Men who commited to women, said they did when they were able to say the following.......

1. She has an open and welcoming smile that goes beyond the surface deep inside her eyes -- the window to her soul. Her eyes and her whole demeanor kind of "lights up" when you walk into the room or towards her.

2. She let's you be you. She does not want to change you - clean you up, re-make you or rename you etc - so she can love you but accepts you just the way you are.

3. She genuinely enjoys your company - isn't afraid to ask for it or tell you that she enjoys being around you. Being around her feels like being around your best friend because you can truly be just yourself -- no feeling like you're always walking on egg-shells or trying too hard to please (and always coming short). The experience of being around her is "satisfying" in its own.

4. She goes out of her way to do things she thinks will make you happy. She's the woman who'll call you just to say "hi" or "I was thinking of you" however busy/tired she is.

5. She is independent and secure within herself. She does not need constant attention and does not put pressure on you to feed her self-esteem, anxiety or worries about the future.

6. She's there for you when it's up and when it's down. She's happy out in an expensive restaurant just as she's happy sitting next to you on the couch, doing nothing.

7. She does what she says she will do. She does not play mind games but lets you know where you stand because she cares enough to treat others the way she'd like to be treated.

8. She believes that a relationship should be a 50/50 give-and- take partnership. With her it's not always "Me, me, me" but "we" and "us". Not only does she believe in a 50/50 give-and- take partnership, she takes her 50% part of the partnership seriously.

9. She shows respect for you not only in private but more so in public because she cares about how others see you and treat you.

10. She's not just nice to people she has something to gain from but is kind and treats the doorman, the customer service rep, the waitress, the beggar on the street, a child, the elderly etc. with compassion and respect. This is a telling sign of how she'll treat you once she feels she has you and isn't trying to impress you anymore.

11. She genuinely wants to be in a relationship with you and not just looking for "any man" to solve all her problems. She talks positively of the opposite sex but also not blind to their shortcomings.

12. She likes the things you like and makes an effort to do even the things you like and she doesn't.

13. She's not embarrassed or too proud to show you how much she loves you. She gives you her love and she also gives you her trust with out the silly games and emotions guys hate.

14. She's positive, happy with her life and always upbeat. She does not try to put other girls/women down to look better than she really is.

15. She makes you feel like you really matter even with all your faults and shortcomings--she likes your gifts and wants to always show you that the man is in control of the relationship and she is cool with that!

*Now the real question is (((why are you REALLY single)))??????

i am Ward...

I gave you my opinion on ur situation, but why you making me upset by not doing what I suggested Sucka?

Many timez before "The Ward" has stated that every counselor needs a counselor. I don't care who we are: We all need to have a sounding board for our daily issues if only to just to keep from talking to ourselves or making sure we aren't 2 crazy-RIGHT? Well today I was reflecting back on the long week I just completed and realized that like many people eye know have spoke to me about issues of importance to them as I did with them. 1 think that we all had in common was ......no matter how good the responses we heard from our loved ones on our issues-We,in the end,choose our own destiny, do we not? I guess looking back on my childhood, my parents always inculcated a sense of right and wrong with in my sister and myself. Nevertheless, I at times still got in minor trouble, I skipped school, got speeding tickets and dated the very wrong girls-lol! O.k. the long and short of this entry is this. I think in our limited insight we tend to think that since we feel this way, that others must be ludicrous to think opposite of us: HOW DARE YOU THINK ON YOUR OWN!!!!
I am personally trying to work on this type of reasoning so I can become a better man. Once a friend who has 3 kids asked me what did I think about him getting a new tiny car. The ironic thing was he could have gotten any car he wanted but he wanted the small car. I was thinking why not get the van, but I saw the look in his eyes. He wanted that car and I remember taking a deep swallow and saying go for that small car! Ironically he ended up getting the van! I so desperately wanted to say "Fool- get the ride that fits and not just looks good, but I didn't and I learned something new that day!
Recently another good friend asked me about giving their opinion to someone who didn't take their advice. She felt that due to all of their other failed attempts at resolution that she would end their friendship! At first I was shocked, saddened, disappointed and confused as to why she felt that way. Then it dawned on me again, that who said I have the right to judge others views (even if they are Klearly Krazee). I soon realized sometimes when others confide in us its usually for 1 or 2 reazons. Either they really value our judgement/respect us or they just want to talk and have us just agree with their perspectives. Additionally, the confider is probably unaware that the listener is being emotionally drawn into your broke situation. When e don't take the advice that we requested sometimes people do get hurt/burned/mad at you. We get tired of seeing loved one take shots to the dome while we stand helpless by like strangers in the night. It is hard not to let people do what they gotta. As I mentioned, my folks looked out for me, but during that time I didn't necessarily know that and even if I did know, I am sure I would have wanted to do what I wanted to do-you know you been there before 2.
When we allow ourselves to be drawn into others lives, we are in a sense letting it become a part of us and that's the beginning of the end. Good example is our Heavenly Father, he can use selective foreknowledge of what our personal outcomes will be and he tries everything short of doing for us to protect us. Yet, he doesn't give up on us if we want to follow his lead. He knows he is right but never brow beats that fact into us. I would image that he realizes that even though some times we know something is bad for us that we still gotta test it out just to make EXTRA sure!
Let me end by saying this. A friend is one sticking closer than a brother and you cant stop being a brother, but you can keep a safe-loving distance. When our hommies fall, we need to be there to help them up or at the very least be able to say,"What did you learn from this experience and we gonna get through this together but with a plan this time.
At the end of the day your wounds become part of you, as due the reminders of hard lessons learned from our personal choices. Reasoning point: When we jump out of a plane we have not 1 but 2 parachutes because you need a back. You may never need it but its nice to have it, isn't it.Right or wrong, we ask trusted ones to hear us give and opinion of us and continue to love us anyway. The ball is in your court, now don't miss the friendship shot sucka!

I am Ward...

Some deep questions people ask in job interviews.....

What would you do (the red or blue pill pimpN?)

You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass
by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:

1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

2. An old friend who once saved your life.

3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be
one passenger in your car?

Think before you continue reading.

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.
You could pick up the old lady, because she is going toddy, and thus you should
save her first. Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life,
and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be
able to find your perfect mate again.

The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming
up with his answer. He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my
old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind
and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."

Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought
limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."

However, the correct answer is to run the old lady over and put her out of
her misery, have relations with the perfect partner,then drive off with the old friend for some fun at the game room downtown at the Circle Center Mall.

I am Ward......see ya down town

Random answers to what women told Wardy them want from they man!

*The type of dude im lookin if is one that would Grab the back of my neck when he kisses me, (it’s a real turn on)…and Not my butt/boobs..

*A dude that would call me before i fall asleep and after i wake up…A dude that would treat me like a person and not something to show off…A dude who would kiss my forehead and looks into my eyes and i can feel everything he’s see’s in me…A dude that teases me and let me tease him back…A dude that stay’s up all night with me when I’m sick….A dude that holds my hand in front of his friends and is not ashamed to show how he really feel’s about me around his friends and family…

*dude that would TRUST ME WITH MY GUY FRIENDS…A dude that would let me wear his clothes (like his t-shirt)and thinks it’s sexy…A dude that would hang out with me if I’m bored and sad…A dude that would let me know I’m the most important person in his life and that I come FIRST

*A dude that would kiss me in the pouring rain…A dude that when I run up to him crying, the first thing he say’s is “Who’s %#&@$! am I kicking babe?”

*AND NO MAN IS WORTH UR TEARS AND WHEN U FIND THE MAN WHO IS, HE WILL NEVER MAKE YOU CRY! That would be my PERFECT DUDE



Hummm, perhaps on some levels, but then again, from a guyz perspective, we just want a soldier who is down for us, who can cook and keep "herself" and our spot clean and be faithful to her mane....ya feelz me?

I am Ward...

Pssst......

Even when I’m mad at you, I miss you

Even when I’m sad about us, I miss you

Even when I’m happiest, I miss you

I wish it weren’t so hard

I wish we didn’t test each other

I wish we could truly trust each other

I wish you knew how much I cared and then you would not fear me

I wish you knew how often you cross my mind and then you would not doubt me

I wish we could get along for all times because it just feels like something is missing when we are apart…. Like a leg, like an arm, like the ability to breathe on my own. I feel like I have to have assistance to breathe without in you in life otherwise I may forget and just die.

What Ward Wunders......

Did you know that dolphins are so smart that within a few weeks of captivity, they can train people to stand on the very edge of the pool and throw them fish?
A bank is a place that will lend you money, if you can prove that you don't need it.
I thought I wanted a career, turns out I just wanted paychecks.
Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
Whenever I fill out an application, in the part that says "If an emergency, notify:" I put "DOCTOR". What's my mother going to do?
I didn't fight my way to the top of the food chain to be a vegetarian
A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.
I didn't say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it...so I said "Implants?"
The shinbone is a device for finding furniture in a dark room.
I am ward...(is a way of saying this post is done sucka)

Wardy Ordy......

I wish to compare you to all the best, it all seems so cliché,
All the best "compare's" are taken, so now I fall into deep thought.
To a rose, your petals blue, your scent is so 4heady,
A sunset to as well, your colors blend so very "KLEARLY".
To the first breath a child takes, fresh from the womb,
You are the first breath I take, morning, night and noon.
I say this not, for staying on ur mind, or to gain your love,
I say this all to show my love, to convey my heart, toward a dove.
Through the peaks of our love, and the valleys of our pain,
You showed me how to live not in the purity of vain.
You were somehow my heart, my soul, my brain.
I would like to think I am the same but u think I changed,
No longer the old me, To the world I am new "G"
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can't compare U to others,
Moreover I compare others to YOU.
I am Ward.....

These chicks is getting paid for this scripted shizzzz-sho!!

1. NeNe Leakes - $750K per season, plus a $250K bonus for doing the reunion show
2. Kim - $600K per season plus a $150K bonus for doing the reunion show
3. Sheree - $550K per season plus a $150K bonus for doing the reunion show
4. Kandi - $450K per season plus a $100K bonus for doing the reunion show
5. Phaedra and Cynthia - $300K per season plus a $75K bonus for doing the reunion show
6. Marlo - $75K - she must be available for filming on request.
6. Peter (Cynthia's husband) - $75K - he must be available for filming on request.
7. Kroy and Apollo - $50K - must be available for filming on request.

I am Ward.....

Bad customer service and Girl twalk......

I klearly must be a bad customer service magnet because I promise to Popeye's chicken that I gets my fair share of it daily! Just today, I stopped by Kmart to get a plastic shelf holder and ended up getting $73 worth of items that probably could have waited. As I waited in this long line, I heard the super ghetto "check out chick" twalking crazy to the customer in-front of me.I knew what to expect when I got up front. So here we go! She looked at me and I saw a touch of crazy in her left eye as she started to swipe my items past the scanner and then it happened! She broke my jar of pickles. I was standing there and still don't know why she slammed the jar down when all she had to do was to swipe it. She stood there looking at me with pickle juice and broken glass all over the belt. She took off and came right back with paper towels (obviously not enough because she decided to go back and get the whole role). She then called her supervisor and asked what should she do now. The supervisor looked at me and the girl and said who broke the pickle jar? Nobody responded because it klear they who broke it. They grabbed my bread and squeezed it and thought I was gonna keep it....NOT!!!! Finally the mess was cleaned up and the line was extra long. Then ghetto girl looked at me and smiled and asked did i find everything I needed. I just walked away. I wasn't trippin over the attitude of the check out chick, I just am amazed at the customer service of many of the stores of today @ times. I was just hoping that maybe I could get a hello and thank you. Didn't happen on this day huh?
I am Ward.....

i think its really time people.........4 CHANGE

Sucka Eye DOn't Knowz you.....do eye?

I was just sitting here thinking about the things that I don't know! Have you ever really thought you knew somebody- only to find out that you really don't know them at all. I guess we sometimes look past the obvious just to keep the peace. For example, they say you cool and all, but you can't be their Facebook friend-lol!Heck you don't know any of their friends, family or how they get from point A to point ...C! Or what about when they want you to do something for them yet they can't meet you halfway
Yeah its crazy right? I guess its a called a love/hate relationship. My boi told me the other day, he is gonna leave his woman of 9 years because she crazy. I recall thinking now only is he damaged goods, but she will probably try and kill him at some point when/if he can muster up the strength to actually leave. He thinks he know her too. My other friend says she not feeling her dude no more, but she is gonna stay with him and just cheat on him until she gets even for all the pain her caused her and then live happily ever after.
My nephew took his old flame back because he couldn't find anohter woman. Are we all crazy or is it just women who make us that way. Heck we all works in progress I guess. Now that I am thinking, I see a good deal of people are choosing not to get married. Why should we get married? Why not stay single and keep your eye simple. Oh well I can't save the world today, so I a gonna go to sleep...........
I am Ward....