take high blood pressure medication. His car has been impounded as a result of tickets since August of 2011...yep...I said August of 2011. So guess who drives his grown ass to and from work...I do that as well. I have asked him to leave numerous times and probably tell him every day I don't want him here...but he won't leave. Hoping maybe u are trying to get in touch with him so he can move to Indy...although you'll have to come pick him up. This is not quite the life i imagined...but the saying is soo true- people do NOT change! Maybe Herb can find a new woman to live off of..once he moves to Indy. If u want to call him to make plans to come get him..our home phone number is xxx-xxx-xxxx. You'll have to call here cause his cell phone has been cut off..probably as long as his car has been impounded. Yeah...what a winner!!! Wardy Said: I asked a few of my homegirls would they leave/divorce Hillbert and they said the following......................................................................................................... Absolutely. Positively. Affirmative.. Yes, yes, and yes. We would get divorced. He refuses to get a job? I refuse to be married to a man that won’t work. - Celeste M., New Jersey....................................... Well, acccording to the word of God I would not have the right to divorce him because he does not get a job. The words “get a job” are not in the marriage vows; however we all agree that if he don’t work he won’t eat …LOL. But, that is not grounds for divorce. - Latisha M., New Jersey................................................... A relationship is supposed to be 50/50. Where and what is his 50? That’s the real question! He has to bring something to the table or go!................................................... - Dameisha D., New York I am Ward (I just cancelled my Facebook page-lol)

How watching an old wise man changed my perspective to complaining.....

About 6 weeks ago I was in the market for a new car. I narrowed it down to the Saab 9-5 Arc, the Audi A6 or the Volvo S60T. I found one of each that I adored but had travel a few miles to get any of them, but one man said he would hand deliver the Audi to my door step if i purchased his. Now, most people know that I am that frugal brother who loves getting a good deal, so I told him to bring it Friday. A funny thing happened as I was awaiting my new whip, I was out and about and saw a Saab that was decent and cheaper and right here in town. The owner of the car was an old white man with a pair of worn out overalls on that somehow allowed his belly to hang out???? He assured me that he had the car for 3 years and it was sound. I test drove it hard, no check engine lights so I became more interested. I requested that we take it to Auto-zone to check the codes if any. What do ya know, Fatness (the car owner) had a code reader that showed the car had no issues. I said cool, and paid the dude several thousands dollars, got the title and drove off. As I was driving off the car started sputtering , jerking and acting several ways of crazy. I knew the lot was closed, so I decided to take the car to the shop in the mourning before telling ole boy that he sold me a janky car. To make a long story shorter, the transmission was shot. I had been taken by Guooober from May-berry. I went back and complained and suggested that the owner give me some money back. After some serious arguing I left with some money back (enough to pay for labor on a new tranny). I was still madd because I had called the other man back and told him I changed my mind on the Audi that he was gonna drive 200 miles to prove his car was road worthy. I had to get over loosing a few thousand bucks, but how???? I recall a man named Joshua who lost his family business due to circumstances beyond his control. He blamed neither fate nor the people who caused the situation. Even though Joshua was hit hard by this misfortune, eh was uncomplaining and optimistic about how he handle this situation. As difficult as it was, he left the land he loved and moved to another city and found work in a sanitarium to support his family. Not once did Joshua express anger, bitterness or dismay about his situation. Never did he compare himself to those who seem to have been treated better by their fates. He took what what life offered and made the best of it. This was a powerful example that I really had to meditate upon. When things go bad for reasons beyond our control, it is tempting to first blame and then embrace fate as the cause of our failures. A wiser person knows to ignore that temptation-the easy excuse. So Ward has learned that adversity can make us stronger, smarter, better and tougher. Blaming your troubles on situations, others or bad luck makes us weaker. Heck, most worthwhile things in the ultra competitive world come wrapped in adversity. Real men understand this and are able to see the truth in this verse: Looking back it seems to me, All the grief that had to be. Left me when the pain was over, Stronger than I was before....... I got the car fixed, and no one cared but me. I learned a lesson and next time will put the car on the rack before I purchase. I am in a good place. Thank you Joshua I am Ward....

Explosion near my home this Sunday.....

Sad to see things like this happen. They say its about 3 million dollars worth of damage. Some how a gas line leveled two homes and the others were badly damaged. 2 people died and many more injured. I am Ward....

Ward Reasons why Love can be hard.....

Luv is a wonderful thing....................ummm in the beginning anyway. Really, when you take time to think about it, who really wakes up and says today I am gonna go out and find my soul mate and fall madly in love with this sucka? (Let me add that now that I think about it, there are some people out there who actully do this, but 4 all practical purposes I am not talking to yall- only the normal people-lol). I feel that love just happens when you least expect it. Maybe that is one of the reasons Love can be so hard???? I speak of Love as being hard because, I know of a lot of couples who are hurting, fighting, separated, cheating, beating and thinking about leaving each other on the daily and it pains me personally. I recall when I divorced my ex-wife I had mixed emotions for months on staying verses leaving. I knew that the respect, love and freindship had long packed its Gucci bags from the relationship, but I didn't want the kids to get hurt, so manned up and I had to accept the fact that, we are on this big blue marble for a limited amount of time. I did not want spend what unknown amount of life I had left living in mysery and making someone else's life the same. So I lurched (busted a move-dipped from the spot-left sucka) out! Went down 2 da court house and got my self some peace of mind. Like many others who made the same move, it is embarssing because others see you as a failure, someone who could not live up to their marital vowes or a quitter. Perhaps those things are true, but we can judge others least we be perfect our dang selves. Love is hard because it makes you happen and at the next moment it can make you sad for the same reasons at the same dang time! The person you love talking to, being around and sharing memeories with can really make you think about your life and how it could have been if you two had never met!!! Love is hard when its no longer patient and forgiving. We have to allow others to feel and think differently from us-right? Love is hard because when we argue we forget that we are just having a disagreement and not going to war! Love is hard because we expect perfection from imperfection. Love is hard because we sabatoge our relationship by getting on our mates nerves, even after they have consistiently told us they don't like how we are making them feel. Love is hard because we justify our actions rather then correcting them? Saying sorry is a cheap way out of a mistake because it doesn't cost you anything to say it= empress me and stop doing what you are doing to make me not like you! Love is hard because our friends and family R always up in da bizness (knowing good and well they situation is broke too). Love is hard because people seldom take time to stop and do a self check fool! What can I do better to make this thang work? Love is hard because we put God on the back burner until we have ignored everything he warned us about and then go running back saying "What had happend was" or "One time @ band camp I", well you get my point. Finally, love is hard because we make it that way. I am Ward...

Here we go again........

I am Ward (and I still don't get involved in politics!!!)

what Ward is Wondering now???????

*Some people are upset about Stacy Dash deciding that she is not voting for Obama this time around. Who really cares, its her choice to vote or not vote anyway right? I think its just a ploy to get free press and a new acting gig, besides she has married 3 white men already! *How is it possible for some of the world's dumbest people to get into leadership roles. (Karrie Hibbard this means you-lol). Is it timing, sympathy or sexual??? *Is it better sometimes to pay full price rather than getting the hook up. I mean the man may tax you more, but he will do what he promised and give you documentation while the other man has no problem over promising you and under fulling your needs. *If everyone knows they can die at any given moment, why do we always treat loved ones so bad? *What makes brothers who get large sums of $$$ forget about the sisters? *Is racism gone or does it wear blue uniforms now? *If over 50% of marriages end in divorce, are the couples who remain married happy? *Why do I miss Chocolate stars? *What up with men and these prostrate exams? There has got to be another way (4 reelz) *I am amazed how many people want that stupid I*phone. Don't you have an Ipod and Ipad already? *Why does the dude have to be a mind reader in the relationships? *Why do Gay people think its cool to hijack the rainbow for their cause? Didn't God say it represented his promise to never flood the Earth again? *Why do people lie to you and really think you believe them. Just ell the freaking truth already. *Why do people argue on Facebook..........still? *How many new talk shows can they come out with and never run out of stupid guest. Heck Ricky Lake is even back. Steve Harvey is trying to get Oprah's old audience (and seems to be winning). I am Ward....

I love cars, but wonder about the buyers eye meet!!!!

The ups and downs of being a small time car deal can literally drive a man to drink (well Kool-Aide with extra sugar if you are me!). I have been buying and selling cars since I was 19 years young and I don’t see any signs of slowing down at this time. I feel the hunt for me comes when I find that rough looking car and turn that sucka in 2 the bell of the ball! I differ from other small car dealers in the sense of actually making repairs to the units I move. Sure I could get more profit by selling a car that has obvious issues because I may never see that buyer again right? Wrong? People are crazy in the late 2012-Trust and believe that bruh. Once I sold a beautiful Chrysler 300 with dark tinted windows (Wardy trade mark), 20 inch chrome wheels and tires, blue xenon head/fog lamps, sub woofers and Kenwood everything and not to mention a fresh paint job. I sold this car below wholesale because the buyer was young and knew a family member. Dude got the car and was loving it because he posted 23 pics on his Facebook account like it was his girlfriend. All was good in the hood until the alternator went out on this car. Of course I had him sign an as is waiver on the car, as all dealers do, but he was able to have his mechanic go over the car before buying. Dude declined and rolled off into the sunset with his sounds shaking the streets on Napptown like a mini earthquake. Anywho, back to the alternator: Dude called me with his dad on the 3 way telling me how the car was a piece of crap and how I should return the money because his son is a broke college student. I asked what happened and I was told and then asked of me was I gonna do the right thing???? I calmly replied that the son had purchased the car and it was now his and titled in his name a week ago. I said the car was fine for me but I would purchase a new alternator and have it installed at my costs. I told them it’s common for small things to break on a car at any given moment. I also told them it’s not a good idea to run the car stereo with the car off for hours as a DJ both. That is when the fireworks began. I got cussed out and my life threatened because they claimed they got the car fixed and wanted $1200 from me or all the money. I tried to explain the part cost $40 and $25 to install and that they got over charged. They didn’t care because I should have told them the alternator was going out? 1st of all, how would I know that considering I just had driven the car to Chicago with my family with no issues???? I was unable to make the customer happy and I was disappointed considered I had put everything in the car to make it a great buy. Again, it’s just the nature of the beast. People feel comfortable taking certain liberties talking crazy to people because they think you are soft or not important. I thought about giving him all his money back, but he still wanted me to pay his mechanic all the money for nothing. I accept his anger but didn’t like the taste it left with both of us. I still enjoying selling quality used cars, but now I am more cautious and make sure I say this car is not new, does not have a warranty and depending on you treat it may not last as long if you’re not careful. I have also learned that it’s better to put a car on the rack at the shop before you buy to help avoid problems in the long run. I hope that hot headed customer doesn’t run into the wrong person in the future because I see bad things resulting from a negative attitude. I am Ward……