peace AND security........

I am ward...

5 random things on my mind.....

1. Why do men argue with women? Just listen and be supportive, its much easier!
2. Why do people at your job walk by each other as if they are invisible. Just say Hi sometimes!
3. If people are unhappy at their place of worship, why do they stay? Read your Bible and find where the truth is being taught. Seek www.jw.org
4. Why is basketball the only sport a person can foul out of? Football is controlled violence, kick out them suckers to the curb?
5. Why does the price of stamps keep going up but my mail doesn't get here any faster?
6. Is it better to be emotional or logical?
7. Can we find our soul mate in the city we grew up in or should we travel the globe to find our true love?
8. What is so appealing about shows like Empire and Scandal? The actors on Empire don't even look believable in real life. I don't need to know about someone sexual interests. Scandal shows a powerful and educated black woman who has to date a married man because she can't find one of her own! Great show! Would the show be good if the president was black creeping with a white woman?
9. Should Cops really pull people over for speeding or would their time be better spent getting drug dealers off the street?
10. Why do people keep buying Jordan shoes when they have no money in the bank. 

I am Ward...

Does breaking up mean the couple is no longer a couple??????

Looking at this from the male point of view, I would say a relationship is dead after some harsh words between two people and ending up with "I hate you and hope you die"! Well guess what I learned from some co-workers last week?
I was told that when a woman says all those things that means she just wants the man to chase her or at the very least have a cooling off period. I almost fell of my seat after hearing that illogical reasoning! I mean, does that work in your job too? If the boss says clock and don't bother clocking in tomorrow. Could he just want me to work harder or show him that I really love my job? Ummmm, Wardy thinks NOT!!!! So why the heck would you expect this from the person whom you are suppose love more than anyone else in the world....................it doesn't !!!!!
A man will treat his woman much better if she acts like his help mate rather than his dictator. If he is wrong in his actions, consider telling him that those actions hurt your feelings and give him a change to correct the matter under peaceful conditions. Somehow I don't think the strong arm technique is very effective in the 2015!
I am also amazed at the way couples crash and burn. Relationships often start out with the guy chasing the woman and her finally giving in and then chasing him because he wants to get the heck away from her now, lol! I asked a recent dumpeee what happened to her relationship. She told me that she was busy with her job, college and her young son and apparently not giving her dude of 5 years, enough time & attention. Seems like he found another chick who filled his void. The dumpeee said she confronted the man stealing chick and told her if she comes around her dude again that "She would lay her down where she stands" (never heard that before).
Hummm, I thought to myself, this dude won't change his game, rather he will adapt to her detective skills. When a dude doesn't want you no more, he will find many a ways to show you until you get it. Similarly, a dude will not commit to a woman until he is ready to leave all of the other potential conquests alone.
I will say this again, from a male perspective, if we break up, we are no longer under the rules of couple-ness! There is no cooling off period. You free to date and and so is he. So its better to stay mad and together than giving some one a hall pass that they can't use, because they will. No two people in any union are perfect but they are human. So don't expect a cat to bark like a dog, nor a fish to walk like a bird and don't expect a dude to think you are still his only interest if you tell him you all are no longer a couple.
I am Ward........

Love and Customer Service both have it in common.....just ask SuperBrotherMan......

As each day of my life seems to go by faster than the last, I find myself learning more about things I thought I knew everything about. Up until yesterday, I thought falling in love was as natural as teaching customer service to someone for the first time. Turns out Wardy was dead wrong (as I often am lately)! A young lady told me that he dude always told her he wanted her thick and nice (which she said she was) because that is what he liked! She was like "Cool, I can do that for my dude". Problem is.... she forgot that a body not in motion, is a body at rest! She must have forgot that in order 2 maintain that thickness and sexiness requires a little hard work and some attention to what you eat! Turns out that ole gurl is no longer that thick princess that was once adored by her dude because she is now that lazy chick who is more worried about her weave than she is about what her dude thinks. Of course men think all women find more faults with themselves then  we ever could anyway but the few things we say we like is crucial from our vantage point!
I find that women tend to have a long list of things that their ideal man should be like, which is cool and all---But this allows for yall to make allowences that men can't. For example, if you have a list of 20 things and you meet a dude who only possesses 13 of them, then yall start to rationalize your needs verse wants. "Do you really need a dude with all his teeth? So he doesn't work at the post office, but a McDonald's check beats have no check most of the time!!! Who cares if he doesn't have a car, he has two bus passes and I like to be seen out in public with him.......................Men don't have this luxury. We have a usual list of about 4 things and if one of them isn't there, ummm we out this peace!! A man's list may be as simple as 1). Light skinned 2) Nice body 3)Great cook and 4) Spiritural.
O.k. so man meets woman that is Yellow like Keisha Cole with the body of Serena Williams and can cook like she work at Sweetie Pies but she worships the devil on the weekend. Trust me, there is no allowances from the dude. He chucking up them deuce fangaz with the quickness! With that being said, my point is simple. The above woman who feels her dude isn't into her like he once was is probably correct. But wouldn't it behoove her to spend more time working on her fitness and less time worrying about what he said?  Let's face it, men are visual creatures and we like what we like. Maybe from a female perspective, she is thinking he should love her for her- no matter how much weight she gains, no matter how short her hair gets or how many things she now argues with him about- that she never did in the past.  I think my dog shouldn't bark at 2 a.m. if he hears a strange noise because I am trying to sleep, but it doesn't always work out that way. Men may also think, "what if I suddenly didn't do my secular job like I did when my boss first hired me, would I keep my job for long?" Hummmm, Wardy thinks not!  But who am I?????

Similar to customer service. I thought customer service was something that could be easily taught, but I found out that it has to be something inside a person that makes them want to be helpful or have integrity. Seems like most people in love and business are more concerned about speaking rather than listening. If someone says they don't want the widget with pink fuzz on it, why try to make them purchase it anyway. Find out what they want and give them that and keep your customer/partner happy.
Love and customer service both have it in common: You have to work at to get it and keep it.
I am Ward.....