Ever notice that when Hollywood marriages end in divorce that no one is really surprised? We say things like, considering they are in Hollywood....that was a really long marriage???? Dont we all say the same basic wedding wording that include death due us part? Nevertheless, we still have a high rate of dissolution in this world anyway, but why is the real question?!
Seems like most couples (I say most because we all know that couple that shouldn't have gotten married-PERIOD) jump the broom because they really love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives togeather, ya know how they be finishing each others sentences, talking on the phone 13 times a day and can't keep their hands off each other. Fast forward 4 years later and watch those same couples on "how I killed my spouse with a rusty fork"! Chris Rock is quoted as saying, "If you never thought about killing your spouse, then you ain't never been in love". Hummm, I will reserve my thoughts on that until later.
When the smoke clears, marriage or long term dating (which is considered by many to be marriage without the commitment now a days) is really hard work that is only the infrastructure. I came up with words that may help out couples who are willing to fight for their marriage.
.........Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed 4; companionship, intimacy, friendship etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out, much like a savings account! There is no love in marriage. Live is in the people. And people put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving , loving, serving, praising, of keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will always be empty. Men play the most important role from my perspective because we arent' always smart enough to realize that the higher we elevate our women, the less available yall are for other men. When men break women down, she become more accessible to anyone she things will treat her better. Women who play the support role well, encourage their men to be the leaders that was naturally assigned to us/them. A woman who is easy to love will always have hear her man's loving voice of approval. (I think I have a tear in my left eye as I am writing this).
These words are deep but worth considering. Relationships are an on the job training situations in most cases, so just do what you can and give your all. Proverbs 3:5 in case of emergency.
I am Ward......
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