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The Fear of "FEAR"

phobia; creeps, jitters, nervousness, willies; pang, qualm, twinge; agitation, apprehension, consternation, discomposure, disquiet, funk, perturbation; concern, dismay, worry; cowardice, faintheartedness, timidity, timorousness....These are the words I located on on the web when I looked up the word "Fear". Look for your self if you don't believe me sucker! Anywho, I was pondering this word today because of the way it affects so many people on a daily basis.....but why????? Look again at the picture on this blog. Public speaking is one of the most frightening activities people are sometimes asked to do. I admit that I had this fear before...... until I found the cure, which I will share shortly.

In addition to the fear of public thinking consider a job interview, taking an exam, flying for the 1st time, cooking for your spouse, having a baby or learning to swim. These things are some causes for fear right? Well, here is the the solution I promised.........Drum roll please! It's simply called "ACTION".  Peep this....During World War 2 the United States Navy made sure that all of its new recruits either knew how 2 swim or learned how to swim. This was done because the ability to swim might someday save the sailor's life at sea. Makes sense to me, because non-swimming recruits were put into swimming classes. No doubt, these men were fearful of all that water and knowing they will go in one way or another. The men basically had to jump in the water while a half dozen or so expert swimmers stood near to keep you from drowning most of the time????  The very FEAR these men faced was as real as real can get for some, but the only thing that stood in between conquering this fear was just one drop into the water below!!! On more than one occasion a recruit was "accidentally" pushed off the diving board into the water below with one common result. FEAR DEFEATED as all to many for Navy men can clearly recall.

As I stated earlier, action cures FEAR. Once these men realize that it can be done, it becomes easier the next time. Recall NIKE shoes old saying "Just Do It", it was based off of fear. So this encouraged me to consider some solutions to 3 times of fear. 

1. Fear of not doing good on a test....Action needed is turning worry time into study time. If you know what is expected of you how much better are your chances of success are.

2. Fear of not having enough $$$. Action needed is learn to manage current $$$ better, get a 2nd job or return to school for training in a desired field of interest.

3.  Fear of public speaking. Know your topic by preparation, review and ask others for tips and believe in yourself and go out there and just do it.

Basically, we must isolate our fears and determine what we are afraid of, then take action to over come it. But remember hesitation only enlarges or magnifies the fear if we fail to take action and be decisive.

I am Ward....no longer fearful........

Turning the other butt cheek???

Wow! Today was truly a challenge for me. I was working on trying to be positive for the entire day. I somehow did, but I was tested in ways I would have never imagined. I clearly understand that we are living in the last days, but when someone consciously tries to stay positive, the realities try to kick you in the front teeth with 3 steel toed boots!
I had to stop for a moment and ask myself what was the difference between great leaders in comparison to myself? I quickly realized that people are driven and have their goal at the front of the life. If you want to be good at basketball, then hit the gym. If you want to sing, hit the studio and if you want to be positive, then let nothing stand in your way of being that positive light of change. Sure,being nice isn't the greatest of goals to achieve, but I have a greater plan and this is one important step toward the goals. After getting cussed at, threatened by a midget and plenty of crazy looks, I can look back and say I have increased my respect for peace makers. Oh well, tomorrow is another day that I can try to get better at learning to be focused.
I got a plan yall....
I am Ward.....

It is possible, but few believe it enough 2 make it HAPPEN!!!!

30 Again he said, “What shall we say the kingdom of God is like, or what parable shall we use to describe it? 31 It is like a mustard seed, which is the smallest of all seeds on earth. 32 Yet when planted, it grows and becomes the largest of all garden plants, with such big branches that the birds can perch in its shade.” (NIV)


WARDY  SAYS: Not many people believe that they can move mountains. So, as a result, not many people do!
I am (A mountain mover named) Ward...

They often say U can't be your kids friend! Well I strongly disagree!!!

My brother in law once told me that a parent’s job is to be the parent and not their friend! Honestly he is not the only person to have said that to me before. But like him and the others, I strongly disagree with that line of thought. Perhaps it is my experiences that I base my perspective up or maybe because it sounds a little harsh. When you look at the picture that I choose for this entry, what do you think about the way the kids are looking as the Dad ( or maybe he is the boyfriend trying to get brownie points-lol) is reading the book? I really feel that you MUST be your child's friend in 2013 and moving 4 ward.

I can recall at least 2 jobs that I work and saw the results of parents being or should I say "Not beinG" the friend. I worked at the Juvenile Justice Center and as a licensed Educator for the state of Indiana. What stood out the most to me are how most of the young people I met were followers rather than being leaders. If the popular people on TV. or school wore a certain outfit, you better believe the copy cats would have it by the end of that following day. Of course, I realize that the greatest form of respect is simply by imitating, heck look at your homeboi -Jesus! People been trying to walk across water for year-lol!!!In the case of youngsters, it all about fitting in or trying to? But (((why))) is my question??????

This is where I feel a parental influence is not only needed, but its demanded if you plan on raising a positive child! Sure many will say that being the kids friend is equivalent to allow the kid make his or her own decision on everything they encounter minus the wisdom and experience of the parent. That is exactly what I don't mean. Consider if the parent were to talk to his kid about their day and vice versa over a nice meal with the television off. Consider the parent reading alongside the child while he reads his or her school work. Consider if the parent played and prayed with the kid. Consider if the parent shows his kid that he loved him rather than just saying it occasionally! With any relationship, there exists boundaries that should not be crossed without consequences. A husband and wife are considered one, but the scriptures say that the man is the head of the house and the wife is his compliment, who is in subjection to him, yet they can have a loving relationship, but at the end of the day- the man gets the final say so. Again, that is the way the creator said it should work, but know how the world is!

Likewise with the parent and child relationship, both can respect each other but the parent is the responsible one and will be followed in order to be successful. Peep this thought: Anyone can be obedient to the person taking the lead, but being in subjection to that one means doing what they request when you don't want to or agree. How many people do you see arguing with their bosses'? If you have, how did it end up? Exactly! It’s all about respect.

Example time......If a parent holds on to a child like a tightly held spring, the pressure builds up. Once a chance to be free is presented, the tight spring with fling off into outer space (other words the preachers kids will be off-da-chainz), and if the parent don't put any pressure on the spring (you get Will Smith's kids-Google them-lol). A good parent will start out with the tight pressure and slowly release it as the kid gets older and more responsible thus allowing the spring to release naturally! Isn't it like that at your job, as your skills grew, so did your confidence and responsibilities. Look at you now, doing the dang thang with your eyes closed! You go boy/Gurrrrrl!

In closing, a parent"should be the child's friend" ( Notice, I didn't say best friend) and he can get other friends his age as well, but the people he trusts and imamates the most, should be the parent’s good example!Open the lines of communication and keep the jails from being so packed. Ya feelz me? Remember this point if you don't get anything else from this posting.......Anybody can tell you how to do something, but a real friend will "show" you!

I am Ward....

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a White woman who requested a response from black men !!!

Dear Jamie: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better.........
WARD:  
I have always said that when ever someone says something like the above, it is based off somewhat of reality. Meaning it has happened to them or somebody they know. At a time in my life, I once w as irritated by white men and black women, but hey I found my soul mate and realized I really don't have time for other folk relationships. I guess we all gotta get there when our time comes. Nevertheless, I think if you love him and she loves you and you want to be together, then that's all that matters......

I am Ward.....

Things that really burn me up....

If an ambulance is on its way to save someone, and it runs someone over, does it stop to help them?
Why is Grape Nuts cereal called that, when it contains neither grapes, nor nuts?
If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares, why is there a song about him?

Why is it called a "drive through" if you have to stop?

Why does mineral water that has "trickled through mountains for centuries" go out of date next year?

Why are Softballs hard?

Do the minutes on the movie boxes include the previews, credits, and special features, or just the movie itself?

If the professor on Giligan's Island can make a radio out of coconut, why can't he fix a hole in a boat?

Why do people point to their wrist when asking for the time, but people don't point to their crotch when they ask where the bathroom is?

Why is an electrical outlet called an outlet when you plug things into it? Shouldn't it be called an inlet.

Why do we scrub Down and wash Up?

Why does Goofy stand erect while Pluto remains on all fours? They're both dogs!

Can blind people see their dreams or care what their spouse looks like?

Why do most cars have speedometers that go up to at least 130 when you legally can't go that fast on any road?

Why do they call it "getting your dog fixed" if afterwards it doesn't work anymore?

Why does Donald Duck wear a towel when he comes out of the shower, when he doesn't usually wear any pants?

How come you press harder on a remote control when you know the battery is dying?
If an orange is orange, why isn't a lime called a green or a lemon called a yellow?
If a cat always lands on its feet, and buttered bread always lands butter side down, what would happen if you tied buttered bread on top of a cat
If the #2 pencil is the most popular, why's it still #2?
What color would a smurf turn if you choked it?
Where's the egg in an egg roll?
Why aren't blue berries blue?
Where is the lead in a lead pencil
Why is Greenland called green when it is covered in ice?
Why do women talk so freaking much? Why do I always end my blogs like this,

I am Ward................

From Best friends to Ex-friends...........fast!

We said we would be friends till the end
You said you would always be my friend
You stabbed be in the back
now what we had we can't get back
I see you everyday
but I still feel the need to leave u
I miss you more and more
but it can NEVER be like before
I will love you forever
But you will never, oh just 4 get it
I guess you're not the same anymore
but what happened to before?
Foolish to think that love would conquer all
Jealousy,lies,moodiness and tripping.
I guess its clear to me now. Thank you 4
showing me who U really are....
(Reprinted with permission of Yvette 2013)
I am Ward....