Does Marriage Counseling Really wORK?

I was talking to my sister about why relationships sometimes deteriorate and what are some of the solutions I feel that are needed for them to be resolved. Basically in a nut shell (where the heck did that saying come from anyway?) if any couple fails, according to my perspective- I feel- its because 1 or both are not applying God's standards on marriage, they didn't take their vows serious when it comes to "better or worse" part because "worse" is a sign to jump ship or the couple doesn't really know or Love God..... because he is Love. I don't care whatever happened in your situation, God has forgiven 10 thousand times that when it comes to us individually- I am sure!
None the less, yall know how I like numbers! So eye komplied stats on why marriage counseling may not always work for people. See what you think!

1. Some people want an instant fix. Wardy says the problem didn't start over night, it may not be resolved over night. This ain't instant coffee ya know!
2. Some people seek counselors who try to apply the "right remedy" at the wrong time.The reality is that everyone is not ready to face the issues and receive the healing and freedom they desire.
3. Some people seek counselors who just use the wrong remedy.
For example, just taking your fist and hitting the pillow doesn't solve the root problem. Telling others off who have offended you usually causes many more problems. Telling yourself that you are O.K. when you aren't O.K. doesn't make it O.K.
4. Some people are unwilling to let go of their anger or issues from the past. Holding on to the past/hurt is often used to cover the real issues. Some people are unwilling to let go of these issues. This robs your relationship of current or future happiness.
5.Some people come to counseling with their surface problems.
It is not uncommon that people pitch out a few surface problems to be resolved, but are unwilling to look at the real root problems. Then the circle of never ending fights comes back when you least expect it.
6.Some people take a dose of counseling but don't finish the whole bottle. Doctors often prescribe antibiotics to people who are sick. The patient takes a few pills and starts feeling better, then stops taking the medicine. It is not long before the illness returns and is even stronger than before. The couple has to want to complete the process as a team rather than individuals.

There is no 1 cure for every couple but most couple do want the same things! To have a support system, companionship and love. I can't tell you how many times I read on Facebook about how somebody can't find love, can't keep love or just looking for love. At the end of the day we are all imperfect and have to learn to be good forgivers because that is what the Bible is really about. Its easier said than done especially when you are in the heat of battle-lol!
I ain't mad at those who divorce (I truly understand) but keep in mind that everyone in your life will be affected by your actions.

I am Ward........