Men have feelings too!

I often hear quotes like "Happy wife-Happy life or I have to ask the Mrs. or my wife is always nagging me. I understand that no relationship is perfect because no human is perfect. I do have issues with situations resulting in men afraid of their women or getting abused by them. Yes, women hurt innocent men with their words of anger and retribution. But you wonder what can "SHE" do to make him feel better about things. I suggest the following 6 things things below. Women, write jot these down in your notes section on your iPhones and refer to them often. You can thank uncle Wardy later!

A good relationship is like a game of chess, the queen should always protect her king.

A man’s most precious jewel is the woman who walks by his side always.

Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love 4 men.

It’s a man’s job to respect women, but it’s a women’s job to give him something to respect#.

You can’t be a Queen without treating your man like a Kang!

Love is a combination of Respect, Friendship, Understanding, Communication and Companionship.

Without respect, love is meaningless. It must always come in package.

You are my life, I cannot imagine my life without you.

No matter the situation, I’ll stay by your side.

A King can’t be a King, without the strength of his Queen.

Respect a man, he will do it the more.

Look at the man not as he is but how you wish him to be and be hold the realm of possibilities of bliss that await...                                                 I am WarD...

The enigma of marriage is similar to have a new born in the house......

Marriage is a wonderful arrangement that has it participants changing their perspectives, while marriage itself remains a monolithical catalyst. I have often wondered why do people really want to be married, especially if they have money. (When you have to worry about loosing your coins to the love of your life in a messy divorce, the prenuptial conversation rears its ugly head). But that is quite another story for another post!

I am amazed at how many marriages fail (over half of first marriages and it gets worse for 2nd and 3rd marriages). I do not believe that people get married to someone they do not have genuine feelings for, do they? I hope they at least like something about the other person or at least you should think they do. The reality is that people often change who they are, or how they view things - once every 7 years until they become who they are! Similar to a college student changing his or her major a couple of times before locking down that lifetime commitment.  The couples who marry young tend to marry an ideal or dream but end up marrying their harsh realities. Nevertheless, I don't blame the partners as much as I blame society, for assisting the demise of marriage.

Think of marriage as a 3 year old toddler who we want to let go outside. But 40-50 years ago we had legal, social, and moral fences that kept that little sucka in the backyard! Gradually we removed the fences little by little. Still to this day we still have the audacity to to be shocked when we look up and find the kid has left the backyard!!!! Of course that sucka gone.......all the barriers we had in place as boundaries are gone  2, like a thief in the night. I mean we haven't done anything to replace the barriers that were some sort of protection, so it was bound to happen.

O.k. the pseudo fence is no longer the answer, so we need to engage in real time parenting if you will. So that means we have to keep the child busy doing something productive to keep him from wandering off to something shiny or loud! In other words, couples have to start working on the their marriage the very second they jump the broom. Couples have to put procedures into place to deal with the realties of love and the issues of 2020 (we know how crazy this year has been so far). You basically have to always be aware that you have a new marriage to nature and grow.  It  is like that baby who needs round the clock attention to keep him happy, occupied and safe! Yes, it takes work but its worth the investment.

We live in a fast food driven society because we do not want to wait for anything. We want it hot and now! We don't care if it has negative effects like diabetes, heart disease or unhealthy, just give it to me how I think it should be. Well wisdom is vindicated by its results my friends. When couples first start dating their brains realize chemical that work like drugs. They can only see the things they like about the person. His/her smile or great figure or ability to tell funny jokes etc. We tend to over look that fact that he/she has 3 roommates because they are terrible with money or don't have car because of three DUI's. We don't have them heart to heart conversations until divorce court.

As a survivor of divorce, I have realized that couples have to do their home work before the marriage or problems will magnify after you say I do! Do you realize that many couples spend more than a year planning a freaking wedding? They pick out the colors, dresses, people in the wedding, what flavor of cake, the venue and who will officiate the ceremony. Ironically, couples forget to talk to their partner about how they grew up (trust me that child hood affects adult life), how they feel about discipline kids and spending money. Ironic I tell ya, Ironic!!

A few free tips people: 1) Talk to an experienced elder about your plans 2) Write down a budget and what items you want as a couple 3). Get a credit report and review together and ask all the question you need to feel comfortable and 4) Talk to other family member about each other view and thoughts of your future suppose. This list could go on and on but you would have to take my class to get all the tea-lol!
I am WarD......

Looking thru the lens of someone else.........

Today I just felt like posting random pics. Enjoy.

I am WarD......

Women always have a string of complaints against their male partners & especially their husbands on a range of things, from his kids to forgetting the day they first drank water together. Sure, men are borderline idiotic at times, but women can and really do get on our last good nerves.

For women who want to know which of their habits qualify as annoying, here’s a list:

1. Her habit of asking his opinion on how she looks every time she wears a new dress or while going out with him on a date. Us poor men are caught in a trap because no matter what we say, she’s not going to believe it.
2. Her habit of constantly talking and especially telling him too much about her friends, their secrets, their partners and what great couples they are. Men find this annoying because we don’t have anything to do with these secrets about her friends. We also know they talk about us to them. If a dog will bring a bone, he surely will take a bone when he leaves.....
 3. Men usually hate it when a woman refuses to give any suggestion even when asked for one, such as for ordering food or picking a tv show to watch but don’t hesitate to criticize us if something isn't right, and quick to say " I was gonna say that", but somehow never did say it until after the fact!
4. It’s very annoying when women stay quiet and deny anything’s wrong when they’re upset. They somehow expect the men to read their minds and understand what the reason behind their bad mood is. I called this passive aggressive behaviors.
5. No one likes to be compared to their partner’s ex. But women usually do this, especially when they’re excited or upset about a similar situation they may have encountered in their previous relationship. I don't think they are always aware that they even do this but it slips out sometimes.
6. Women tend to be or act suspicious about their partner’s actions. It could be for something as simple as a night out with friends or a lunch with a female colleague, but they can't tell when the janitor at work is hitting on them. Its really a form of a double standard at its worst!!!!
7. Having kids from a previous relationship is very hard when the woman is insecure or jealous of the past. A man who loves his kids won't feel you love him if you reject his kids. Even God feels that way about Jesus....
8. Women can't answer yes or no questions with a yes or no response. No need to expound.
9. If a man doesn't feel respected by his woman, why does he need her on his team. Life can disrespect him daily and he doesn't have to take care of it when it is sick. Women will get all up in a dudes face but won't say nothing to her boss at work for treating her like crap (SMH)...

*Shout to all the women who know their roles and have a happy life and loving relationships.
I am WarD....

Just shut up and let her be right.................said no man!

    I recalled some of the silly arguments that people have told me about. I personally don't think couples should ever have to argue with each other. I mean how many times do employees argue with their bosses? And for those who do fight with their bosses.......well we all know how well that turns out. Call me old school, but I believe that good old communication seasoned with love can go a lot further than using that mouth piece for bad. They say if you want to go fast--Go alone but if you want to go further--take others with you.
     Read some of the fights below and think how fortunate you are that this ain't you!

• "I basically had a temper tantrum because I burned grilled cheese sandwiches and he was trying to give me advice and be helpful. I slammed the spatula down and told him that he could do it himself and went to my room to pout!" - Beth H.
•  "Married one month, together 22 years and still fighting over who gets to pee first when we wake up together. Tried going together but too messy." - Ron F. 
•  "Who was going to get back out of bed to turn the light off. We are both stubborn so we slept all night with the light on." - Raechelle A.
•  "When I was pregnant I cried because he made tater tots for dinner and I didn't like them. Fought about it for two days." - Stephanie H.
•  "How to spend hypothetical lottery winnings." - Shannon G.
•   "One day he came home from work and I was already asleep. He went to cuddle me facing each other. I told him he was stealing my air and went to turn over. Lo and behold, we had a fight about cuddling." - Bek P.
•  "On our honeymoon we had this big discussion about whether or not penguins laid eggs. This was before smartphones and I was thinking, 'Omg, this idiot won't agree with me.'" - Karri R.
•  "What to watch on Netflix. Nightly argument." - Tess H.
•   "We argued about something that we both agreed on because we both couldn't understand each other's sentences." - Shonda W.*

 "Coat check tickets. My husband could not find them at the end of snowy night at a night club. I asked him if they were in his jeans pocket. He snapped 'Of course, I already checked there!' We took separate cabs and arrived at our home at the same time, me shivering without my coat, Paul with my coat in his hands. 'Where were the tickets?' I asked. Yep, they were in his jeans pocket." - Kierra .

Love is something that is hard to find and easy to loose, yet millions get married and divorced yearly. Just image how life would be if we all learned how to effectively communicate and know our roles in relationships.
I am WarD........

The future of the past.......

Remembering our last kiss

Pillow soft against my lips

The memory so elusive

Fading away like mist

 

The flutter of my heart beat

Underneath my collarbone

Anticipation a must

Your brown eyes shone

The moonlight caught our whispers

In the air

we softly moaned

Beneath your gentle touch

It always felt like home

 

My last kiss will last forever

Deeply treasured in my heart

I think of it whenever

I lay alone in the dark

 

-Monica Simone / Author esq

Buyer Beware of the Flim Flam Scam Man

I don't know where to start with this entry but let us just begin anyway. Recently, I was in the market for a different car (something with no car payments) that I could drive during the winter months. My plan included flipping the SUV during tax time. Well, looking at Craigslist I found a car that met my needs. I attempted to reach the seller several times with no luck. I asked my daughter to leave a message just to see and within 4 minutes, the seller responded back to her. I thought that was odd to respond to her so quickly and not my 12 attempts, but I later found out that he only sales to college students and women. Apparently, I was trying to reach this guy thru offer-up(he had the suv on several sights), which shows your photo.
Nevertheless, I corresponded to the seller from my daughters account for two days. We discussed the ins and outs of the vehicle and he assured me that the unit was road worthy and absolutely issue free. I was ready to buy and agreed to travel to Cincinnati from Indianapolis to make the purchase. Ironically, half way there, I received a text message that we have to reschedule the exchange because the car was stalling out but he could have the needed part repaired in two days. I was definitely upset that he waited until I was one hour into this drive and he sensed it. He actually agreed to meet me half way on the next trip.
I agreed and told him that I would bring someone with me (Shonda) and he was ok with that. So car seller (lets just call him Chet) finally met and Shonda and me, half way between Indianapolis and Cincinnati and he spoke strictly to her as if I wasn't there. I won't go into detail about why he was an hour and 20 minutes late. The first thing he said to us was, I only sale to college students and women because those are the people who really need a good quality car. So we walked to the SUV and quickly noticed the SUV was nothing like the ad mentioned. The tires were smoother than a baby birds backside, the strong odor of cigarette smoke almost knocked me out. He had ashes all over the dash and floor! He said the sunroof doesn't open but can be fixed for cheap. Next he said the back up camera was damaged but nobody really needs that anyway. And what about the truck being clean inside and out? He had so many bottles in the truck area (oil containers, empty anti-freeze jugs, old brakes, McDonald bags, dog food and much more. It was actually quite gross and he stood by his statement that the SUV was clean. I looked under the hood and and smelled rotten egg like smells mixed with burning motor oil. This was something very bad and also the reason he was so late arriving for the meeting. The SUV was over heating and he was trying to play me but I peeped game real quick and knew they was a no go, but I played along for GP. Chet went on to have an solution for every problem that I mentioned as he was more irritated that a man was talking to him instead of an unsuspecting woman college student. He just wanted to make this money and move on.
I feel the icing on the cake occurred when he said he didn't have the title but we should just pay him and he will get the title to us after he pays the guy off that he owes money!!!! I was like oh hecky knoll. We decided it wasn't a good fit and explained that we were about to Be OUT like Harriet Tubman was at the window! Chet said he understood and we left.
No sooner than we were down the street, Chet texted a 14 page message talking about how we wasted his #$@& time and how we was picky over damaged or non working features. He was pretty nasty with his language. It really helped me to see how anyone can place an add for something to sale and hope you are a sucker. I image that this guy has been getting over on people for years and was so upset when it didn't go well with us. I think if he had a gun he would robbed me.
Its the world that we live in. Another day another sucka.
*Update= I purchased another black Murano from a guy in town. It needed a little work and has been running great.
I am WarD..........