Another day with my crazy friends has further shown me that women are truly crazy & men don't make them that way at all. My homeboys girl is stuck so far in the past on imaginary things that if she hitched a ride with Marty from back to the future, she still couldn't let go! I hope she tries the following or at least get one of them hug your self white jackets that they sale down at the hospital!
1) Pinpoint the reasons for your jealousy: is it based on a past event? Has your partner lied to you? Once you have a reason, you can begin to work on the solution. Awareness of the reasons for your jealousy is important.
2) Identify what role your insecurities are playing in this -- is this based on a previous relationship? Has your partner REALLY done anything wrong? Is this a problem with low self-esteem?
3) Tell your partner about your jealousy using "I feel" statements. Feelings aren't up for debate, and an open line of communication -- WITHOUT being accusatory (Work in Progress) -- is key here. It could be as simple as, "I feel jealous when you spend so much time with your friends."
4) If your jealousy is stemming from something to do with a past relationship, remind yourself that you're in the present. You are no longer in that relationship, this is a new partner, and as such he or she should be given a chance.
5) Really let yourself feel the jealousy. Don't tell yourself you shouldn't or should "be over it" (that's one of the quickest ways to guilt). Become hyper aware of the reasons for the envy. Facing it head-on will cause jealousy to lose some of it's power.
I am Ward-Neva jealous.......
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