Justice or Just us?

Like most people in the African American community, I heard about another young black man was killed! I know people are not over the many recent unfortunate innocents of young men getting shot/killed. Its sad for a variety of reasons, but a major one for me is that no one cares when black on black crimes happen. Seems like black people don't always value a black life and then are suprised when others follow suit. I don't know the facts of this case but I know what people are saying and I will just wait for the courts to hammer this out. Oh well, another sign of the times foretold by the scriptures....
This is what is being said......
1) Wilson shot and killed Brown in the early afternoon of Saturday, August 9, outside of an apartment complex.
2) Wilson stopped Brown because he was jaywalking, not because Wilson believed him a robbery suspect.
3) Brown was unarmed. All the shell casings found on scene were from Wilson's gun.
4) At least one round was fired from inside Wilson's squad car. Brown died about 35 feet from the car.
5) An independent, preliminary autopsy found Wilson shot Brown at least six times from the front, and two of the bullets struck Brown on the head. One of the bullets appears to have hit the top of Brown's head. "This one here looks like his head was bent downward," Dr. Michael Baden, who conducted the autopsy on behalf of Brown's family, told the New York Times. "It can be because he's giving up, or because he's charging forward at the officer."
6) Wilson has been on the police force for six years, and he has no disciplinary action on his record. He has been put on paid administrative leave following the shooting.

What's disputed about the shooting

"Hands up, don't shoot" became the motto of the Ferguson protests after eyewitnesses said Michael Brown tried to surrender before Darren Wilson fatally shot him.
The accounts of eyewitnesses and police differ. Here is what the people at the scene of the shooting say happened.
Dorian Johnson's account
This is what Johnson, a friend of Brown's who was with him when he died, said happened: He and Brown were walking in the middle of the street when Wilson intercepted them and told them to get on the sidewalk. When Wilson tried to get out of his car, the door hit Johnson and Brown and ricocheted into Wilson — upsetting the officer. Wilson grabbed Brown by the neck, and Brown tried to get away. Wilson pulled out his gun and shot Brown. At that point, Brown and Johnson began to run away and the officer fired again. When Brown realized he was hit, he turned around and raised his hands in the air. Wilson approached Brown and fired several more shots.
Tiffany Mitchell's account
This is what Mitchell, who saw the shooting while on her way to pick up an employee in the area of the shooting, said happened: She first saw a struggle between Brown and Wilson, with Brown trying to push away from the police car and Wilson trying to pull the teenager into the vehicle. The first gunshot then came from the car, while both of Brown's hands were outside the vehicle. At that point, Brown broke away and started running down the street. Wilson chased after Brown while shooting at the teenager. Brown's body jerked, as if he was hit, and he turned around, stood still, and put his hands up. Wilson continued shooting Brown even as the teenager attempted to surrender, and Brown went down.
Piaget Crenshaw's account
This is what Crenshaw, who saw the shooting while she was waiting for a ride to work, said happened: She saw Wilson try to pull Brown into the squad car. When Brown ran away with his back facing the officer, Wilson fired several shots. Brown then turned around and began putting his hands up, and Wilson fired more shots and Brown collapsed. Crenshaw recorded video after Brown was killed, which she turned over to police.
The police account
This is what St. Louis County Police Chief Jon Belmar, who's leading the investigation into Brown's death, said happened according to Wilson: Brown physically assaulted Wilson prior to the shooting. Wilson attempted to get out of the car, but Brown pushed him back into the vehicle. Brown then physically assaulted Wilson and attempted to grab the officer's weapon. At that point, the first shot was fired from the police car. Brown ran away, but eventually turned around and moved toward Wilson — causing the officer to fear for his life. Wilson fired and killed Brown, 35 feet from the police car. Wilson was reportedly injured during the encounter, and one side of his face was left swollen.
Did Brown's alleged robbery influence Wilson's actions?
Ferguson Police claim Brown and Johnson stole some cigars in a convenience store robbery prior to the shooting. Police clarified, however, that Wilson wasn't aware of the robbery allegations at the time of the initial stop and instead stopped Brown for jaywalking. Ferguson Police Chief Tom Jackson later told the St. Louis Post-Dispatch that Wilson realized Brown could be the suspect of the robbery when he spotted potentially stolen cigars in Brown's hand in the middle of the stop.

**Here is my point. In the media there is something known as Spinning, where the people in charge try and presudue the watchers to their view point. In this case, stories about the victim being high on drugs or robbing a store are high lighter to off see the fact the officer (shooter) use to work in a police dept where all the officers were fired for being a center of a racial controversy. No mention of that hummmm. The media says that most of the protesters were out of town, but they didn't mention it was St.Louis about 5 miles away. This could go on for days, but consider this. How would the world be if society followed the Bible? Would we have injustice, crime and racial injustice. Surely you would think all Christians would want and promote this ideal-right?  IJS

I am Ward.....

How long is 2 long to be engaged?

 
 I was talking to a coworker recently that said she knows a couple that's been together for seven years then they got engaged but the weddings not planned for another four years or something like that? Sounds suspect to me lol!. If you’re getting engaged you should be able to come up with a date in the foreseeable future. I saw another comment that said if the engagement is lingering on forever then that person is trying to figure out if they really want to be with you and guess what, that should have been done before the two of you got engaged. It really only takes 6 months to get to know someone well enough to marry them. Employers take chances and their employees end up retiring sometimes.....
I searched the webb for responses and look what Wardy found:

 ...........My Fiance and I got engaged almost 4 months ago. We have been together for 3 yrs. I’m 21 and he’s 23. We picked a date, and when I say we I mean he spit out a random date, and I ran with it. I got super excited thought of a theme,colors etc. However it seems like he just isn’t as excited as I am. Also every time I bring up wedding he says “Oh we have plenty of time.” Or “We need to save money.” Then when I try to draw out a plan he doesn’t want to participate! Like seriously!? The date is about 9 months away and I honestly am not seeing a wedding happening on that day. Then I don’t want to be nagging him about it or anything like that. I just want him to stop dodging me and let me know if he even really wants to do this!

............ I would love for a man to just say if he is ready or not and stop pretending or just playing withyour heart then u catch him cheating or holding hands with another woman.

............. I would say a year or less. Especially if you’ve been together long enough to KNOW you’re ready for marriage (3+ years). Engagement time is for PLANNING the wedding and coming together as one (looking for a house, planning kids, etc.)

............. 2 years is it!!!... PLEASE DON'T WASTE MY TIME AND YOURS.


............. I tell my sons the longer you can wait to have sex the longer the engagement can be. If you can wait 4 years to have sex with your lovely fiance than you can be engaged for 4 years. I am very aware that my beliefs are in the minority, I just believe that you can't seriously consider yourself a Christian and go completely against the Bible by fornicating for years when you can just make it official.

I am Ward

How to spot the liar.......a lesson from the Bible

16 At that time two prostitutes came in to the king and stood before him. 17 The first woman said: “Please, my lord, this woman and I live in one house, and I gave birth while she was in the house. 18 On the third day after I gave birth, this woman also gave birth. We were together, just the two of us; there was no one else with us in the house. 19 During the night this woman’s son died, because she lay on him. 20 So she got up in the middle of the night and took my son from my side while your slave girl was asleep and laid him in her arms,* and she laid her dead son in my arms. 21 When I got up in the morning to nurse my son, I saw that he was dead. So I examined him closely in the morning and saw that it was not my son whom I had given birth to.” 22 But the other woman said: “No, my son is the living one, and your son is the dead one!” But the first woman was saying: “No, your son is the dead one, and my son is the living one.” That is how they argued before the king.

23 Finally the king said: “This one says, ‘This is my son, the living one, and your son is the dead one!’ and that one says, ‘No, your son is the dead one, and my son is the living one!’” 24 The king said: “Bring me a sword.” So they brought a sword to the king. 25 The king then said: “Cut the living child in two, and give half to one woman and half to the other.” 26 At once the woman whose son was the living one pleaded with the king, for her compassions were stirred toward her son. She said: “Please, my lord! You should give her the living child! By no means put him to death!” But the other woman was saying: “He will be neither mine nor yours! Let them cut him in two!” 27 At that the king answered: “Give the living child to the first woman! By no means put him to death, for she is his mother.”

Drop the Mic

I am Ward......

Couples who love each other but can't stand each other because somebody got issues they ain't use to have when they 1st met!!!!!

Couples who become competitive and fight about who’s right or wrong can destroy the love they originally had for each other. The partnership way is to focus on fixing the problem. What makes love last is an attitude of “I want both you and me to get what we want” in this relationship.

The quickest way to destroy love is to hold on to resentment. Allowing old hurts and grudges to go unresolved is corrosive. Resentment is like rust that eats away at the bonds of your relationship. It’s important to learn to clear up resentment by first recognizing it in yourself, then confessing it and learning to solve the problems that caused it.

Men and women have different reasons for falling out of love. Dudes often disconnect from their females when they don't feel the chicks are interested in them anymore. Because men often have a difficult time with intimacy, someone at who seems to hear you and make you feel your thoughts matter while not make demands can be very tempting!!!!

Females disconnect because they feel unloved or taken for granted. They complain for a while, then withdraw. Once she gives up on getting the desired attention from her partner, that sucka who keeps sweating her or the single dude that once caught her eye is now being attentive, can make her feel wanted.

In either case it just a matter of time. Remember when you (the couple) first met, the woman wore something to make others notice her (esp the dude she wants, so she walks by him until he thinks it was him who peeped her first lol) and the man approaches and offered you that first non-alcoholic drink! You two hit it off, became friends, began dating and (some got married to your partner). But now FFW to August 2014. What the freak happened????? Silly arguments about ex-lovers and friends, jealousy being in extra full effect, your leash is so tight that dogs on the street are laughing when you walk by and both of yall often argue in silence, while telling everyone else that "y'all are fine? The only person who can't see that lie is the couple!

Ironically, some women feel that by sexing a dude on command will keep him happy, others feel that forgiving a dude for every mistake that comes with a good excuse is the key and others think that just hanging in there and hoping this unforeseen pain will improve with time is an effective to way to cope! Good luck with these choices!

I personally have learned that in order for couples to get out of this cycle of craziness, couples must learn to communicate with each other in ways the other can relate to. It has been said that every 7 years, we all change-evolve or grow. Heck, who wants to stay the same anyway, but the problem is we often grow 1 of 2 ways. Either we grow together or grow apart. Its truly up to the couples BOTH wanting to be on the same page.

Wardz simple (beginner advice) solutions for everyone that looks at their mates with the syde eye consider this....

          * I agree not to argue, yell, shout, fight or bring up resolved issues about past relationships- with you. If we have a disagreement, we'll discuss it like a business deal, focus not on who is right or wrong, but on what will fix the problem. If there's any problem we can't solve together in three days, we'll go seek a trusted mediator.

           *I agree to be honest, even if I know you won't like it. There's a kind way to say what I need to say, and I'll figure it out.

           *I agree to work with you and view you as my equal partner. We will focus on partnership, cooperation and team building, of course praying togeather & studying the Bible togeather!

Sure its easier said than done, but if you have love, then its worth a try-right? Love is not suppose to hurt, it just requires upgraded efforts that will show how the the lovers really feel about each other! (Men want respect and Women want love/attention)

I am Ward.....