I can't sit down long enough to do this.....

Sitting up late one night I had an epiphany! I realized that repetition is the key to ultimate success. Now before you go thinking I am crazy, please read on 1st,suckers!!!! Think about it like this, when we first take on a task of learning something new, doesn’t it seem boring and uninteresting? Take for example,learning how to speak a foreign language. We have to really think about remembering what letters and sounds add up to. We must slow down and take our time -thus adding to our frustrations on the issue. Heck we live in the microwave society,where getting our Hot Pockets headed up in 22 seconds is not quite fast enough -considering we didn’t have the microwave several years back! Any who, with patience, practice and dedication we start to learn that language and soon something ironic takes place. Our words starts 2 match our minds eye, and we are flowing and getting down with the best of them at the flea market-lol! Before long, this language becomes not only easy but actually fun because we are no longer fighting it but embracing it and allowing our excuses to become stepping stones to mastery. I watched my daughter hate math, but soon get straight A’s in advanced math!!! How did she do it you ask? Well, she started spending more time, thinking about it, not talking about the usual things such as “When am I ever gonna use this” or “why do I have to complete so many of these hard problems”. I was both proud of her and amazed at the simplicity of the lesson she unknowly taught her old man. She showed me even though things are difficult on the onset, consistency will reap benefits if we do not tire out from boredom. In fact, there are many individuals who can’t handle repetition or boredom and they give up and miss out on a life style that never could have imagined. Look at Michael Jordan, he wasnt the best player in High School, because he got cut from the team his Junior year. He wasn’t even the best player in college; he was the 3rd or 4th option to shoot the dang ball. What he did do was, master the basics of shooting correcting (he developed a beautiful jump shot), he grasped the importance or lay up, running and conditioning his body. The result form his hard work was 6 NBA championships, multiple MVP awards and millions of $$$$! But we complain about having to learn Spanish from Rosetta stone… Really people?? Repetition is a bugga wolf to get over but once we do, we can go from crawling to sprinting----from baby talking to singing like Whitney Houston (before the Crack of course). You get me point. I challenge you to quit wasting time and start to use the beautiful mind Jehovah has given you and make it dew what it can do baby….. I am Ward…..

Living/Working with the Enemy.....

How many times must you put up with someone who obviously enjoys the art of yelling and screaming every time they come on the scene? Perhaps it is a learned talent that has been perfected over the years, but you still find it a tad bit hard pill to swallow. See eye recently ran across some timely information that eye am sure is gonna help me but if you are not careful, it just may help you also! Peep game, I like things in my home to be neat and orderly. It just feels better to me that way, ya know peaceful like a breath of fresh air, but my kids at times seemed to have no problems with jacking up my fungschwayyyy. They would come home and drop book bags, shoes, jackets and anything else they had----right smack dabb in the middle of the room. Oh it didn't stop there! They would immediately run for that much "needed" after school snack. (I guess they were starved at school or something). I am talking about crumbs everywhere like they had just left the site after the free concert at the black expo!! I didn't make anything no better by throwing a tizzie fit and talking to myself out loud about how nasty the place was looking. This tool wasn't bringing out the best in my kids because it was actually reinforcing the worst in them. I was helping them to think that they were slobs and its just the way it’s going to have to be. Now I am more aware of self and teaching skills from listening to others complain about cussing spouses, mean bosses and ignorant co-workers I decided to try out and write about the Pygmalion power technique. Here is an example..... Linda had been married to Carl 4 several years. Carl had a terrible temper and could out cuss the best dock worker on any given Sunday! Carl was one of those people to whom home is where you go when you're tired of being nice to people of the world. As soon as that sucka walks in the door of his home, he would unload his frustrations about work on Linda. Heck, Linda honestly thought about lurching on her relationship but decided to stay with this work in progress. She decided she would have to change her own behavior in order to change the situation. That evening when Carl walked in the door and began his normal routine of cussing and fussing, Linda raised "HER" voice loud enough for Carl 2 hear her and she said "Carl that not like you (even though it was-lol)You know you would never want to upset the family intentionally!!!". Carl was caught off guard and just left feeling confused. Oh you know he didn't change overnight, because he kept at it for 3 weeks straight and each time Linda did her same action to his. Then after the 3rd week that sucka came home and before she could jump him with her thing, he put his hand up as a sign of forgiveness and asked her about her day. She laughed and he laughed and they never experienced that negative outburst again.... My good friend Dana helped me to realize that this is not always the easiest thing to put N 2 practice when someone is acting like a jerk. you have to spend some time mentally rehearsing it before you're able to talk this way with ease-right? You may have to force ur self to hope that they will eventually change, when it doesn't even look like it can happen. Trust me...hard work pays off!!

Now with that being said, you already know what I am doing with my kids- don't you. I am going for clean rooms and good attitudes. Heck, this might even work for me at my job.... I am Ward....

Always a bit of over Sale in every relationship

Many times before have I heard that someone was tricked by their mate when the first entered into their relationship. Perhaps the woman no longer cooks for her man, or the maybe the dude no longer courts his old lady. Does that mean that they both were lied to? I guess it really depends on how you look at. Perhaps the aforementioned woman used to cook them home cooked meals for her dude because he made her feel special and she wanted to return the favor by doing something she could was good at that he would hopefully appreciate. What about the man, did he feel his woman was no longer worth sending flowers to anymore or sitting and talking 4 hours about nothing? Or could it be that both of the people in question have forgotten that wonderful feelings they once had. I personally like to think of it as being a little bit of over Sale in every relationship. What I mean by that is, that as imperfect humans we tend to put our best foot 4ward,right? We always prefer others to see us as close to perfection as possible. Who wants to be seen as someone who is extra jealous, a bad money manager, unhappy with their job or some other hidden weaknesses. The ironic thing about relationships is that eventually all that we are trying to cover up usually comes out at some point doesn't it? The next phase is when we expect the significant other in our lives to over look the fact that we omitted sharing initially.
Take my often mentioned guy "Mike". He has been living his with lady for the last 9.5 years and they have weekly arguments about something he 4 got to mention when they first met. See Mike was in a bad relationship when he met (Angie) and he was leaving that situation anyway. After 3 weeks of getting to know Angie he decided he was officially leaving the other woman (he only dated her for 3 months and wasn't feeling it) and he did and moved forward with Angie and never looked back. Well Angie found out about the other woman a year later and says to this day that Mike was cheating on her and is untrustable????
Angie thinks Mike lies to her about every thing because of that. He has tried telling her that he was getting to know her and that he was sorry, but she ain't hearing it. My point you wonder. Mike didn't tell Angie up front that he had someone, but he expects her to understand or at least forgive him after all these years. In all reality this relationship is toxic now and has a good chance of turning out bad. Anywho, back to my point of the blog. Over sale is everywhere if we open our eyes. Have you ever started a job to find out that all they told you was on partially true, but 100% of the things they didn't tell you is all true-lol! And my favorite, is the weight loss commercials, the fine print says results not typical, but they show the super thin and in-shape models that we could be like if we try their products! Again, its not what they are saying that we must learn to understand, rather its what they are not saying!!!! Heck I still remember when this dude I thought was cool, he asked me to loan him $20.06 to get his heart medz cuz he forgot his wallet. What he didn't say was he was a well established crack head. Yeah he got Wardy, but now I know-right? I recently encountered a mother who asked her daughter for some money until she got paid and told her she would double the money back on a certain day? We all know what that move was, don't we. Long story short, that money still hasn't returned and probably never will....SMH!
What I am trying to do now is learn to be more understanding with others because no one wants to be called out on our bull shiggadee in 2012. Well,I gotta end this blog now because, I just saw an ad on TV for a free Ipad 2 if I just give them my email!!! I am so excited.....or is this just another sad case of over sale?
I am Ward