The biggest relationship issue that many mask as love....is CONTROL!!! (Understand that control), you must know that relationships add to a persons life not take away...SO- when you think, your're going to waltz in and outright change the way a person lives, think again my friend! To satisfy your own personal needs may be considered selfish. That's when love walks out and control waltzes right on in. Common example of control you ask?
Wanting them "not" to associate with members of the opposite sex. Not being able to use their cell phones to speak to people you don't think are trust-able. Their leisure time, must be our leisure time. The things they enjoy doing come second to yours!!! Or seize to exist anymore. Hypothetically, one wonders, what's going on with my significant other* They are starting to look at me different. Almost as if he/she resents me? Somehow you've managed to gulit trip them into doing things your way. Or simply manipulated them by down talking or implementing your views on their choices.
Truth is people don't know they do it, because they mask it as a little protective, a little jealous and a tad bit insecure. Never admitting, they just want to control you. Literally, if you agree with them to compromise everything will flow easier. 2 different lives merge together in a relationship, only the strong, understanding and loving will survive. Evaluate your situation and handle accordingly.
The scriptures say Marriage is forever or until death does yall apart. So why not take the time to look closely at your self, what you want/need. Next look at what you can offer to someone else and what their potential needs may be. Then go 4th armed with this new found understanding and expectations of love.
*Please note, that if your partner mentions that he/she requests that you end said behavior that is a major source of discomfort is not always control as compared to sanctions in the union.
I am WarD......
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