Know what you don't KnoW........

The late king of my community had 10 wild dogs. He used them to torture and eat any of his servants who made a mistake. 1 of the servants gave an opinion which was wrong, and the king didn't like it at all. So he ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs.
The servant said, "I served you for 10 years and you do this to me? Please give me 10 days before throwing me to those dogs!" The King Agreed.

In those 10 days, the servant went to the guard who looked after the dogs and told him that he would like to serve the dogs for the next 10 days. The guard was discombobulated but agreed, and the servant started feeding the dogs, cleaning for them, bathing them, and providing all sorts of comfort for them.

When the 10 days had past, the king remembered and ordered the that servant be thrown 2 the dogs for his punishment. When he was thrown in, ALL were amazed to see that the ravenous dogs only licked the feet of the servant. The King was baffled at what he was seeing, said, "what happened to my dogs????"

The servant replied, "I served the dogs for only 10 days, and they did not forget my service. Yet I severed you for a whole 10 years and you forgot all, at my 1st mistake". The King realized his mistake and ordered the servant to be set free!

The point is  a slight continuation from the previous blog entry. All those who forget the good things a person did for them as soon as the person makes a mistake towards them. Please don't put out the history that is filled with good because of a mistake that you didn't like......

I am WarD.....

Man Born once, but dies a thousand times.......

When you are the new kid on the block, the new employee at the job or just the new face in the place, everybody loves you, do they not? They are all glad you came. Everybody wants to know your name. Its as if a new baby has come into the world. All bright eye'd and full of hope and dreams to make everything better! Something invariable happens along the way (Earth-Wind and Fire). Do the masses no longer enjoy his new car smell of said new person? Are they no longer interesting to others? Or could it just be that "U ain't NEW no more?????
I say that because the new person can make a mistake and be forgiven many times, but the old or established person gets a tongue lashing for an unintentional error in judgment after years of work.  I have come to reason that a person who made has made a mistake, hass often times done this due to trying to do something better or faster for everyone. I believe we should consider giving the person a pass, if they can explain their actions otherwise logically, that person's creativity could be stifled otherwise.
I read an article in which Eddie Murphy was asked why did he do so many sucky movies when he could have stayed with the Beverly Hills Cop theme a few more times?  Eddie replied " In Hollywood, you are born once and die a 1,000 times". He said he was prasised for 48 hours and Beverly Hills Cop, but treated like a leper for movies like Pluto Nash and I am Dave. Dude wasn't afraid to try something new, but the world doesn't like change. But he felt the need to be true to be true to himself. He got no props for Norbit (a move that he played several characters that you would actually forget is him) and it was Oscar worthy in my views but who am I????
Seems like that in relationships too. When you first meet, its infatuation, but fast 4 ward 3 years later and you may see that same couple on an episode of snapped!!!! Nothing changes unless something changes.
We, as a people, should stop judging people on their past and accepting them for their present. Just because we did something in 2004 doesn't mean I still feel that way or even like those same things. Take me for example. I don't believe in fighting in wars, but that in no way indicates that I don't love the people who participate in them. If I like putting loud speakers and rimz on my car in my 20's does mean I feel that way in my 40's. We grow and try more things and learn things at our own pace.
My simple point is this: I don't know how long anyone has on this Earth, but I do know the day of my impending death is closer than the day of my birth. So why not get along with others (at least try) accept that others evolve and go with the changes that life brings us.If you look at the pic on this blog closely, you may ask your self, Did this man's views of life and others stay the same from a child to manhood? Did his views on issues every change and should he be allowed to have had a past -and still have wonder future nonetheless?
I am WarD.....

Hanging out: Indianapolis Downtown with my Krumb Snatchers.....

I am (tired) WarD...

The endless arguments...........Ground hog day......

According to Couple and Family counselor Dr. John Gottman, a true expert in this field, 69% of couple conflicts are never solved. Yes, 69%!
That means that we are often having the same fight over and over again!!!!! Amazing but it so true. I know what each couple should do, but i found some reasons to consider if you want to leave or stay with your partner. ( If married, you stuck unless fornication is a factor sucka)

• You have more confusion than clarity. Time should bring important insights into your relationship, so it’s a red flag if you are more confused now than in the beginning.
•  Your desire for “space” is increasing. Everyone needs individual time—that’s normal and natural. But if “me time” has become much more appealing than “us time,” consider this a clear warning sign.
•  You work hard to improve the relationship, but the other person is not making the same effort. A healthy union needs two people who both carry their weight and invest equally in the partnership.
•  One person is clingy and dependent. Few relationships are able to survive extreme jealousy, possessiveness, over dependence, or controlling behavior. Such actions and attitudes indicate that one or both people lack a solid emotional foundation.
•  You don’t feel like you can be “completely yourself” with this person. Trying to change or conceal your true self is a big tip that this isn’t a good match.
•  As you look ahead, the vision of your future together is fuzzy. You should be able to envision your relationship five, ten, twenty years ahead with joy and clarity.

Take from this post what you need, heck its free....
I am WarD....