I find a new trend on the dating scene. It seems that people
are coming up with strategies for getting the one you want to commit to you. I
am sure that everyone does not want to get married but I do believe that many
daters want to be involved in a relationship that mirrors a marriage. (They
want the person to be faithful to them, spend time with them, make memories
with them and claim them as someone that plays an important part of their
lives). I will focus on the female’s perspective in this entry because that is
on my mind today.
It is no secret that females tend to lead with their emotional
thinking, especially when it comes to dating with the expectation of marriage.
This does not always work for several reasons- such as men and women think different
on many issues (not better or worse, just unique) and without clear open honest
communication, problems with wait for them. Also, because women often react by
what a man does vs. what the man says. If the guys say I just want to be
friends but has sex with you, he still just wants to be friends unless he says
otherwise. Women think I gave my soul to him so he will change his mind or he
will sooner or later……. Notice what he said vs what he did!
I feel it would beneficial for women who are dating (not
letting the man find them but being the hunter) should focus on a few of these
things…. Inquire about how your potential man feels about commitment, marriage,
fatherhood, responsibility, ambition, finances and other important issues that
affect couples who are in this long term.
I say this because looking at these aspects of his thinking and actions
will show you if he is someone you could really end up marrying and being as
happy as you can. Heck, men use this type of logic when dating all the time.
Why do you think so many men say they just want to be friends with you and not
want to date you?
Women who don’t do these steps should realize that making
instant judgements about wanting to be with a man based on how good he made
them feel on those first couple of dates or time spend together was the
bomb.com, would see drastic improvements in their dating life! It’s not an easy
thing to change a pattern of bad activity choices, especially if you have been doing
it for a while. The old saying about the definition of insanity is …….
Repeating the same action repeatedly expecting a different result is insane.
Example, if you keep touch the light switch and you get shocked each time, don’t
you think it would be a good ideal to stop touch it? It is the same with
relationships. Don’t waste 9-10 years with someone who told and showed you that
you aren’t the 1!
My point is this. Someone will always want you, but you/we must
be smart enough to know our own self-worth first! Sometimes you should pass on
the current situation to get the best situation. Love is God’s greatest quality
and it never hurts so why settle for less from a man? Do the things that a good
man would want from a woman, I suggest reading Proverbs Chapter 31 as a good
start.
I am WarD……
