Resist the spirt of the world pimpin!

I recently found out that in 1911, British authorities passed a law designed 2 save the lives of coal miners. Each mine was required to keep 2 canaries (Birdz)in case a fire broke out underground- the birds would start to show signs of distress or even die from carbon monoxide poisoning. These canaries are very sensitive to the gas and would serve as a warning for the miners to get the freak up outta Dodge!!! I am sure everyone knows the dangers of carbon monoxide, being a colorless, odorless gas that kills by stopping red blood cells from delivering oxygen in the body, unless its detected or removed.
My point in all this is this.....the world we live in has an similar effect on us without realizing it. I once had a buddy who driving down the street when some young kid cut him off out of the blue. My buddy speeds up after him to flip the kid off, but the kids responds with a baseball bat in the air and my buddy responds with a knife in the air and the kids flashes a shiny gun right at my buddy's head......needless to say this ended the game of I can do better than you can do!
Personally, I was standing in the returns line at Kmart for quite some time and finally when it was my turn a manager walks up from behind with another customer whom she stated had been waiting in another line. I explained that I have a life too and needed to get out as soon as possible as well. I was told that I would be next in another line. I found my self furious of this small set back. I guess I was slowing becoming like the world and did not realize it. In retrospect, my last blog eluded to how people were killed for shopping. It seems the world has a way making everyone think they must have the latest and best of everything. I over heard a girl at store say she needed a new cell phone because hers was 3 months old and out dated!!!! I wanted to pull her aside and talk to her, but I passed.
What I learned about myself....STOP BEING ANXIOUS about life. I must remember to monitor my figurative canaries. I must seek the positive things first and the rest will follow. I don't think honoring a commitment is equal to faking it or being pseudo....I see it as being true to your self.
I am trying to resist the spirit of this old world..

Dark Black Friday

Well the day that so many people waited for has come and gone, but not with out its issues. I regret to inform those who are not aware, a worker from a Walmart store was trampled to death by customers bursting through the doors to get the ""great deals"". Also a woman miscarried in that same stampede! I understand that many people are so excited about sales and shopping, but is it really that serious that you have to loose lives in the process.
I stepped back and gave this issue some serious thought and came up with the following. Businesses convince the world that they need the products that they produce, they bombard you with sales ads, then make it affordable and then hype it up. Sure the credit card companies want you to spend-spend-spend also. See, they get you with the over the limit charges and eternal debt. Of course they convince you that Jesus Christ was born on December 25th, but can't prove it, nevertheless, you need to get everybody a gift for this occasion except the honoree. What a process. Oh well if it is working and people don't mind the killing of innocent lives and the harm to your credit rating, then by all means do you.
Black Friday has come and gone. I just feel bad for the two families of the people mentioned above.
I am Ward...

She doesn't know me

I am so curious about relationships because of the high divorce rate!
The funny thing is, millions of people take this step yearly.
It really makes me wonder, do we fall out of love or get married for the wrong reasons.
If I had to gander at a random unhappy male perspective, I think it would go
something like this.....

I met the perfect girl 4 me-- someone who I hope stays the same forever. She is soft spoken and attractive. She is neat in appearance and quick with her clever wit. She offers her help and assistance before I even know I need it. She is not pushy by any means- She loves the Indianapolis Colts and has a mean jump shot to boot. She keeps her car on clean and full of gas, just in case we need to roll out to South Bend to get some bar-be-que! She trustz me completely and even though I hate to admit it, This woman is my best friend. When I arrive home, she greets me with a kiss and takes off my jacket. She lovingly asks "How was your day"! Makes a man stick his chest out when he thinks of her......

When I have to give her reproof for a false step, she doesn't think of me as judging her, rather loving guiding our relationship of the path of eternity. And when I am wrong in my judgement, she chooses not to yell and act brand new, she simply smiles and says in that loving voice, "Baby, I love you, but have considered this particular point of view", and I have to smile back and listen to what she is saying.

I love loving her because she is easy to love. Life without her was just Monday thru Friday---9 to 5, but now, the days go by like seconds and the options of fun seem endless.

Oh nooooo,,,, the alarm clock is going off! Its 5 am, I turn to my side and I squint my eyes to focus on the do ragged, big rollers and loud snore of the woman next to me. Even he snore sounds angry, what the #@(# have I gotten myself into. This ain't my friend, this is my enemy for ever! She knows my weaknesses, hates me and my friends, we never go out as a couple (4 good reason), I think I would have killed her long ago, if it had not have been for a real good episode of CSI.

O.k. perhaps this is a random situation, but I am sure its gotta be something like this to get that divorce rate so dang high! Then again, maybe she doesn't know me-you- or him at all!

I am Ward.....

Who cares about the so called Pregnant man?

I got up Saturday and prepared to start my normal routine. I turned on the T.V. and the story about the pregnant dude appears again. Normally I would not watch, but since I was sore from basketball Friday night, I sat there to find out what all the hoopla was all about.
I quickly found out that the dude (Thomas) has female genitals, but thinks he is a man. The other partner(Nancy) wanted to be a part of this, but could have children any longer so she took meds to trick her body in 2 thinking that she was pregnant and allowed her to produce Milk, thus allowing her to breast feed.
Wow! This is baby is going to have a lot of questions for its parents!!! Speaking of reactions, it seems like the world is confused with mixed emotions over these people lives. Its ironic how religious people become when something happens that they can't handle. I gave this situation strong thought before writing this blog. My thoughts were rather simplistic in nature. I think Thomas was born a woman and only women can have babies. I feel totally comfortable have sex and not worrying about getting pregnant. For Thomas to have a baby he had to use quite a bit of meds to get things back to the way they were created. Nancy, went through extremes also. What it boils down to is this. Its between their God and themselves. I genuinely care about them, but they are choosing their own paths. Time will tell if what they did was right or wrong and together we can all learn.
I am Ward and I refuse to get pregnant....lol!

Beauty is skin deep, but she got alot of skin...

It seems that every time I get done playing basketball with my guys, the conversation of finding a good woman sneaks up- The guys are saying that all the good women are taken or crazy (I tend to agree with the latter). But I really think that my guy friends need to look at the men in the mirror and make necessary adjustments. If you need to upgrade your shoes, get a fresh fade and pop a breath mint--then do as the Ethiopian man asked...."What is preventing me from getting a woman"-LOL! Of course reading a relationship book can do wonders also, but most guys feel like they know how to please a woman, so this option may not be explored.

What about the women? Man, where do I start? I can never understand Y yall hate on other women because you think you look better or got something that the other chick is lacking. I hear women give other women compliments, but its really pseudo! I am sure we are all familiar with seeing two women with same dress on at the party....chaos!!! My favorite point of confusion with females has to those women who knows they phine!!! I have an associate who has a college degree, excellent job, no kids and sweet ride, but no man..... She is not gay and looks alright, but what the problem izz? I will tell you ""Beauty is skin deep, but she got alot of skin"". I could break this down, but just look again at the posted picture with this blogg. Do you think Flav thinks he is unattractive. Do I have to say Flavor Of Love (seasons 1-2).
Tune in next blog and get my solution and advice for all yall single, fine diva's out there..
I am warD and I approve this blog!

The Obama Effect effected me......

Today a friend and I went out for a bite to eat. We wanted breakfast because its the best meal one can ever have in my opinion. Anyway, we stopped by this little unknown spot that had the $4.95 special. We walked in and quickly noticed that the restaurant had no other customers of color. I felt like I was in a scene straight of Spike Lee's "do the right thing" movie. You know the part where the man notices that all the pictures on the wall were that of white people. Yeah that was me. Well we thought for a moment about just sticking it out, but I just did not feel right about this situation. We left and went to a place where we felt more comfortable.
For the first time since the Presidential election I was forced to think about how non-black people feel about having a black President. For every past election, miniorities have grown accustomed to casting a vote for the white canditate they feel has their best interest at heart and keep it moving. Now the shoe is on the other foot. When I was at the previously mentioned resturant, I saw a glimpse of what the people are feeling. Most of them don't have any black friends, now the had a black commander in chief. What a shock to your system. Will Brack out law things they love, will he get even for the past, will he have a big cook out at the white house with ribs, chicken and chitterlings???
Yeah its ludicrious, but it is also reality that we all must face. I know I can dig it and I don't even vote, I just wish everybody could accept that color doesn't make you a good or bad- right or wrong person, its your actions....
I can not predict the future, but I can live the present. I over head a white man ask black man how he felt about having a black prez. The brutha said it was cool and never thought he would see it in his life. The white guy replied, I just want you to know that white people don't have black people just because they are black. Then he walked away. I said to myself, that is why I don't drink!!
Oh well, the Obama effect effected me and will continue to for quite some time.
I am Ward

Money doesn't motivate me....no more

I found this great paying job while job searching for my company. This is a leadership position and I fit the qualifications quite well, from the Degree requirements to the years of experience. The starting pay range is between $72,500 and $85,000. I thought ""SWEET"". The only draw back is that I would have to be in charge of other executives.
Now I know what you're thinking, what the problem is? I have been in charge of up to 40-50 staff at a time and its no walk in the park. I was once told if you are not a good leader when you start a job, you can count on your staff to make you one. I later found what that meant, but I will allow you to figure it out on your own as well. Anyway, I conducted a little experiment and asked my team of experts what they thought. Most were enticed with the toys that can of loot can bring, but I felt no one really thought about what real work this company would want form the chosen candidate. I think employers want someone to come in and clean house. Get rid of the old hard ankles stuck in the past with their old ways of thinking. They want you breath new life in2 the system and think waaay outside the box. Basically being "the man" or Mr. Bigg. Don't get it twisted, Wardy can handle his business, but when it gets down to it, I am not motivated by money like that no more. I want to be respected because of who I am and what I do naturally. Ya know doing it my way!! I believe in the art of persuasion with swift disciple and immediate and rewarding praise for getting it right. This world is 95% followers and 5% leaders. The majority complain and make it hard for the leaders, but that is the game, right?
For people like me, I have to be the man in my own business-that motivates me to the fullest. Are you happy at your current job? Would more money make you happy or want to stay. Are you taking classes to escape your job. I am sure you have your issues, but don't let the money make you---You make the money your way....

I am Ward

Just do you

Today I want to remind everyone what Russell Simmons has told us many a time before. Just do you. What ever that means to you is what is means. Its really ironic that 1 thing can mean two different thingz to each particular person.
When life gets you down, the job shows you no respect and the spouse is on your last good nerve...just do you.

I could get deep on this but I think all of you get my point....well I am sure Herbert Harris will be konfused and will need a side bar...lol

I am Ward...

Reaping what you sew?

The other day I heard someone say that when ever something bad happens to a person, that is not really a bad thing because now something good is going to happen to that person next. I really had to ponder that because I was thinking that no one ever says anything like that when something good happens. Think about this. A man gets finishes his college degree and gets a great dream job a house and a foreign sports car. Well you know what is gonna happen next? He is gonna loose it all to a very nasty crack habit. LOL!! 4 give me, I just have to go there sometimes.

Seriously, after thinking, I think I must agree with the title in a I really need to proceed with caution type of agreement. Referring back to the aforementioned hard working college man-- He put in his time and was prepared to move to the next level. So it was quite natural for him to expect some type of pay off. Likewise, a man who does nothing but play video games has significantly less options for his future and can only blame himself.

I guess the issue that perplexes me is people knowing the potential outcome of an endeavor and still proceeding.... then looking like a deer in head lights when it goes down. Some people are skerd to die and go to Hell (or so they think) but they dont curb bad behaviors? Could it be that we are not really sure of the future or we just do not really give ...a shut your mouth? Humm, must be personal. I 2 struggle with my self getting rich. I know what I have to do, but I always seem to drag my feet. I need to finish and publish my book, I need to get back on the comedy circuit and back to cutting hair part time. I think I am afraid of my own shine because I am comfortable here in normality.

I am ward...who are U?

Single, Wanting to date or unhappily married????

Got this friend who is ready for a serious relationship or even marriage. The funny thing is....depending on where you are in your particular situation in life... will determine how you feel about your own thoughts. I actually wonder how many people seriously think about the pensiveness of the words to the marriage vows and what they represent. I challenge you to google them and ponder them like I did. Back to my homie, plu-leez make sure you know your self first and be a whole person who can give and not just take. The person you are today, you won't be in 10 years....Trust me... and neither will your spouse. So enjoy your singleness while you got it.
Got this other friend who is unhappily married and always contemplating Divorce. On this I say that you must do what you feel is in your best interest. I personally feel it originates back to why you got married in the first place. If you all were in love or so you thought at one time, then, you can get that love back. Reflect back on the things that attracted you to your mate. Keep in mind that humans are very imperfect and if the offender is asking for 4giveness, then by all means ((Biggie)), give them one moe chance. Also keep in mind how powerful hearing "I am sorry" is from a repentant requester.
A sad fact is that many a couple get married for many a reasons other than love and quickly end up being unhappily married and facing a grave decision and many years of regret.
Its truly ironic 2 think, if we could go back in time armed with information we have now, would undoubtedly result in other decisions. Shoot, the spouse may feel similar too..lol! Nevertheless, if you are single, wanting to date or unhappily married, do your research, weigh your oddz and decide carefully and this time do the right things for the right reasons suckers.....
I am ward...

the color of love

Today eye thought about you, my friend.
The crazy way we met and the fun times we had,
all the silly fights and times we did not talk.
I have missed you, dissed you, kissed you, but I always
kept you in my life.

Sometimes you made decisions that I questioned, while at others
I applauded your brilliance. Yes you are a superstar who doesn't
even know the shine of your own star!!

I just wanted to take time out to let you know ((yes You sucka)) that
ya boi has mad love for you. Distance and time are known to separate people but the new system has a way of making things last for ever......

I am the color of love...Ward....

I guess he did it after all

I thought it could happen, but I was still unsure if it would, just like you. I am not sure what is gonna happen, but I feel everything this man does carries the weight of all of Black America. Here is looking at you Mr. Prez! Better you than me.....I can dig it pimpin!!!

I am Ward

Basketball is just a freaking game

OMG!! Let me tell you about my Monday night game of basketball! I wasn't really feeling it tonight and was not even planning on playing. I just basically wanted to go and watch my dude play because I introduced him to this spot. Well I got there and the locally ball hogs was there with the I am gonna shoot first and ask pass questions later attitude. I was just sitting on the side line shaking my head thinking this is not my ideal of fun. But a funny thing happen when I was about to get up and leave. The negative guys who had to win at all cost decided to dip. Literally half of those bad boys decided that they were unhappy and and straight left. This meant, I could suit up and play because the game would be less Well my boy whom I brought up to the spot picked me to be on his team. I told him that since I was on the side lines so long, that I needed to get the rust of me, and he was immediately upset, because he feels that you should be ready to go all out any time you step on the court. I had a so-so first game and decided I would play better because he was right, I knew I could do my thang with these dudes. So next game, I was blocking shots and playing the defense. Funny thing on the opposite end--- I did not get the ball to shoot. It was like I was invisible. They kept passing to dudes who were double teamed. True they hit a few but, we still lost. My guy was missing lay ups all night. That is like not knowing the answer to 1+1 =2!! Well, We talked after the game and it lasted until 11pm. My friend feels that he has to leave it all on the court. He wants to give 10000%, at least that is what he thinks. I just found the whole thing comical. Basketball is just a freaking game that none of us are getting paid for. If we were that good, we would be playing for a professional team- would we not?
Please understand, I think basketball is the greatest game ever invented, but it iz still a GAME!!!! How can you get all worked up, yell and scream and go on and on to the break of dawn and then go home and get up and go back to your job and have a third of that same emotion for work. Talk about ironic? For me personally, I just want to run and bang and sweat and get my jumper or two and block some shots out the gym and congratulate my opponent and go home. I guess for some people basketball is serving some other deficiency, but I don't have it. I seen guys pull guns on each other this game but I also know the fun side of it 2. The important thing to do is keep your sports in perspective. Balling is what you do and not who you are...unless your the next Michael Jordan......and sorry your not.....
I am Ward...

Family Fued

What a week-end! My Dad came down from South Bend to house sit my 3 teenaged nephews while their parents dipped out of town on a vacation to the Islands. Well all went as expected. My Dad got upset like he always does (he is out of touch with young people) because the boys were acting like students do when ever they have a substitue teacher.....of the chains. The talking back, total disrespect of elders and always being away from home and no one really knowing where you are.
I know boys will be boys, but something extra happen. My oldest nephew go fed up with the younger one and took matters in his own hands and tried to discipline him and it didn't set well with either of them.
The ironic thing about this scenerio is that the road to Hell is paved with good intentions or so they say. To make a long story short we had a family meeting and talked this thang out job readiness style and may have learned somethings all about everybody.
The lessons I hope we learned was that, love must be told and shown, physical force is not always the answer and that quality time is a way for all of us to get to know each other and a way for us to always be family first.
I enjoy my nephews, but what we did in the past wont work for the future. So start today a new and lets do like Rodney King ( not get high and run from the cops) and just all GET ALONG>>>>>

I am Ward