There are at least 99 different reasons why people want to tie the knot, but to get a divorce shouldn't be 1 of them!
The first probable answer to the question “Why do people get married?” may be for companionship. Most people want to grow old with someone they love. They want to have someone to talk to, travel with and share life’s challenges with. When life gets tough, it becomes manageable if you have a caring spouse by our side.(I stress the CARING SPOUSE PART-LOL) Whether you have a job or stay home, sharing a household with somebody at night and on weekends can give a sense of fulfillment in your personal and social life.Its almost like a routine that defines who you are based on what you do.
Who doesn’t want romance/love in their life? I know I do!In reality, you can get involved with someone without getting married but it can be meaningless if you think about it. Both of you know that either can give up on the relationship in a blink of an eye (I call this running),creating a sense of edginess and insecurity. Coming with a formal marriage sentence are respect and commitment, which SHOULD enhance the romantic value of the relationship. It’s always a great feeling to wake up with someone who has vowed to share his/her life with you, and vice versa. Stolen kisses or a late-night hook upz are extra sweet!
I asked my 22 year old nephew “Why do people get married?” and he stated that he wants to have their own family! It sorta made sense,even though I think he crazy,but raising a family with someone you love is possibly the most intimate relationship you can have on Earth (Jehovah is the best). Bringing up children and doing everything to provide them with a good life (food, shelter, education, good but whoopinz when needed.) are not easy. Kids need both a male and a female in their worlds to keep dat balance. When one or the other is lacking, it may interrupt normal kid patterns and regularnezz of being kid. There R a lot of single parents who actually raise healthy and successful children, but it is easier and better to have 2 parents who work ""together"" to attain this goal.
Those who have a so called good job that pays well can financially support themselves. However, what happens when the company goes out of business or something costs you your job? Wardy's point here is not about getting married for money; rather, it is cool to know that in marriage, the couple shares assets and helps each other through rough times including that Chinese disease called fundz R Low- hits your family.
After considering these options, you may be able decide whether you want to marry or not. I am one of the those who feel that marriage is a good thing, but I have learned that you both have to have regular communication/complete trust and honesty to allow the relationship to grow. I find most couples who fail, are not willing to try and out love the other by letting him or her play their assigned marital roles. If you look at couples who have been married a long time, you will see that they are best friends, place no one above their mate (not even kids!) and they actually enjoy each others company. I am aware that conflicts can and will arise, but how the couple resolves the issues is how the relationships will be defined.
B4 I end, I will say this. Marriage is an institution created by the creator of he universe. It was for the union of 1 man and 1 woman to become 1 unit. The man was the head of the arrangement and the woman is to be his support system to help him achieve the family goals. This is never easy considering you have two different imperfect people coming under 1 roof, but when both are on the same page, it can work well. The ironic thing eye find now men not being good family heads and women who want to tell the man how the relationship is going to go (its cool to voice your opinion, but re-read the roles, if he ain't right for you, move on then with your bad single self!).
Hey, hopefully u will find your own answers to the question “Why do people get married?”
I am Ward...
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