The Suckers guide 4 apologizing

It's hard enough 2 comfort some1 who is suffering (eye know I had my fair share). Its waayyyyy harder when u caused the pain! We all make mistakes, but we don't all know how t apologize like a "G". I mean peep this, when people are in court and they say sorry for what they did, they end up getting less time then the dummies who choose to play all hard and what not!
This is what Wardy suggests. If you hurt someone, try these smart tips:
*1st, find out what actually happened as a result of your error. Don't assume right away that you are either at fault or not at fault. Don't under react or overreact. Just be cool for a minute. Think What what Wardy Do?

*Determine how much responsibility you have in this situation.

*Apologize in person. if you just can't face it, do it by phone or a hand written note. Get the note to the person right away. Time is important. I mean, what if they get hit by a bus cuz you was lolly gagging around the dollar store with the note in your front pocket????? Geeesh.....

*Ask but don't beg to be 4given. Ask for forgiveness to come later if the person seems very hurt.

*Find out if you can do anything you can do to repair the damage.

*Wait and let time do some of the healing. Don't keep apologizing, but do show that you have not forgotten what you regretfully did.

*Never make that mistake again.

The older I am getting- the more I realize that adults are more like kids and kids are more like adults should be. When my kids have a squabble they let it go with in a few minutes it is all good again. When I, on the other hand, have a squabble it is very often the end of a relationship, friendship or family-ships (I think that is a word but if it ain't it should be). I ain't got time to be thinking crazy cuz i am too busy thinking about my Bacon!

I am Ward......

Why does Chris Brown look like Charlie Brown?????

Sometimes I lie awake at night and ask, ‘Where have I gone wrong?’ Then a voice says to me, ‘This is going to take more than one night.’
- Charles M. Shultz

I am Ward.......

Does Marriage Counseling Really wORK?

I was talking to my sister about why relationships sometimes deteriorate and what are some of the solutions I feel that are needed for them to be resolved. Basically in a nut shell (where the heck did that saying come from anyway?) if any couple fails, according to my perspective- I feel- its because 1 or both are not applying God's standards on marriage, they didn't take their vows serious when it comes to "better or worse" part because "worse" is a sign to jump ship or the couple doesn't really know or Love God..... because he is Love. I don't care whatever happened in your situation, God has forgiven 10 thousand times that when it comes to us individually- I am sure!
None the less, yall know how I like numbers! So eye komplied stats on why marriage counseling may not always work for people. See what you think!

1. Some people want an instant fix. Wardy says the problem didn't start over night, it may not be resolved over night. This ain't instant coffee ya know!
2. Some people seek counselors who try to apply the "right remedy" at the wrong time.The reality is that everyone is not ready to face the issues and receive the healing and freedom they desire.
3. Some people seek counselors who just use the wrong remedy.
For example, just taking your fist and hitting the pillow doesn't solve the root problem. Telling others off who have offended you usually causes many more problems. Telling yourself that you are O.K. when you aren't O.K. doesn't make it O.K.
4. Some people are unwilling to let go of their anger or issues from the past. Holding on to the past/hurt is often used to cover the real issues. Some people are unwilling to let go of these issues. This robs your relationship of current or future happiness.
5.Some people come to counseling with their surface problems.
It is not uncommon that people pitch out a few surface problems to be resolved, but are unwilling to look at the real root problems. Then the circle of never ending fights comes back when you least expect it.
6.Some people take a dose of counseling but don't finish the whole bottle. Doctors often prescribe antibiotics to people who are sick. The patient takes a few pills and starts feeling better, then stops taking the medicine. It is not long before the illness returns and is even stronger than before. The couple has to want to complete the process as a team rather than individuals.

There is no 1 cure for every couple but most couple do want the same things! To have a support system, companionship and love. I can't tell you how many times I read on Facebook about how somebody can't find love, can't keep love or just looking for love. At the end of the day we are all imperfect and have to learn to be good forgivers because that is what the Bible is really about. Its easier said than done especially when you are in the heat of battle-lol!
I ain't mad at those who divorce (I truly understand) but keep in mind that everyone in your life will be affected by your actions.

I am Ward........

12 things that made me get deep like that today?

1. Why do we park in driveways and drive on parkways?

2. Do Lipton employees take coffee breaks?

3. Can I yell "movie" in a crowded firehouse?

4. Can you be a closet claustrophobic?

5. How do a fool and his money GET together?

6. Why does Hawaii have interstate highways?

7. How is it that a building burns up as it burns down?

8. If a train station is where the train stops, what is a workstation?

9. If nothing ever sticks to Teflon, how do they make Teflon stick to the pan?

10. If the pen is mightier than the sword, and a picture is worth a thousand words, how dangerous is a fax?

11. If the police arrest a mime, do they tell him he has the right to remain silent?

12. What hair color do they put on the driver's licenses of bald men?

13. What was the best thing before sliced bread?

14. Why do banks charge you a "non-sufficient funds" fee on money they already know you don't have?

15. Why do they put Braille on the drive through bank machines?

16. If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends?

17. If you get cheated by the Better Business Bureau, who do you complain to?

18. What are Preparation A through Preparation G?

19. In a country of free speech, why are there phone bills?

20. Did Washington flash a quarter when asked for ID?

21. How come there aren't B batteries?

22. If the post office has machines that can sort snail mail at 1000's of times per minute, then why do they give it to a little old man in a truck to deliver?

23. How do "Do not walk on the grass" signs get there?

24. Why do black olives come in cans and green olives come in jars?

25. Before they invented drawing boards, what did they go back to?

26. Why does she get soooo emtionicole?


I am Ward...

Ward has got 2 have balance....

I have been in the medical field for most of my life but over the past several years eye have found myself in the social services world. Like any other field, it has it share of ups and downs and common sense will always make any situation better. I guess if I had to sum up my recent experiences, it would go a little bit lit this:


Ward.... has learned to enjoy the questions as much as the answers(Thanks kids). Offset what's wrong by making twice as many things right! Ward must not insist on everything being predictable or only his way. Others have a voice, and even if its totally wrong, I owe you that much to at least hear you out. Life is full of surprises, and surprises are full of life! Finally, don't put off doing today due to assuming that tomorrow will actually come!

I get tired sometimes, but at the end of the day, If i have helped someone, then I have helped myself......
I am Ward......