Monday, April 6, 2009

What up with the new family???


Remember back in the daze when you would sit around the kitchen with your family watching that little 13 inch black and white television! The favorite shows with out a doubt had to be Fat Albert and Good Times! O.k. maybe that was just my childhood-lol! But what I especially liked about Good Times, other than Thelma being finer than frog hair on free chicken sandwiches, was the family vibe that came off each week. The Evans family did not have a lot of money, but they were rich on love and fun. I recall feeling like I was a part of that clan. It was real talk about real life situations, sorta like 2009 but with different ways of dealing with life.
The father, James, was a hard working, no-nonsense, hard nosed, loving father and husband who was scard of nothing. He was the kind of father that kids respected and feared because he loved them enough to whoop that tazz if needed and give a proud, belt tugging smile of approval to any one who would listen. The afro wearing mom was a pillar in the midst of brokeness. She was the glue who could make a meal from water and dirt and never let you know she was worried about tomorrow! They even ate meals together.....wow! How many families do that today?
The shows title said it all. "Good Times"!! Ain't we lucky we got em???
I try to treat my kids like that show in many regards because I like to have fun and laugh, but when I have to be serious, they understand that as well. The scriptures say, that a friend in need is a friend indeed! Now I understand what that means. I am sure you do 2.
My last blog talked about shacking up, do you think Thelma would have been allowed that option.
I am good times Ward....

Sunday, April 5, 2009

I am only what you make me baby...


I am sure everybody knows Shaq, don't they? Well what about his cousin "Shak", you know when two people live together and are not married-lol! Surely, quite a few people make this move and sometimes it works out and most of the time, it fails miserably. When you really break it down for what it is, the individuals are trying to test the waters of marriage with out the commitment of trust! Think about it, when you try to immulate the steps of marriage, you do everything but take the marital vows, and I mean errr-thing from sleeping 2geather, paying bills, eating etc.
When two married people live together they learn things about the other that they did not know but have made a vow to stay as a team for better or worse. Now that shak-ing duo may stay together or they may bounce when one feels the urge to leave. They have no real commitment to stay, so leaving is always a viable option. The sad thing about this is the family members who are hurt by this act. Starting with your creator on down to parents, friends and relatives. Love don't cost a thing is what a popular song once said, yet again people use that crutch as a reason not get married. I gotta have a "huge" wedding and live beyond my means. I need to front like I am a superstar when in reality everybody knows you broke like the rest of us. Moving in with someone is a very big step so it is very important to know yourself first! Are you good with money, do know how much about the differences in men and women, paying bills on time, have good credit, lived on your own before, neat in appearance and home life, are you responsible, do you bounce checks and are you mature physically, mentally and spiritually. All I am trying to impress upon you is this.....If you are ready for move in situation, Man up and make the woman your wife instead of just another baby mama or girlfriend. If you love him or her today, then so be it for tomorrow. If something happens to you, who gets your stuff, who can be your mouth piece or make decisions for you when you cant talk due to an accident? You even need life insurance to protect your family in the event of an emergency, I don't think they cover room mates or gay lovers do they?? This is 2009 and play time is over. Ask yo self, what is preventing me form being with the person I love and then act on your answers!!! I am only what you make me baby, so make me proud and do what is right and sleep good at night knowing that now you are a man or woman who with stood the storm and are now the example and not another statistic!
I am willing to Kobe but never ShaQ....Ward...

Friday, April 3, 2009

Unhappily/ happy


I was recently informed that men are just as emotional as women are. It is important to know that this was a female who made this statement! I laugh at her because I am a firm believer that as a rule, most men tend to be logical and women tend to have their emotional side come more to the front. Neither one is really better than the other. Sometimes opposite attract right? Boy-girl, work-paycheck, hunger-food, you get my point.
Anyway, part two of that discussion lead to the amazement of why unhappy couples remain together? When you think about it, in this economy, who can afford to break up now. Keeping it 100, I feel that people stay together because for a variety of reasons. Kids, finance, familiarity, lazy, comfort, image and so on. I mean after awhile of being in a bad relationship, one just learns to adapt. You start to do things independent of each other, find new friends and eventually do what you gotta do! I am not saying that is right, but it does happy. I feel that it takes two people to make relationship work and one to make it fail.
With the changing roles of women in society, men have to be more flexible. When I was young, my mom cooked and cleaned, but now men do it all and its o.k. Then again, you gotta fill your time somehow-lol!
The long and short of it iz this: Kouples must have make time for TIME! Don't be strangers, talk about your day and you fears and goals with your mate. Be there best friend. Do fun things once a week and of course try to out love the other. Do what needs to be done because it needs to be done. The other alternative is being unhappily happy!!
I am jungle-less Ward...

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Don't take it for granted


Today is a great day to tell someone that you care about them and what they mean to you. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. I know personally, I have been really enjoying life and realizing that I was caught up in the matrix of life! I am now somewhat unplugged and seeN things clearer. Look for the positive in the negative and never give up suckers... Catch me at the comdey club this weekend if you are lucky....
I am ward...

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Whats so special about da prodigal son?


I am sure everyone either knows of or has heard of the the prodigal son...ya know the story about the guy who was promised a portion of his Dad's fortune upon his death. Well the son wanted his rewards now- while he was young and restless, before general hospital,during the days of our lives,while following the guiding light...Ok, I went too far, but I am back on track now. 2 make the long and short, the Dad gave him his money when he asked for it and the son went out and straight blew it on clothes and hoes all a brother knows-lol. It got so bad that he had to eat food with pigs. That is a stinky situation. He had truly hit rock bottom, but decided that he would swallow that pride and go back to his daddy's camp and take it from there.
Well his old man was very surprised to see his son come back home, and immediately took him back with open arms. See his Dad, was a good dude who made it easier for his son to come back and admit he was wrong. He could have spent hours telling his son what he obviously knew by now, rather he threw him a party for him. Now that's what genuine love is. Image if parents were like that now a days! (know my relationship with my father would be much better, but hey you gotta start somewhere.) The application for today is this: We would benefit others if we allow room for error and forgiveness for mistakes. At times we make mistakes and feel uneasy or unsure about how to admit we erred in judgement. This is not always easy, but sometimes, we all have to turn the other cheek (unless you are in a men's prison)
To my hommie who inspired this blog, I am glad you got the jest of this story....
I am Ward...

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Wild and pRejudice Wednesdaze


Lately I have been doing extremely well with this new routine of mine. I get up do my parental thang with the kids and get them to the bus stop and head off to start my day. I usually return home and tidy up the kribb, watch Judge Mathis, check email, study the scriptures (daily), run errands and make sure all the bills are current. I normally get done with everything around 1pm, which allows me time for a napp or a quick work out at the YMCA!
*******Wednesday Highlights!!*******

*Funny thing happened when I was shopping at Wal-Mart today! I was walking behind a white lady as I was exiting and the lady waved by to the Wal-Mart greeter and she waved back. So I did the same thing, but the lady stopped me and asked to see my receipt and I had half the items of the white lady!! Coincidence or Not, you decide.
*An ex friend put on the webb that she has been going to worship service and doing it on the regular. She seemed to be a peace with this decision, So I asked her on her web page how it was working for her to show my support and excitement for her. She took it all the wrong way and told me I shouldn't talk about things I know nothing about!! I guess that was her christian side talking-lol! I don't know what she is learning but she convinced me that I don't want no parts of it if it makes you evil. She also gave me the message of K.M.A, obviously another religious term of endearment. I wish this old friend well, cause I enjoy positive people and let the negative drama queen's go to yoga class.....lol!
*Bought the new Steve Harvey book. Nothing surprising in there for men, but women may like it. Its like the Wizard of Oz...the truth is in you all along, you just don't want to see it.....
*Rented a small storage unit for my lawn equipment and extra tires and rims etc. Seemed routine enough, until I walked in Storage USA and asked for the smallest unit and this one toothed, greasy haired attendant told me he just repo'd my stuff last week. I was shocked and bothered. I explained to him that he must have me confused with someone else cause I was there to rent a space. He said he was sure it was me until he ran my information. He spent the next 20 minutes trying to convince me how sorry he was. That only meant a steep discount for me. Oh well, I guess all black people do look alike???
*Finally, I went to Tire Barn to get some work done on my rim and found the sales people to be very insightful. They were trying to sell me everything that I did not need or want for my car, but it showed how in this economy that businesses are trying to get all the money they can from current customers. Very smart.....
I am Ward

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Da Womanizer


I have learned that in order to grow, one must be open to a variety of experiences that life has to offer. In doing so, one of the things that I do is read! I read books on everything, from relationships to books on how do this or that. The title obviously gives away my topic, so without further a do-do let me talk about this brother's blog that I recently read and what it taught me about life.
This guy says he is an average looking brother and involved in a steady relationship. He however, has a tendency to meet many (many-many) women and date and sex them up and move on. He even compared them to rental cars. He has a car that he is very happy with (his main woman) but he loves to test drive other cars. I find that a brilliant comparison, by the way! Anyway, I was so shocked to read some of this guys experiences because I think he is leaving a trail of hurt women who are gonna one day catch up to him and not in a good way. I believe this brother is about 25 years old and I understand that men sometimes go through this player faze, but can it be safe of wise in 2009? When people write blogs and are very honest, they are allowing you to get to know them personally thus letting you form an opinion of them. I hope he doesn't mind me sharing his blog site, but I encourage you to check out this site and see what I am talking about.
My summary is this....Men beware of damaged women and women get in where you fit in. I personally am still in shock.
((His web page is)) http://undressingher.com/

I be Wardy..

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