I must say that this summer has truly been enlightening to me for a myriad of reasons especially since I am still learning about people, my own life, family and friends. I don't think I know everything nor do I want to, mainly because I am happy being a student of the game! So this is what I had the privilege of absorbing this week; Ya know that old saying we hurt the one's we love the most....well sometimes that hurt can be so painful that scars may last a life time. In fact I have often struggled with wondering if forgiveness meanz forgetting? (Yes I found the answer, but that's for a later blog-lol!) Well I over heard someone speaking to another person in such an offensive manner- that I wanted to say something, but I SMH and moved on. The scriptures encourage all to "Let your/my utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt" because this type of speech is essential to good communication.
So my mind began to wrap around this admonishment and why the need was ever warranted? But as I sit here in a pensive state I actually get it!!! When imperfect people start venting anger w/o concern for the consequences ((can and does)) cause serious damage to our own and others emotional and physical health. The ironic thing is that we seldom see ourselves as others often do. We may have the best of intentions to express to someone how we are feeling based off what they have done to offend us or why we are upset for any reason, but what sometimes comes out is a flurry of obscenities and hurtful words! After we have unloaded our feelings on to the other person, the cycle continues and of course they respond-react or with draw. I guess that is why they say "Act like a fool and get treated like one". I am not oblivious to the fact that it is easy to underestimate the impact that our words, facial expressions, and body language have on others, still I wish they would get classes in High School on how to treat others- that you must pass in order to graduate!!
Knowing when and how to say things to others is also important especially if we are offended. If we speak too soon we may just blast out some words that are not well thought out and waiting too long and they other person may not remember or even care that they hurt you. Its a balancing act for the ages. If not checked we may carry about certain amounts of hate for certain people and rationalize it in our mindz. We may say I got 5lbs of hate for Jody and 4lbs of hate for Marcus and so on. its really silly when you think about it. Is it that hard to know when it a time to keep quiet and a time to speak. Its just a matter of making sure our brains are engaged before our mouths start running-right? At the end of the day, no matter who hurts/offends us, we should strive to forgive them or move past it. We have all hurt or said somethings that others had to forgive us too. I am really trying to focus on why people do or say the things that they do to better deal with my people.
Again, I am a student of life and I am reflecting back on what I learned that week. I am still standing...for now..
I am Ward....
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