The thing about all these loving couples, is that they all have one very common factor---Entropy! For some of my readers, this word may be challenging, so let me break the meaning down (lack of order or predictability; gradual decline into disorder).
See, I started wondering how couples can be so happy one day and then seemingly from out of nowhere the couples are mortal enemies. Humm, I thought to myself, BUT WHY. This is what I came up with: Very slowly, entropy sneaks into a relationship in the form of ignored phone calls, lack of quality conversations, no longer listening to each/ not communicating in love (yes and no) with reduced affection and thoughts of enjoying time alone. That is a far cry from the long late night phone conversations about nothingness and the longing to see your beloved one after the long separation of a few hours.
Who knows, maybe after working 40+ hours a week, dealing with traffic, home work, house work and life in general has a way of wearing people down. I don't consider any of these distractions good reasons for loosing your relationship. I just think couples don't realize what they have or had until the end is upon them. My dude from around the way has a loving girl at home that he spends very little time with now. He says that she tries to micro manage his life by checking his phone, constantly accusing him of cheating with any girl that is over 17 years old. Dude said his formerly loving relationship has turned into a hostage situation with no chance of being released. I also know Karen (cousin) who is with a man who let him self go physically. Dude is so out of shape that sweats while he is in the shower. Karen said he is such a turn off in this condition. She said she doesn't cheat on him but she is unsure what she will do if someone half way close to what she likes tempts her.....well lets just say I pray for her.
The story of couples falling in and out of love is all too common today. Makes you wonder why people are just not made with a fail safe mechanism that automatically links us to one mate. A mate that U wake up to each day and fall in love, all over again! But naahh, that ain't cool and won't happen because we gotta have Circle fights (fights that keep occurring over the same thing with the same results) on the regular.
O.k., here is the point. marriage and relationships are hard work, and like anything else it requires maintenance. Think about it, if a man really wants to keep his woman happy it would behoove him to first learn to please God 1st! Next he would learn to love his mate as himself. He would spend time with her and make her his number activity. And to the woman, stop trying to be a man and learn to respect your man. Find out what he wants to do and support him in those efforts. Give him options and choices that benefit the family. Allow him some alone time to at least freaking miss you. Don't compete with your dude, try eating with your dude. Sure we get tired sometimes and want to be catered to, but somebody gotta be the bigger person.
To my dude with the psycho chick: Man up and tell your woman that she is the only one for you and try over looking her issues for a while and love her to pieces. If she don't act right then, you can do what you gotta do with no regrets. Cousin Karen, join the gym with your man and start cooking healthy. Save his life and your relationship (besides you ain't gonna leave him anyway-lol!
I am Ward.......
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