Every thing that glitters is not alwayz Medicine..........

Pharmaceutical companies should be doing whatever they can to research and produce drugs that fight and cure medical problems. Unfortunately the primary goal of pharmaceutical companies is pretty darn much something else...... entirely: to make as much money as possible is what I think!!! And as we tend to find, helping people and making money aren’t often complementary goals, are they not?
Pharmaceutical companies have a great deal of power in the modern world of medicine. In fact, because they control the drugs that doctors prescribe and patients use, they are behind the scenes, pulling the strings. We’d like to think that these drug companies will always put the patients’ best interests first, and that’s certainly what the drug companies want us to think. However, when it comes to money and the consumer, it certain thangz that people don't want you (the customer to know).

1). Before any drug can be available to the public, it has to go through deep and long research and testing. After significant research, clinical trials will test the drug on real people. Scientific studies are supposed to be fair and unbiased, with clinical trials of pharmaceuticals, that’s not always the case. Oftentimes, the drug companies are the ones who are funding the research and hiring the scientists and doctors who perform the studies. Rather than have an unbiased third party running the trials, the people in charge have a financial interest in the results of the study.
Because of this, clinical trials are often designed to give the new drug a competitive edge, and there are financial incentives for the people involved when the studies go well. For example, a higher dose of a new drug might be compared with a lower dose of an older drug in order to exaggerate the differences in results, SMH!

2).  Herbal medicines have been used for thousands of years, and there is a great deal of information on the effectiveness of many different types of plants. The pharmaceutical companies are well aware of the research that indicates the effectiveness of herbal medicines, but they don’t embrace these alternatives because they aren’t profitable. Instead of using plants as natural medications, the drug companies try to figure out how to isolate the active ingredients of these herbs and turn them into synthetic medications that they can produce and sell for a tremendously greater profit. The pharmaceutical companies would prefer that you think of herbal medications as bunk science or potentially dangerous so that they can continue to sell you the synthetic medications they create.

 These are 2 of the secrets the pharmaceutical companies are keeping from us. They’re unlikely to lose their power over the medical field anytime soon, so it’s important to keep an open mind. While the drug companies do produce many medications that improve and save lives, remember to have a healthy skepticism and learn as much as you can about the health decisions you make for yourself, becuase I am sure by know everyone knows the money is not in the cure, rather in the come back suckers for the drugs that are produced. If you don't believe me....try reading a book called Freakanomics........
I am Ward....

My daughter asked me how I felt about Maya Angelou....

Phenomenal Woman 

 

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Need I say MoRe.......
I am Ward........

TO change or not to change dat last name at marriage....

 

 

Thirty years ago, it was already occurring that women would keep their name. When I got married, my wife changed her name. That very act took me aback. I really did not fully appreciate my marriage until my wife changed her name. I knew then that my wife really loved me. She was willing to make the change, and I said to myself, my wife really means it, I better prove to her that she made the right choice with me. It was a kick in the pants for me. It made me start reading books on how to stay married. It made me have great respect for my wife. It made me realize that my wife meant business, that she was here to stay. Without her changing her name, I would never have taken marriage as seriously as I did. After time, I realized that my wife changing her name, made the biggest change in me from a boy to a man. (PRO LAST NAME CHANGE)







I believe that women should not take their husbands' last names when they get married. If they want to take their husbands' names, then they should hyphenate it with their maiden name. I think a woman's maiden name is a critical part of her identity and should not be lost just because she gets married.(CON- LAST NAME CHANGE)

So after talking to my boi, I realized that this can be a crucial point for couples about to jump the broom of marriagehood. I guess silly ole me always thought that women wanted to take their dudes name, but KLEARLY I was mistaken. I asked the two people above and got 2 opposite responses and quickly realized that this is serious. I thought about all the people I do know that changed their names and those few I know that didn't as well as a few celebrities that I see on T.V.
I kept coming up with the same thoughts.......unity! I see everyone at Wal-mart walk around with the same out fit (especially with the "how may I help you sign on the back that is totally a lie) to show they work their. I saw the same thing at McDonald's, The Colts, The Pacers and so on. How we gonna be on the same team with different uniforms???? Are we that independent that we can co-exist as separate individuals but claim to be as 1? I guess anything is possible but is it necessary?

I read this scripture in the Bible and it gave me some valuable insight. Genesis Chapter 2 and verses 23-24 reads: Then the man said (Adam), This is at last bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. This one will be called Woman. Because from man she was taken. That is why a man will LEAVE his father and mother and he will STICK to his wife and they will become one flesh.....
Unsure of what that means to you, but I see the couple being on the same team. If someone needs to keep their last name because of identity or a show of feeling close to their family, then they may not be ready to start something new with their potential mate. Will the female be a Ms. OR Mrs.??? What would be the kids last name? Does the woman want to be on the team or is this a power move? Hummmm
True, its a personal decision, but I think it would behoove both parties to discuss what marriage means to them indiviudally? I am just saying......
I am WarD.

 

 

Hididng behind the Skinny tree. You don't even realize I can see you......

 
I was watching divorce court today (I love that show for some odd reason) and began to wonder how can a couple who was just mere months ago, be madly in love and then 12 months later be on televison airing out their business in front of millions about why they dont want to be with this obviously horrible person anymore. I came up with few ideals that I think that may summarize the root causes for some.....
1). When we are in the dating stage of any relationship, the phase where we are exploring each other’s personalities, we often put up certain frontz to be more like-able, they can range from being completely harmless like pretending to like a certain color to something more serious like hiding a past relationship. When couples are together for a long time, keeping up with these appearances becomes exhausting and who you really are is revealed. The person who you fell in love with seems like a thing of the past, couples are often found complaining that you have changed. I call this the 6 month front!!! After them months roll by, you start to see who you really with!!!!
2) The notion that there is no true love without jealousy is far from acceptable 4 Wardy, reality alert- jealousy** is suffocating! There are many ways to prove your love for your partner and jealousy is definitely not one of them, instead it’s a good way of pushing your partner away by creating issues which never existed initially, trust and appreciation goes a long way. I simply call this Unnatural- Jealously.
3). The partners started denying each other the simple pleasure of each other’s company, stopped spending time with each other, they stopped freakin talking to each other or introduced yelling into the picture. Communication is extremely important, not only to fall in love but also to stay in love, couples fall out of love when they become  strangers to each other. You don’t  know what’s going on in your partner’s life, stop paying attention to each other, don’t know what are their needs, wants etc; you start living separate lives. Heck, I know some couples who can lie in the same bed and trip out if their feet touch in the dark of night! Wardy calls this the break-down-in commuication!
4). This is one of the most common reasons why couples lose their connection--- When the relationship becomes long term, couples often stop investing in each other and in the relationship. They tend to forget that love takes WERKKKK, you need to choose your partner every day. Passion and romance need to be kept alive and instead of expecting it to magically always stay there even after the honeymoon phase. If the partners start taking each other for granted , the spark and the desire for each other die, so does the relationship. I call this NO EFFORT-NO RELATIONSHIP SUCKA....
5) Lets say the relationship wasn’t built on solid foundations well suprise...... it has high chances of falling apart in the long run. For e.g. lust was mistaken for love, or it started off as cheating or an affair. This wasn’t love in its purest form in the first place and the truth had to hit sooner or later. Relationships which start wrong can never withstand the challenges of life and are destined to end. I call this Fools Gold!!
6). Couples who fail to develop healthy habits of conflict resolution develop resentment and negativity towards each other. If one or both the partners are bad at handling disagreements, choose to give the silent treatment, let issues build up, fight dirty rather than fair (Cheat to Win type of people), hold grudges and become vengeful, then the love they had for each other will become history, replaced by feelings of anger and frustration. I call this one Unresolved Problems.
7). Lying, cheating and dishonesty. These are the biggest unforgivable of a relationship, especially if they keep repeating. The partner who is being lied to will eventually get tired of it and the love will keep diminishing. It is a sure way of making the other person turn against you, a recipe for disaster and a leading cause of break ups. It doesn't help when the dishonest person (liar) adds insults to injury by saying, I was just playing or I don't remember saying that. Its just the hand writing on the wall. Don't hide behind the skinny tree. We can see you and your actions as well as you can. Relationships require much work and determination. It can be done, but two have to be willing out love each other with unconditional love of repeat the above until you are solo suckers.....

Without application of Jah's rules, its no hope. Ya feelz me?
I am Ward......

Making a way................

I moved out of my parents’ home when I was 18 years old. Sure, I left for college (Indiana University) but it was 200+ miles away. Was I ready for the move? Perhaps yes and then again perhaps no! I had what I called learning moments that shaped my being. For example I learned that if I don’t wash my clothing correctly, everything will be pink (and it was for a minute) which lead me to appreciate having a Goodwill store near a college campus! I assure you, to this day-Wardy knows how to wash clothes!!

Any who, my topic today is about believing in one’s self! Fast forward to the time I wanted to purchase a home. It’s important to know that I had co-signed for 2 family members on vehicles (never again) and of course they defaulted on the loans. This impacted my financial portfolio, to where most lenders were unable or unwilling to work with ya boi! In fact, one man laughed in my face and said I had 2 options as far as he could see.

1)      Pay 20% down at 13% APR for 30 years

2)      Adjust to apartment life because I am stuck.

He went as far as saying: “if someone is crazy enough to give me a loan that he would eat the paper work.” As challenging as that was to think of him actually eating the paper work because I proved him wrong, I passed! He wasn’t my focus or motivation. My kids were! I was a divorced father of two young girls who thought I could do no wrong and gave me unconditional love. I wanted them to grow up in house like I did, so I had to make it happen.

I think I applied at 13 lenders with the notion of being treated like a person with great credit and $300 for down payment. After several months of on time bill payments and lots of prayer, I found a lender who was nice and willing to work with me. He said he could possibly meet my requirements but it would be a long shot. I had no choice but to try. He asked for tons of paper work and explanations within a 2 week window. I gave him everything he requested in 24 hours. He was impressed and said he saw my determination. He pulled some serious rabbits out of his lenders hat because not only did he get me approved for $130K, he also go it with no money down and 4.5% apr! House payment was $605 a month compared to that $ 945 in rent. That savings allowed me to convince another lender to give me a car loan for a beautiful black on black Saab (my dream car). I closed on my home and picked up my car on the same day.

The point of my story is simply this:

Nothing can stop a determined man, because the mind is a powerful tool.  If we tell the mind- this is what we want 2 accomplish, it will come up with ways to make it happen. IE, I want to loose weight (mind will come up with better eating habits or diet plans) or I don’t want to get up for work (mind will say it’s cold outside and traffic is thick and you have 89 hours of pto available. In my case, I wanted a house and hearing No was not an option.

I was proud of myself for not giving up, because I have learned that an obstacle is an opportunity to use strengths I didn’t even know I had.

To this day I am still a home owner. Thank you Jehovah for your underserved kindness.

I am WarD……………….

Randoms on a Wednesday.....

I am Ward.....

Stop stressing

Its often times easier said than done, but stressing is something that people who care about their future will invariable do. We stress because we want to do a good job, we enjoying having nice things and getting our checks every two weeks. I recently realized that I can't expect perfection from imperfect people. I can't expect those who don't know or serve the true God to treat others with love and kindness. Their will always be poor people in this wicked world and injustice is an everything thing.
Recently, I forgot these words above and allowed myself to get so stressed out that I had heart pains and a few sleepless nights. I know I am not the only person to feel this way and surely won't be the last one either. What I decided to do, is just be the best me I can be.
I am Ward.....