So I was having my weekly Bible study with my daughters and they asked me when did I know I was ready for marriage and when do I think they should get married? I was elated that they were even interested in my perspective considering that I am a good example of a bad example when it comes to love lol! I say that because my first marriage went down in flames unexpectedly and slowly. Nevertheless, I tried it again because I thought I knew myself better or should I say knew other people better. Fool me once shame on me, but fool me twice and I am stupid for life. But this ain't about me, it is about my kids question-right?
Anywho, I gave some basic advice that I hope they take to heart. I spoke from what I have learned from life, because it is good to know how to play your perspective role in the love game. Make sure you can control you emotions at home like you do while you at work or school. Do you get upset easily and had fits of rage (verbally or physically)? Can you manage your money well? Do you have to keep going to your parents or step parents and yet you claim to be grown? Do you have your own place and transportation? Do you have a career or a stable job? How do you treat your close family members? What is your relationship with like with God? How do you feel about sharing your everything with someone else? Can you compromise? Are you jealous?
I think by knowing the answers to these questions will either show you that you are ready for marriage or give you some goals to shoot for to get ready for marriage. It seems that most people just date for sport in the 2017 vs. getting to know someone with the aim of joining up for a life of togetherness. If you are with someone and its not going anywhere, why not just cut the ties and bounce, I mean you ain't married. Its over 8 billion people on the Earth, I am confident somebody out there will treat you right!
Finally, I told the girls, once they get all the questions answered and they found the dude that has all the boxes checked I suggested they then do the final research and then do this!
You wait! You learn. You pay attention. You plan (failing to plan is basically planning to fail). You resolve. You investigate. You divulge. You draw lines. You accept. You count. You anticipate. Throughout it all, you must communicate with your future mate. After all this, you give it some time to settle in. Study marriage topics with Jehovah's Witnesses from the Bible. Become financially literate (take classes on this too). Basically, there is no such thing as being to prepared for marriage. I mean who would you rather get in a plane with? A man named Mookie, who loves flying so much that he can't wait to take classes to learn to fly, he just teaches himself! Or Wardy, who also loves to fly but went out and got trained and got a license? Obviously this Ward guy pursued his passion in a rational fashion. Same is true with marriage. Take your time and do your work and then when the tough time come (and they most certainly will) you can deal with them as a team that attacks the problem as a team built on friendship, love and respect!
I hope I told them what is right and it if fails then I can take the blame and ask them and God to forgive me for being imperfect.
I am Ward.......
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