Thirty years ago, it was already occurring that women would keep their name. When I got married, my wife changed her name. That very act took me aback. I really did not fully appreciate my marriage until my wife changed her name. I knew then that my wife really loved me. She was willing to make the change, and I said to myself, my wife really means it, I better prove to her that she made the right choice with me. It was a kick in the pants for me. It made me start reading books on how to stay married. It made me have great respect for my wife. It made me realize that my wife meant business, that she was here to stay. Without her changing her name, I would never have taken marriage as seriously as I did. After time, I realized that my wife changing her name, made the biggest change in me from a boy to a man. (PRO LAST NAME CHANGE)
I believe that women should not take their husbands' last names when they get married. If they want to take their husbands' names, then they should hyphenate it with their maiden name. I think a woman's maiden name is a critical part of her identity and should not be lost just because she gets married.(CON- LAST NAME CHANGE)
So after talking to my boi, I realized that this can be a crucial point for couples about to jump the broom of marriagehood. I guess silly ole me always thought that women wanted to take their dudes name, but KLEARLY I was mistaken. I asked the two people above and got 2 opposite responses and quickly realized that this is serious. I thought about all the people I do know that changed their names and those few I know that didn't as well as a few celebrities that I see on T.V.
I kept coming up with the same thoughts.......unity! I see everyone at Wal-mart walk around with the same out fit (especially with the "how may I help you sign on the back that is totally a lie) to show they work their. I saw the same thing at McDonald's, The Colts, The Pacers and so on. How we gonna be on the same team with different uniforms???? Are we that independent that we can co-exist as separate individuals but claim to be as 1? I guess anything is possible but is it necessary?
I read this scripture in the Bible and it gave me some valuable insight. Genesis Chapter 2 and verses 23-24 reads: Then the man said (Adam), This is at last bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. This one will be called Woman. Because from man she was taken. That is why a man will LEAVE his father and mother and he will STICK to his wife and they will become one flesh.....
Unsure of what that means to you, but I see the couple being on the same team. If someone needs to keep their last name because of identity or a show of feeling close to their family, then they may not be ready to start something new with their potential mate. Will the female be a Ms. OR Mrs.??? What would be the kids last name? Does the woman want to be on the team or is this a power move? Hummmm
True, its a personal decision, but I think it would behoove both parties to discuss what marriage means to them indiviudally? I am just saying......
I am WarD.
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