I believe there exists 3 types of women in this world and each has her own set of challenges. 1). The single sister, 2). The married sister and the 3), The divorced sister! Nobody has to be perfect but we presumably should aware of our own various selves and thus own them like we have the receipts.
Most women do not realize that their thoughts are not always in harmony with the male perspective. Its true that are designed to be logical, because we are the head of the relationship (if you don't agree, I suggest you read your scriptures and take that up with God) and should make good decisions for those under his care. I will be the first to admit that men can and often do make mistakes, but that is not an excuse for the woman to think its her turn to run the show, after all you both choose each other and knew the roles that had to be played out. When you think about it, what does the mate that anyone chooses say about the chooser? Never-mind, that is another topic.....
The single woman is comfortable being alone and not having to answer to a man. She doesn't have any expectations about the "whats for dinner conversation",or if she wants to clean her home or perhaps should she spend $500 of those red bottoms??? Actually she is doing exactly what she should be doing in this case, but would it not behoove her to consider, that if she enters into a future relationship- that she might have to make some changes. They say hind sight is 20-20, right? Nevertheless, single sisters are out there and for most, they eventually move to being a married/dating woman.
The married woman has been pursued by her man, he obviously feels she is the one for him and he makes it official. The thing that gets me is that point in the relationship that goes from total bliss to arguing and lack of respect, constant arguing and the whole gambit that follows this pattern. Is the man or the woman? If the man is the problem, he feels that the woman is no longer the same person he thought so highly of and he is very displeased with this outcome. He has in the back of his mind, that maybe things can be salvaged, but also feels that it may never be the same again. If the female is the problem, she may have a tendency to focus on the negative and completely ignore the positive things when they finally get in a relationship. A real recipe for disaster. No man wants to constantly argue with a woman, especially over issues that he feels are irritating.
The divorced/"single again" woman. This lady tends to be the woman who has moved thru all 3 stages and looking to find the next sucka and make him pay for the sins of the last dude/s! She has had deep conversations to her smartest single girlfriends, along with reading tons of cosmopolitan magazine and fully equipped with all the incorrect reasoning abilities to make a snow flake consider living on the sun! I find that its easier for men to fall out of love quicker because women spend a great deal of time and effort trying to make an unhappy relationship work. Why is that you wonder? Women have a much harder time finding suitable men, ya know- someone on their level. So, after the divorced woman completed all she unintentionally had to do & force the man to leave her, she realizes he was the problem (not her) and now has a new perspective on how all men are dawgs.
So in conclusion, the post title is "Why do some women lose a good man by complaining over irrelevant things". I want to leave you with this thought about what men want and what women want.
MEN WANT: Loyalty-Sex-Food-Encouragement
WOMEN WANT: Loyalty-Money-Intimacy- Love-Gifts-All Passwords- Cell Phone Access--Email Account Data-Contacts (with pics)-Attention-Compliments-The Sun-The Moon-The Stars-Your Time (all of it)-Receipts-Explanations- and much more lol!
I am WarD......
