Before and After remixed

As most people who know me clearly accept that I do not celebrate worldly holidays and some even agree with my stance. Nevertheless, my peoplez are always in town and we get together after all the festivities have ceased and then my cousins and myself can get down on the real talk. Well I being a male and thinking about a previous blog- I asked several of the men what they thought about down time on the beauty of a woman (I will explain in a minute) or noticing any changes she makes.

It is important to keep in mind that men tend to be visual creatures and we are attracted to what we see rather than what we hear you tell us. With that being said, its no wonder that when we men see beautiful women, we think we want a lady like that!! However when it comes to our own woman, we want her to look good for us too. The issues at times has women feeling like they need to just chill when at home. They don't need 2 fix the hair, wear the make up or lipstick like they do when preparing for work. Its chill time right? @:*$#%$ to the KNOLL. How would you feel if a man decided he didn't want to kill that mouse that got you all up on the toilet seat screaming!!! Ladies, I understand you get tired, but have you ever considered trying to out love your mate? Just do the following , comb your hair back into a pony tale if long enough, put on some chap stick (I prefer MAC)a nice wife beater and some booty shorts and tell that sucka how much you love him. Trust me, he will be happy. All I am saying is that men are simple, just make us feel that we are the most important person in the world to you and we will do the same for you because we don't want to loose your respect. (((Trust me on this))).
Please keep in mind** an occasional home cooked meal and a clean house won't hurt the situation either-lol. You can take what you want from this blog, but keep in mind that wardy says Men are visual.....
I see you Ward...

Wii would like to play

Got a few weeks of work so you know me and my girls are gonna kicky it Wardy style. I dusted off the wii game and we played all night. My oldest daughter (8.5) actually beat me in bowling----that is the first game. I brought the business the next 12 games. Then when it comes to tennis, I am unstoppable and unbeatable. Truth be told, I think I need to start a league for Wii and make me some real money-lol.
Also while I am off we are gonna do our YMCA thang (I really need a massage), house cleaning and hopefully moving into our new home during this time.

Oh by the way, last night was crazy icy outside. I actually saw sheets of ice everywhere. I literally slid everywhere I went. I had to park my ride and chill with company I invited over, but it was cool, because today wasn't as cold and no more ice, just rain.

I am the Wii playing Ward...

Beeee 4 N after

I was sitting in my room and thought about something I heard a few days ago by a female co-worker (yeah I have a real job). I noticed that my co-worker had a new hair cut and dye job. I was not going to acknowledge that I was aware of something different, but going against my better judgement, I said......"ahh a new look huh?" She went on to say that her husband did not say anything about it and she was ticked off by that fact. I asked if she told him that she was getting a new look and she said she did not have to because he walks through a crowded room and can tell her what everybody in the room was wearing and talking about, but he doesn't even notice his own wife!!!!
I thought to myself, why did you get your hair done in the first place. I would assume the answer was because you wanted a change and after giving it thought, you placed a call to the beautician, then drove to the appointment, waited for ever long it took, then looked at your reflection in the mirror and then came home for the set up move on your innocent unsuspecting man. When you didn't get the reaction you expected, he is not the blame for yet another problem that he did not see coming. Humm and women wonder why men clam up. Would it have been so hard to tell the dude up front that you was thinking about a new dooo and wanted to know his thoughts. Then we she returned she may have gotten that "wow you look great lie that we all must tell"--lol!
I know women think men should only think about you all day, but have you ever realized (not wondered) that we men folk see beautiful women all day from t.v. and the work place on the daily? If you want to impress us, try asking us what we like and her comes the tricky thang..........do what we ask......OMG it just might actually work. Don't get it twisted we can do the same thing for you too, but the key is knowing what you want suckers.......

I am the same hair styling Ward...

Here is a picture of my 2 of my nephews and my kids. We hooked up one Sunday afternoon and went to Country Kitchen and got some soul food. I had the usual fried pork chops, yams, mac and cheese, dressing and greens and washed it down with iced tea. (Burp-Excuse me) I was thinking isn't it funny how much family starts to look alike the older people get? In harmony with that, I saw a man who looks just like his dog? Don't act like I am the only one who has ever noticed that before!!

By the way, I have been on a quest to find a good restaurant with good customer service and even better food. I am sure I won't find anything soon, but I am on the look out........

Ward.....

Who is Ward

Now Who is Ward is an excellent question? In fact I sometimes ask my dang self. I think the safe answers are as follows.
* I am a leader and not a follower
* I believe in the Golden Rule---look it up if you don't know
* I seek peace-always
* I love what is good and learning to hate what is bad
* I have few friends and a several acquaintances
* I am a future millionaire...trust me on this one-lol
* I know that I have a lot left to learn
* I like soft kisses
* Great food is my favorite
* I respect and bow down to the truth
* I admire women who are soldiers
* I have a low tolerance for stupidity
* I am father
* I am a brother-brutha-bro
* I am your man (smile)
* I am Ward....

Why Christmas ain't for me and mine

Today I was approached by someone to sign a Christmas card. I politely declined the offer, but was immediately asked why don't I celebrate Jesus? I must admit that I thought the person knew my views on such occasions, but I obviously was erred in my thinking! The person asked do I have children and how do they feel about not getting all the gifts and enjoying this wonderful occasion?
Sigh** there are so many ways I can begin on this, but I promise I will keep it light this time. I simply told this young lady that I am a regular reader of the Bible and yet to come across any insight in the word that even remotely indicates that I should place a decorated tree in my home and then place gifts under it for some one's birthday who is not even invited because it is for other people to receive?? Some how if you get past this tradition with false reasoning ability, you then factor in that a man named Santa (satan) who supposedly supplies gifts during this time of a depression and shoots down your chimney. Last time I checked, the Bible said we must worship our God with truth and spirit. Can someone explain the truth in any of this nonsense?
I very much enjoy gift giving and family gatherings, but my family and I choose to to this at other times during the year. I like to see the expression when I give gift for no other reason than I simply love the receiver of the gift. I guess that is how Jesus would do it, hummm. Speaking of Jesus, why does the nativity scenes never die out. Does Jesus want to be known for being born in a manger or does he want to be known for coming to Earth to die for our sins? I guess most people like to think of him as a baby rather than an active King in Heaven right NOW!!!
I am sorry, I had to go there. My point again is that, I don't mind the young lady asking me join her in this lie, but my no is solid....NO THANKS. I hope she doesn't ask me to smoke a cigarette cause I am firm on that too-lol! Christmas ain't for me and mine but I respect you and hope you can reciprocate that love.
I am not celebrating the lie.....Ward.....

Ya gotta love kids and life

Herb you are going to appreciate this one pimpin. I took my girls to the gym with me tonight to watch the game and not play this time. Of course they played and did everything but watch the game which was cool with me. After all, my dude and his woman came and we joaned on all the crappy players. I actually think we can put that show on the road-lol!
Anyway, I was thinking about being mad at loved ones and how we hold grudges for days on end. Shoot sometimes we even forget why we were mad. Its funny when you really think about it cause its worse than kids. Point: Our kids do the darn est things and we still forgive them and move on with out throwing it up in they face with each new mishap. We love them and accept them for who ever they turn out to be. Funny thing happens when it somebody we view as an equal or close to us. We are not as forgiving.
I know I am guilty of it too. But when I saw my girls get into an argument with each other and then laugh and playing in about 2.5 minutes later. I had to laugh to my self because kids are simple in nature. I learn so much from my interactions with them. Example, they don't care if I don't smile every time they see me, they still hug me, they don't care where we eat as long as we eat together, they don't mind riding in a hoop tee as long as we roll as a family. They actually say that they love me and I am the best Dad in the world. I laugh again, because they don't know other Dad's and more importantly I do plenty wrong, just ask my family-lol!
I feel good about today, mainly because I know that as long as I am alive, I have a chance to get right today what I failed on yesterday. I know that love is free and I had to opportunity to do my best with each new day. Ya gotta love kids and life... At least I do....
I am Ward that dude....

Disappointment

I am slowly getting back into shape. I really did not have too far 2 go because I have always been healthy, but I just needed to get my wind correct on the tread mill. I used basketball to keep my cardio up to par. Nevertheless, I played ball 3 days last week for about 2-3 hours per session, which is a lot considering the competition is half my age.
Well during one game, these younger (kids) were getting dominated and they hated that! They started fouling pretty hard, to the point where some body was about to get knocked the freak out. Normally I am a very calm person, but on this day and that many hits, something had to give.
I actually wanted to come out of the game, but my guy said we should play through it. I was disappointed because I don't like anyone getting football mixed up with basketball. I was literally pulled from the air and slammed to the ground. In a real game, this type of behavior would result in people being kicked out of the game and suspended for the next game.
In hind sight, I should have went with my first instinct and walked away when I first got slapped in the back of the brain. I guess it was a lesson learned for me. I am only going to enjoy this game in the future with men and no longer little boys.
I am disappointed Ward...

Relationship nine one one

Today I was asked about relationships again?? This person was sincere and really interested in what I had to say. They asked, what did I think was needed for two people to really be happy in these troubled times? The person also stated that quite a bit has gone down in their relationship and unsure if counseling could help, but still just wanted some realness from your boy Ward. Yall knowing how eye getz down, I did some thanking and researching and came up with the following.

Women Need this from their men to find us irresistible....
*He learns to create a home life that is full of affection and reassurance that he loves and cherishes her. He shows her and tells her this often.
*He sets aside time daily to talk to her with no interruptions. He cares about what her day was like and what she does.
*He must be completely honest and open with her about everything (that is what best friends do suckers).
*He provides financial support for her
* He is committed to the religious development and educational growth of the family.

Men need this from his compliment to find her irresistible.....

*When she learns to join him in a sexual relationship they both find satisfying and enjoyable. (Notice that is first for the man)
*She must become his favorite recreational partner.
*Maintains overall appearance in a way that (((HE))) finds physically attractive. Don't be fly at work and look like you just got mugged by three midgets when your man gets home. Show him what everybody else is smiling at...geezzze
*Keep the house looking tight. It don't take long to spruce up your house. A man will live in filth but his mind will be else where until his body follows.....
*UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE HIM MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE....EVEN THE KIDS.....You read the scriptures in Genesis Chapter 2-3......

Now do these steps as a couple and send Wardy twenty-three dollars and 38 cents and a pack of double fruity bubblelicious bubble gum and check my blogg in 2 months and see what you need to do next.....
I am WarD..

End of the year duties

What can I say? We are busy doing back to back classes at my job and meeting some very interesting clients. I must admit that each class has its own uniqueness which allows my self as a co-instructor to always learn something new 2! Many things that most of us take for granite could make the difference in someone else's life.
Let me see how I could say this without putting somebody out there on blast street. Lets just say that everyone does not know the Kings English or the importance there of. LOL!
I can see that in this economy, most people just want to do the right thing and get things that they want and need. The dilemma occurs when people want to take short cuts and expect it to turn out alright. By this I mean, if I want a well paying job with benefits but did not take the time to get myself together and do research and play the part--why should I get upset when someone gets my dream job.

Again, I am trying not to go there on this, but you know what I am saying. The job is gonna try and help as many people as possible B4 the end of the year. I enjoy the field of social work, but I am starting the realize that the recipients don't feel our desire to help them. Its more like an expectation for them. Some days I can see how a particular situation happened and then again I had to just shake my head and keep it moving. Hey it iz what it iz.....right?

Ward...I am he.

You better axe thumb bodeee

The shirt sez it all.As I sat atop this lonely Ferris wheel, it dawned on me..... Eye am smourt!

I am wardy...lol

My kids wanted me to write this blog

Today I am going to forgo my joy of self expression and type the memories from a trip to Chicago this past summer that I took with my daughters. This is what they have to say:


Kidz: We woke up early because we really had to have those cinaminon melts from McDonalds! We made sure we had the latest boot leg DVD's in the van to keep us quiet for Daddy's sake! This trip took a long time, we felt excited about going to Chicago to see our cousins & great granny!

While there we took some pictures, we went to an all you can eat soul food restuarant and it was really good! We rode the free trolley bus, we played in the big park by the lake! We went to my great granny's new apartment that looked a lot like a nursing home? We saw a big rock. We stayed at a hotel and watched TV all night. It was fun. Even though it was only the 3 of us, we had so much fun, that we want to go back. Next time we go, we are taking some of our freinds!!!

WaRD: This trip almost killed me. These darn kids asked me a million plus questions, they wanted everything they saw and they only wanted to watch one movie over and over again. I made sure I accidently broke that darn DVD when I returned home (lol). They never sleep unless I am driving, proably because they are recharging their batteries to get on my nerves to the fullest. Note to self, traveling by thy self might be a better move in the future>>>>

I am not missing Chicago Ward....

I try very hard to be PC, but some laws make me think........

Can you dig it, I made it through yet another week. I really starting dragging around Wednesday or so. Perhaps it is the cold weather that makes me move in slower motion. Nevertheless, I still managed to make it 2 my secular employment and meetings at the hall and even played some basketball. I think I will sleep late on Saturday cause I need my 16 hours of sleep, ya heard me.
Anyway, I was sitting at home watching Lafapalooza and started thinking about some of the crazy laws that are on the books. I understand that laws are basically for our protection, but sometimes I have to just grin and bare it. I have listed some of my favorite ironic laws below. Check them out and see what you thank!!

*No store in Providence, Rhode Island, is allow to sell a toothbrush on Sunday. But they can sell toothpaste and mouthwash on the Sabbath.
*In Atlanta Georgia, it is forbidden to dress a mannequin without first pulling down the window blinds. *It is also illegal to tie a giraffe to a telephone pole or street lamp.
*In Washington state, all lollipops are banned.
*An unmarried woman may not parachute on Sunday in Florida.
*In Kansas, it is against the law to catch fish with your bare hands.
*In Milwaukee, residents must keep pet elephants on a leash while walking them on public streets.
*In Atwoodville, Connecticut, it is illegal to play Scrabble while waiting for a politician to speak.
*In Muncie Indiana, it is illegal to carry fishing tackle in a cemetery.
*In New York, a fine of $25 may still be levied for flirting. This old law prohibits men from turning around on any city street and looking at a woman in that way. A second conviction for this offense requires the offender to wear a pair of racehorse blinders whenever he goes out.
*A law in Kirkland, Illinois, forbids bees from flying over the town.
*In Michigan, a man legally owns his wife's hair.
*It is illegal to gargle in public in Louisiana.
*In Iowa, it is illegal for a kiss to last more than five minutes.
*It is illegal to carry an ice-cream cone in your pocket in Kentucky.
*In Massachusetts, mourners at a wake may not eat more than three sandwiches.
And finally, don't forget that you can be fined up to $500 in Chico California for detonating a nuclear device within the city limits!
I dont know what you think, but i especially like the man legally owning his wife's hair, I am sure that would elimanate all them short hair do's-lol!!

I am WaRd.....

How well do you listen?

Communication is important in a relationship, but what I find is that it isn't that couples don't communicate--they don't listen. It is not enough 2 tell people to communicate when they don't know how to listen. Let me hit you with 5 quick tips on how to listen!
1). Listen with your EARS. Sometimes when we discuss things as important, passionate and personal as money,kids and sex, while the mate is talking, we are not listening but preparing our argument. We must listen with our ears and shut down the desire the immediately defend our view point. The ears work better when the windpipes are closed.
2). Listen with your MIND. Words come from the speaker's background and perspective. Many times words are based on a point of reference that you may not be aware of. So don't just listen to their words, but listen with your mind, understanding where they came from and what experiences that shape their views.
3). Listen with Humility. Make sure you heard your mate correctly. Repeat back what you heard. Many times couples are angry over what they thought the other meant and not what was intended. Humility is a hearing aid and saves the person the expense the expense of the apology later- trust me I know-lol!!
4). Listen with your Heart.Compassion is a critical part of understanding . It is difficult to love people without understanding them. Love seeks to understand. Listening with your heart will take away your natural propensity to be selfish.
5). Listen with Prayer. During disagreements in relationships many become frustrated because they want to fix what is wrong with their spouse. The only solution that I see is from the manufacturer- Jehovah God and not man himself. Because men and women speak a different language, try asking God to teach you the language of love of the person you are with! I find that people are saying what the other desperately needs to hear, but in a foreign language. I suggest reading the book "Women are Krazee...or do men make them that way" (Don't look for it cuz it is my own book-lol!!) I can't change people in a 5 minute blog reading, but I can start you thinking in a new direction.
I am the listening WarD....