Reason # 729 that he won't commit to you!

I find a new trend on the dating scene. It seems that people are coming up with strategies for getting the one you want to commit to you. I am sure that everyone does not want to get married but I do believe that many daters want to be involved in a relationship that mirrors a marriage. (They want the person to be faithful to them, spend time with them, make memories with them and claim them as someone that plays an important part of their lives). I will focus on the female’s perspective in this entry because that is on my mind today.

It is no secret that females tend to lead with their emotional thinking, especially when it comes to dating with the expectation of marriage. This does not always work for several reasons- such as men and women think different on many issues (not better or worse, just unique) and without clear open honest communication, problems with wait for them. Also, because women often react by what a man does vs. what the man says. If the guys say I just want to be friends but has sex with you, he still just wants to be friends unless he says otherwise. Women think I gave my soul to him so he will change his mind or he will sooner or later……. Notice what he said vs what he did!

I feel it would beneficial for women who are dating (not letting the man find them but being the hunter) should focus on a few of these things…. Inquire about how your potential man feels about commitment, marriage, fatherhood, responsibility, ambition, finances and other important issues that affect couples who are in this long term.  I say this because looking at these aspects of his thinking and actions will show you if he is someone you could really end up marrying and being as happy as you can. Heck, men use this type of logic when dating all the time. Why do you think so many men say they just want to be friends with you and not want to date you?

Women who don’t do these steps should realize that making instant judgements about wanting to be with a man based on how good he made them feel on those first couple of dates or time spend together was the bomb.com, would see drastic improvements in their dating life! It’s not an easy thing to change a pattern of bad activity choices, especially if you have been doing it for a while. The old saying about the definition of insanity is ……. Repeating the same action repeatedly expecting a different result is insane. Example, if you keep touch the light switch and you get shocked each time, don’t you think it would be a good ideal to stop touch it? It is the same with relationships. Don’t waste 9-10 years with someone who told and showed you that you aren’t the 1!

My point is this. Someone will always want you, but you/we must be smart enough to know our own self-worth first! Sometimes you should pass on the current situation to get the best situation. Love is God’s greatest quality and it never hurts so why settle for less from a man? Do the things that a good man would want from a woman, I suggest reading Proverbs Chapter 31 as a good start.

I am WarD……

Monday Motivation for Not Quitting.........

1. Rihanna, the R&B superstar, has achieved phenomenal success in the music world but has had her share of struggles, too, including a childhood affected by her father’s addiction to crack cocaine. Rihanna’s view of mistakes is reflected in a tattoo, which reads “Never a failure, always a lesson.” She says it reflects her personal philosophy: “It’s kind of my motto in life for everything. Instead of considering things to be mistakes, consider them lessons.”
2. The Wright Brothers are known as the inventors of the airplane, but their big success came after lots of mistakes: The brothers built seven flying machines and crashed all of them more than once. (Fun fact: One of their early models would turn in the opposite direction they wanted it to!) But they learned from these setbacks. Each time they rebuilt an airplane, they were able to fix something that had gone wrong before.
3. Michael Jordan, a basketball legend, didn’t make the cut when he was a sophomore in high school. “It was embarrassing not making that team,” he said, but he used that failure to motivate him. “Whenever I was working out and got tired and figured I ought to stop, I’d close my eyes and see that list in the locker room without my name on it, and that usually got me going again.”
4. Abraham Lincoln, one of the most famous and accomplished U.S. presidents, experienced plenty of failures before he was elected to the nation’s highest office. When he was young, he opened a general store in Illinois, but the business failed and he had to declare bankruptcy. He also failed twice to get elected to the U.S. Senate.
5. J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter books have sold hundreds of millions of copies, and she’s now one of the most successful authors of all time. But her book about the boy wizard, written when she was a poor single mother, was rejected by 12 publishers before she was finally able to sell it.
6. Akio Morita and Masaru Ibuka were the co-founders of the Sony Corporation, the electronics giant that makes popular products like PlayStation. The Sony partners made plenty of mistakes with one of their first products: an electric rice cooker that burned the rice instead of cooking it.
7. Katie Couric was the first woman to anchor a U.S. network news program. Although she is a very successful journalist now, things didn’t look promising for her when she was younger. The president of CNN banned her from the air because of her high-pitched voice.
8. Babe Ruth is regarded as one of our greatest baseball players. He hit 714 home runs during his career, but he struck out even more: 1,330 times, to be exact. Ruth viewed his mistakes in a positive light, though: “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.

( I wrote this blog because my 14 Year old daughter and Gymnastics Unprofessional (Kierra) told me that sometimes she was to give up on life. She said, she did not mean killing herself, but she is tired of the circle of trying the same thing every day. I told her that a new world is just around the corner, just like in Noah's day. We should keep moving forward). Thanks Kierra...Daddy loves you!

I am Ward......

Random things that make me wonder......

I enjoy writing blogs about things that I find interesting and find that a few people might enjoy the ride too. Lately here I was just thinking about how challenging life is for people of this generation. One would think that as modern society continues to make advancements- that life will get better for all of us, but that is not the case. My father told me stories from his youth about how he had to work from sun up to son down and only earn 50 cent for the entire day and sometimes he would get nothing at all. Fast forward to 2017, couples (every couple is not married) work two jobs and are gone 8-10 hours from the home and then have to rush home to help kids with homework, cooking dinner, paying bills and maybe watching a TV show or the big game before going back to sleep! This brings about a whole new set of issues and health concern's. The worldly solution is........allowing  people 2vtake pills for everything to help cope with life. This includes pills for sleeping, waking up, anxiety, depression, erections, blood pressure and so on.
Anywho, the internet has changed the game in ways I would never could have imagined as a youth growing up in South Bend, Indiana. For example, I saw a video on YouTube the other
 day showing a young boy (11 years old) jumping from a 30 story window to his death. He was upset because his parents took his video game away, so he wanted to teach them a lesson. I wonder how many people watched this child jump to his death and think it was acceptable? I just don't get it!
I watched a show last night called VICE on HBO that featured young kids who wanted to have sex changes. I find it amazing that an 8 year old is deciding they want to be another gender. I never thought about wanting to be a girl. I found out that these decisions also come with a 41% death or suicide rate too! I know a lot of people say that its a choice, which I totally agree but I don't think others should force me to accept things that I do not agree with.
Another thing that I am considering is people who are prejudice. Again, as a youth I grew up on a street where my family was the first blacks in the area. Our home was regular hit with raw eggs, Nigger spray painted on our house and cars but no one never knew who did it, at least that is what the cops said each time. Have you ever watched that show "Everybody hates Chris"....yeah that was my life in a nut shell. Nevertheless, I still never hated white people as they hated me. I always wondered why they disliked us so much, but my point is this....why do we still have hate like that in 2017. Why do we keep teaching our youth that this is ok?
The last thing on my mind is truth. It seems like the world gets mad at someone who tell the truth and embraces the people who spread lies. Look at all the people who ran to the election polls last November and cast their votes for the person who promised them a better life. I wonder how they feel now??? Honesty is not what people want anymore. Need I say what happen when Jesus walked the Earth almost 2,000 years ago.......they killed him and that day is called good Friday.  I tell ya, this world is not what it use to be. I guess when the end of the world comes, we can all wake up.
I am Ward......

All feelings matter......

I am WarD......

10 Questions Men Need Women to Answer!

1. What answer is safe for "Does this make me look fat"????
2. Were all women born with perfect penmanship?
3. How come women never know where they want 2 eat at for dinner!
4. Why do women freak out when we leave the toilet seat up?
5. How come women always go to the restroom in groups?
6. Do women want us to fight a man if he is up in your face or do we just let you handle it?
7. Do women think a attractive guy romantic if he does the same things as ugly guy is creepy?
8. Why do women provocative clothing but complain when dudes check yall out???
9. Why do men have to pretend to be uninterested in a woman before yall notice us?
10. Why do women suddenly cry for no reason at all?
11. What is your biggest unacknowledged dream?
12. What is something that you would love to get good at?
13. If you could choose any name other the one you were given?
14. What makes you feel most loved?
15. Describe your perfect date?
16. What do you want your dude to like most about you?
17. Do women think men value respect or love more?

These ten questions, when answered honestly can change your life suckers....
I am Ward (yeah I am back) 

Entropy of Agape!

I am WarD...

When its time.....you will do it!

Sometimes a person gets tired. Tired from fighting against the world, family and/or life and general. Perhaps we all just want to be loved and understood by those who claim to have our backs. Social media has taught me that everyone has issues. There are no perfect relationship in this world. I know  that when people work together, things tend to work out better. The opposite is when others don't realize issues, the chances of the issues being resolved are slim to none.
Many people choose to walk alone in this journey called life. Others try and catch wind between their fingers only to face the cold reality....................that its futile.
Dance like nobody is watching, love like you have never been hurt and do what you know you have to do.
I am Ward......