Unrealistic expectations and the negative effects on your relationship.............

When men say that women have unrealistic expectations they mean that women expect men to do too much in order to be with them. Men are not going to compromise on EVERYTHING a woman decides she doesn't like or feels some kind of way about. The women that understand this usually have no problem keeping her a man.
You are never going to meet or marry some 1 that doesn't have something about them that you don't like or agree with. And that's cool!. The reason its so much easier for most men to get in relationships when they decide to settle down and actually make things work is because they do a couple of small things that allow a woman to be herself. The only come to her and request compromises on pertinent issues that have a direct impact on them (women give ultimatums on darn near everything-LOL) and they learn to ignore the things the woman does that he dislikes or finds a way to deal with it! Newsflash suckers, Men don't like everything about women. There are lost things that men just accept and deal with for the sake of make the relationship work. Some women would behoove themselves by doing the same dang thang!!!! Women, you can't take a stance on every issue and think your man is still gonna want you on his team. I feel sometimes women need to relax on the things y'all expect men to do to show you that he loves you and wants to be with you because a lot of y'all are on pace to be lonely with your ideas of men and relationships.
Sometimes we all have to pick our battles, because each argument/fight is a step toward irreparable relationship damage. I know some women will say that no matter when y'all do, whether its nagging or being submissive that you always get the short end of the stick. Perhaps, but its a little extreme, because women are made to be the man's compliment not his competition. I know some men are jerks but for those who try to do their God given assigned roles, its not good to keep changeling your dude.
I speak to so many women who keep expecting men to think like they think men should think. It doesn't work. How can a woman tell a man what he should feel or do? Really? I cringe when I hear a woman says "A real man would do this or that"..... Usually you will find these women are single or soon to be! I mean would a person be considered normal if she expects her cat to bark like a dog because she feels that is what a cat should do? Of course not, so why would it work on men.
I feel its best to treat your husband/man/boyfriend/lover with the same if not more respect than you would for your boss. If you would not argue or debate with your boss, then don't do it with your mate. You would have choose your words tactfully and open to understanding. It really works and its loving. I think when we get comfortable with others we can start to use words like "stupid-dumb-crazy" etc.
If women want a better relationship, I suggest really getting to know God first, then yourself followed by allowing your self to be found by your prince charming. Let go of your preconceived notions and just be natural.
I am Ward.................

I can't Shake it off

They say every 7 years that people change. Views on life, fairness or hot topics in general. Could it be from our maturity, change of friends or maybe life it self has given some free advice! Nevertheless, I am sure that I have some new life changes for my life. I have accepted that young people ( I won't say kids, but very tempted) are the major reason for poor customer service in fast food joints. They have been known to have a careless attitude about their jobs and quick to want a tip. That's another whole nother story about how I feel about tipping for someone to bring my food from the back to the front, lol.

Any who, I want to share a recent experience that I had a local fast food spot. I don't want to put a negative light on companies but...........no I am going to call out the place. Its Steak N Shake!!!! There I said it and it felt good! I was downtown Indianapolis at the mall. I knew it was the time to get the half priced drinks (including shakes), so I headed on down the yellow brick road to partake. I ordered the burger/fries combo and a heath and vanilla shake (which I split with the wifey). The burger was extra greasy as usual and the fries were skimped over, so I was already feeling some kind of way about the meal thus far.

Didn't want to stay there for ever so I tried to hurry up when the wifey started to look intently at her half of the shake with a slight look of disgust and sadness. I inquired what was wrong. She said look in here at my shake. I hesitated for a moment and thought is it a finger- a roach wing  or worse! It was worse. It was a bunch of  small pubic hairs. It look like someone cleaned out their brush and hid it in our shake. I then dug around my shake and found the other half. Immediately my throat began to feel scratchy and I wanted to earl!!!!

 

We called the manager over and explained what happened. The manager (in his early 20's) comes over and ask me was it my hair, jokingly. I told him it wasn't, as I was looking at him and noticed his curly fro hawk, which was missing the required hair net. But the look on his face I realized who made the shake! I didn't say nothing because I wanted to know his solution. The manager asked me if we wanted 2 new shakes. I was like...REALLY??? No I am good. He then said, no problem, I will take it off your bill! I was thinking he was going to comp the entire meal of $12, but he said he was comping the SHAKE!!!!!

 

I said no problem, as we got up and walked out and left the bill on the table. I have never been so disappointed with a restaurant in such a while. I don't think I will ever be able to get a shake anywhere else ever again. They are think and you just never know. I am sure others are safe but I just cannot foresee it in my future.

 

I did some additional research and found that fast food spots everywhere* have unmentioned  issues that the general public is clueless about, but since it’s not my goal to gross anyone out further, I will just encourage everyone to pray before eating out lol!

 

I am Ward.....