Things we do for what we think is love.............

When you first met he loved how independent you were, he loved how much you worked to earn that cheddar, he even enjoyed the you ability to encourage him to get the things done that he was dragging his feet on! I remember you use to say how you actually want to tell this dude your where aboutz and what your daily plans were. You did them freaky things like send him ummm well special pictures of you because you wanted him to think of you like you was thinking of him. Love is a beautiful thang until imperfect humans throw several monkey wrenches all up in the mix.

Perhaps its the cold weather or the jacked up economy, but people are staying with people that they are mere hours from killing! Seems like the relationship is good in the honey moon stage, but inevitably the time factor sneaks in and each person in the relationship starts to look/find faults in the other. They begin to realize that this person may not be that special after all. You just got caught up in the six month front of relationship trips!

Honestly, I feel that most new entrees into to coupledum either fail or choose to over look the importance of laying some ground rules. No one wants to come off as a nagg, but I have learned that the things that attract couples are the very things that eventually tear a couple apart. Example, She use to love your laugh, now its annoying: He use to love your support, now you are just a nagg: She use to love talking to you on the phone, now her phone is never on: He use to send you flowers, now he just smacks you on the boob, then farts and runs out of the room! You use to enjoy that they had so many friends, but now you realize that all those friends are of the opposite sex????

This is some brief examples of what all couples COULD do:
1. Talk to your mate about your expectations and what you bring to the table
2. Discuss how your $$$ will be handled
3. Define where the relationship is going add a time line
4. Set defined times that you will have one on one time alone
5. Get religious together- on the same page- and pray to God to help you grow daily
6. Explain how you feel about loyalty and cheating. Explain cause and effect
7. Always be honest and open with your mate and keep issues in house
8. Be a good forgiver and a person who leaves the past in the past
9. If you decide you no longer want the person.....then leave if not married

Of course each situation is unique, but we all share the similar problems, and we all have "things we do for what we think is love".
I am ward