Couples who become competitive and fight about who’s right or wrong can destroy the love they originally had for each other. The partnership way is to focus on fixing the problem. What makes love last is an attitude of “I want both you and me to get what we want” in this relationship.
The quickest way to destroy love is to hold on to resentment. Allowing old hurts and grudges to go unresolved is corrosive. Resentment is like rust that eats away at the bonds of your relationship. It’s important to learn to clear up resentment by first recognizing it in yourself, then confessing it and learning to solve the problems that caused it.
Men and women have different reasons for falling out of love. Dudes often disconnect from their females when they don't feel the chicks are interested in them anymore. Because men often have a difficult time with intimacy, someone at who seems to hear you and make you feel your thoughts matter while not make demands can be very tempting!!!!
Females disconnect because they feel unloved or taken for granted. They complain for a while, then withdraw. Once she gives up on getting the desired attention from her partner, that sucka who keeps sweating her or the single dude that once caught her eye is now being attentive, can make her feel wanted.
In either case it just a matter of time. Remember when you (the couple) first met, the woman wore something to make others notice her (esp the dude she wants, so she walks by him until he thinks it was him who peeped her first lol) and the man approaches and offered you that first non-alcoholic drink! You two hit it off, became friends, began dating and (some got married to your partner). But now FFW to August 2014. What the freak happened????? Silly arguments about ex-lovers and friends, jealousy being in extra full effect, your leash is so tight that dogs on the street are laughing when you walk by and both of yall often argue in silence, while telling everyone else that "y'all are fine? The only person who can't see that lie is the couple!
Ironically, some women feel that by sexing a dude on command will keep him happy, others feel that forgiving a dude for every mistake that comes with a good excuse is the key and others think that just hanging in there and hoping this unforeseen pain will improve with time is an effective to way to cope! Good luck with these choices!
I personally have learned that in order for couples to get out of this cycle of craziness, couples must learn to communicate with each other in ways the other can relate to. It has been said that every 7 years, we all change-evolve or grow. Heck, who wants to stay the same anyway, but the problem is we often grow 1 of 2 ways. Either we grow together or grow apart. Its truly up to the couples BOTH wanting to be on the same page.
Wardz simple (beginner advice) solutions for everyone that looks at their mates with the syde eye consider this....
* I agree not to argue, yell, shout, fight or bring up resolved issues about past relationships- with you. If we have a disagreement, we'll discuss it like a business deal, focus not on who is right or wrong, but on what will fix the problem. If there's any problem we can't solve together in three days, we'll go seek a trusted mediator.
*I agree to be honest, even if I know you won't like it. There's a kind way to say what I need to say, and I'll figure it out.
*I agree to work with you and view you as my equal partner. We will focus on partnership, cooperation and team building, of course praying togeather & studying the Bible togeather!
Sure its easier said than done, but if you have love, then its worth a try-right? Love is not suppose to hurt, it just requires upgraded efforts that will show how the the lovers really feel about each other! (Men want respect and Women want love/attention)
I am Ward.....
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