Cognitive Dissonance at its finest.....

     Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong (too strong if you ask me). When they are presented with evidence that works against that believe the new evidence cannot be accepted! It would crate a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called COGNITIVE DISSONANCE. And because it is to important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize, ignore and even deny anything that doesn't fit in with the core belief.
      I have seen men leave 5-10 year relationships, turn around and get married to a woman he's known for 6 months. And does all the things he ex always begged him to do. (Word of advice: stop preaching to these men-"they hear you!") It is this writers opinion that these men are never going to be the man that these particular women need because they are not the women that these men really want to be with. People change for who they want to be with period....... 
      It is not uncommon for a woman to date a man for several years and never figure what the last two paragraphs have shown. If you are not 1 of them, you undoubtedly heard of them on social media. They can be found posting things like "no good men left in my city" or "God don't like dirty" or "Karma is a.....well you get the point! Could it be that these women are really victims of loves games or were they just in too deep with cognitive dissonance? 
      Don't get it twisted, cognitive dissonance goes in to a myriad of areas of life with its many followers. Have you noticed how Donald Trump has followers who this dude is really for them and their families. I do not get involved with politics because the Bible makes it clear to avoid the entire genre of lies, but the average person with a 3rd grade education can see what his agenda (and other people of the politics) is about, yet here we are!
       How about one more? Society believes that if a person goes to a restaurant to eat, that he/she should  tip the server because the owner of said business pays the staff $2.15 per hour. Of course, the staff has to support a family of 8 and three dogs and two cats of that money, so its imperative that the customer pays the tip! They owner who obviously has no money goes to the extent of having tip amounts printed on the bottom of the receipt for the customers convince. Here is the hard truth my friend. The world is an unfair cold place where people of different colors and economic backgrounds are treated badly. So it is foolish to think a black person (especially a man) will get the same tip as someone white! But we are always encouraged to tip the poor servers right? The best thing to do would include paying with wait staff a decent way with benefits and forbid tipping. Studies had shown that the server will be better on both ends, but then again who am I to try to change the minds of people who have strongly entrenched views.

I am WarD.......