*This reminds me of a real life situation, where a man and a woman were about to leave their relationship due to unfulfilled expectations. Usually, the man will meet a totally new woman and the woman will return to some old dude from their past- that obviously did not work out-but they feel comfortable enough to return to anyway. The couple met other people but somehow worked it out but the relationship is not the same. Ya know, like crumbling a piece of white paper. It can never be as smooth as it once was, but it can still be used-Right?
What I find similar in both stories is the misunderstanding that both parties did the same type of thing. If someone develops an emotional attachment to another person while they are with someone, I consider that to be a relationship......PERIOD!!!! Can you really say that its just conversation? To me, it does not matter if you are serious or just talking to said person, its the same as if you planned to marry the person. Why would you waste your time, energy and life on something that isn't going anywhere when the purpose of getting to know someone is to plan on a future with them. Could it be just be a strong case of denial if we think that we could get close to someone and not develop feelings? If so, then I can carry hot coals in my pocket and won't get burned!
After pondering my thoughts of the television show, I found myself wondering why couples break up in the first darn place. I realized that if couples could meet the person they are talking to- 2 years into their future, I am sure a great percentage would walk.....no make that...run away from the other person. It seems like those in relationships get upset when the other refuses to think like you (me). Ironically, when you first met, you listened to the other and found it interesting but fast forward to now, and the other person is straight stupid from how they walk to how they chew food. Once the infatuation stage is over, people start to realize that the other person is not perfect. Heck, we realize that the other person is low-key crazy! Thus, double standards creep into the union and it becomes a matter of not right or wrong, rather who is going to back down!!! I find when someone wants to look good in their partners eyes- that they are willing to lie, cheat to win or misquote things! One possible result from these type of actions are one of the two being looked at as being "PHONY, FAKE AND LYING"= You loose the wonderful person you feel in love with.
Here is my crazy logic! How about a couple in crisis, just simply stop doing what the other person dislikes and do what they actually like. For example, your mate loves watching football, learn about the game and love it with him. He will likely do the same for you because you all are blending and being friends. Love is not that hard, people just make it that way.
Double standards and couples who don't get it really suck!
I am WarD.......
