A double standard is the application of different sets of principles for similar situations. A double standard may take the form of an instance in which certain concepts (often, for example, a word, phrase, social norm, or rule) are perceived as acceptable to be applied by one group of people, but are considered unacceptable—taboo—when applied by another group and in this case, its about how men and women have two sets of rules for the same dang thang?
I wanted this post to be very realistic, so I researched a few responses of what people actually think about this photo on my blog today. See below!!!
..."Nope!!!If he is making rules on when he's going to spend money on me, I'll pass I don't need to prove that I'm worthy of him to spend money on , If he placing these types of tests early on, what type of other stuff is he going to throw at me later? I have dated single fathers who didn't have money and I was more than happy to go on free dates or even treat them every once in a while".
... "NO WAY!!! When a man really wants a woman he puts all his money, time and effort. Men are hunters. If he is not putting any effort to impress you his is just buying time until he gets something better!".
..."Someone has to pay.....and I'm definitely not going to pay".
..."Definitely, I would love to see how creative he is!".
...."Yep we'll be doing all the free things like no kissing, no touching and no sex talk because all those things require money".
....."Of course, because it doesn't take money to get to know someone".
..."If a man thinks I'm just using him for his money right off the bat, then don't date me. I'll do things mutually for someone I care about. Buy them gifts. Or offer to pay for things. But I would like to be taken out and courted and for the man to pay".
..."Sounds like a cheap controlling sucker to me. Nope, he isn't the one for me."
..."This ain't nothing new. Most black men ain't spending money on a chick no way."
I personally think that double standards are prevalent in most unhealthy relationships with damaging results like contributing to the high divorce rate in today's society. Its true that men do some things better than most women like fix cars or handy stuff around the house, but women tend to be better multi-taskers. The key is finding balance and using a mind that is focused deep in logic as well as love. Considering that most people who date have not ever had a course in courtship or relationship expectations, we can be fairly sure that conflict will certainly be a staple in these new situations. I came up with a few areas of double standard reduction- By knowing THY SELF 1st!
1. Dating should have an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other. Spending money on someone won't help this decision.
2. How do you treat your parents and siblings? Do you often lose your self-control with them, perhaps using harsh or sarcastic language to make a point? What would they say about you in that regard? How you deal with family members indicates how you will treat a mate.
3. Are you positive or pessimistic? Are you reasonable, or do you always insist on doing things a certain way—your way? Can you keep calm when under pressure? Are you patient? Cultivating the fruitage of God’s spirit now will help you prepare for being a husband or a wife later.
4. How well do you handle money? Are you often in debt? Can you hold down a job? If not, why not? Is it because of the job? The employer? Or is it because of some habit or trait that you need to work on? If you have trouble handling your own finances, how will you manage those of a family?
5. The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Double standards happy for a reason, perhaps its just two imperfect people trying to protect themselves or could it be that people don't really have the best intentions from the jump? Who goes out to purchase a house and they have no money........
I am WarD......
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