How many times have I heard single sisters say "all the good men are taken, in jail, dead or gay", "all men are dawgs" or "why can't I find a man period". Honestly I can dig that cause its basically 7 women to every man in this world and the nicer looking brothers have slightly higher percentages-lol! Well, Wardy has given this issue some thought time and came up with my own reasons as to the problem. Now keep in mind, that I may feel this way and you may feel another, but that is what makes us individuals!
I have chosen my top reasons that MUST be addressed prior to these single sisters becoming ----unsingle---- if you will. Numero Uno is Drama. Women tend to use 500-1000 more words per day than men do! So quite naturally if we make y'all madd we can count on an argument that is based on emotion and a strong desire to be heard. Of course the yelling comes along with the drama portion, but (((WHY))). I wonder, do women think if they raise their voices that men will suddenly say....... Oooooh, Now I see your point-<<
2ND up is JEALOUSY. I clearly understand natural jealousy but when a women starts to quizzing you like you on Jeopardy, you got problems! I know of women who call men's jobs to actually see if they are at work. I have personally witnessed women hold due legs while they beg them not to leave them. My favorite is the woman who wants a dude so bad that she hears what she wants and not what he said. Word of advice: Always go with what the guys SAYS and NOT what he does. If he says I only want to be cool with you and then he sexes you....He still only wants to be cool UNLESS he says otherwise! It amazes me how many times women think that the situation has changed cuz of sex!!!
Situation Trey!!!! I love it when a female turns to God, but when you try to force your would be mate into the journey with you, especially when you don't have your footings set is a rough ride unless he ready......slow your roll pimpN! The only person we can change in ANY relationship is ourselves! (Please re-read the last sentence). Men love them a christian woman because of how yall move and make us stick our chest out a little bit when you come around. However, men can be won without a word, by your actions alone. Let me explain this a little bit. If you reading your word, applying and making changes in your life- it is sooo sexy! Really, why would a man leave a T-bone steak to go to Burger King even if he could have it his way......He Won't silly, because a christian woman wants to please God first and then her man, which is a win-win situation for everyone.
How could I end this blog without mentioning Sista Loud Mouth! Sometimes when a sista has been solo so long that she has issues with the man taking the lead in the relationship. She will get in the man's face and go toe to toe over any and every issue. I guess pick your battles does not apply here-lol! One sista related to me how she let this brotha move in with her after 3 weeks (claims she knew him back in high school 20 years earlier) she was frustated cuz he wouldn't put the toliet seat back down and he used her deordearnt. She was really be side her self. Change is hard because no matter how bad it is- Its all we know and the change may be worse than what we have right? That is how this type of woman thinks...thus she is single!
I can't explain the finer details of this issue in a 6 minute blog but I will summarize it like this........
Men don't care about how much money you make, what kind of car you drive. We just want what we like. So if you don't want to be a single sister with 5 cats in an empty house- accept that men are simple and need our basic needs met and we will give yall what ever you want/need. We usually have two ears, so clip the yelling, loose the drama and unnatural jealousy. Learn to say I am a great catch and I love myself. Notice, I didn't say "I love myself but.....! That is a joy kill. You will find and keep a good man as soon as you become a good woman!
I am WaRd....
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